Seeking help and advice on situation

Ines

Sin
Yes, she used to be here some years ago.
Currently I maintain her updated.

Vanessa

If she planned/wanted to do it,yes.

If only to avoid the chastity belt,I don't think so.

The first reason,I'm not sure.It would prevent her to have sex and to wear some clothes,but,except this,not sure it would affect how independent she is.It would depend on how she would react to wearing it,too.

The second is not a problem,it could fit well or be adjusted.

The third one is understandable,and right,it would be totally prevented,and it can be hard to not be able to do it anymore;especially if she's used to it.

The fourth one is logical too,it could be hard for her to wear it after she laugh about your decision so often(but it would not last long after she starts to wear it).

Angelina I'm a little worried that there's still something to come.

Me too.

Angelina She probably doesn't want to give you or your mother the "satisfaction", for example. 😉

Possible too,yes.

Ines

If caught doing it,would there be consequences,or only told to stop and reminded it is not allowed in their house?

Ines

Any chance she come back?

a_father Why was it bought anyway?

To have one ready if she wanted to wear it.As long as she's not forced to wear it,I don't consider it is a problem if they bought it.It is their money,they can decide to spend it on chastity belts,even if it can be wasted in this case.

Angelina

a_father Not my opinion.... I had a dispute with @Ines mother.

I noticed that, although I still don't understand why, because....

a_father And @Ines younger sister refuses wearing the belt her mother bought for her. And, that is fine in my opinion.

...@Ines and @Tere never said it wasn't OK. they accept that she doesn't wear the belt. they might like it better if she did, but they accept it.

a_father

Angelina For one thing, children want to please their parents. Therefore, buying a belt already creates pressure by itself. @Ines sister always made it clear that she would not wear the belt. Why was it bought anyway? Asking this her mother she reacted in an angry way. But I think the question was justified. When you take part in a forum, there can be uncomfortable questions, too.
If her mother had never bought this sex toy, @Ines would not be wearing a chastity belt now. Everything very unusual. 'Oh look, I bought a chastity belt for me to spice up the sexuality with my husband. Hey daughters, don't you like to wear a chastity belt and live in absolut chastity, because masturbation is bad...'
But we had the same discussion a long time ago and I wasn't alone with my opinion. It ended 'not good'. So we should stop. It is as it is, but the younger sister is not rebellious but just normal. This is the reason why I usually don't address @Ines in discussions directly. I don't want to criticize @Ines because at some point she is old enough to recognize the lack of logic in the game herself.
Only her sister has nothing to do with any of this and deserves her carefree youth. Time won't come back. You can walk around wearing a chastity belt to please your morher or you can live your life and keep your sexuality for yourself.

Angelina

a_father

frankly, i don't really understand your problem. when parents buy a belt, it can also be a preparatory act. in @Ine's family, everything is voluntary, but if the sister changes her mind, the belt is already there. you sometimes create problems where there are none.

Vanessa To have one ready if she wanted to wear it.As long as she's not forced to wear it,I don't consider it is a problem if they bought it.It is their money,they can decide to spend it on chastity belts,even if it can be wasted in this case.

I agree thank you

Ines

Vanessa If caught doing it,would there be consequences,or only told to stop and reminded it is not allowed in their house?

It would be a very improbable situation, and very embarrassing, so probably my parents will turn a blind eye. I think that even she should not do it, it is so intimate that we can not do so much about it..

Vanessa Any chance she come back?

Maybe, she ask me usually about the forum, but she is less used to "internet environment" than me, so, sometimes she was not comfortable with some stories and behaviors.

Ines

Vanessa clothes,but,except this,not sure it would affect how independent she is

Well, truly we are dependent on our keyholders for a lot of things, I think she does not like it so much.

Vanessa The second is not a problem,it could fit well or be adjusted.

Yes, but, since the belt was in home, and she was not very slim... I can understand her in this aspect. I do not like so much my belt after Christmas...

Angelina i hope you understand the comparison

Yes, it is accurate, I think.

Vanessa

Ines It would be a very improbable situation, and very embarrassing, so probably my parents will turn a blind eye. I think that even she should not do it, it is so intimate that we can not do so much about it..

Very embarrassing,sure!

Good it would have not much consequences,however.

Ines Maybe, she ask me usually about the forum, but she is less used to "internet environment" than me, so, sometimes she was not comfortable with some stories and behaviors.

Understandable.

Let's hope she come back soon,anyway,her posts were interesting.

Ines truly we are dependent on our keyholders for a lot of things

Right,I haven't thought it this way.

Ines Yes, but, since the belt was in home, and she was not very slim... I can understand her in this aspect. I do not like so much my belt after Christmas...

Sometimes,it needs time to fit well again,sure,but it usually don't last long.

a_father

Angelina frankly, i don't really understand your problem. when parents buy a belt, it can also be a preparatory act. in @Ine's family, everything is voluntary, but if the sister changes her mind, the belt is already there. you sometimes create problems where there are none.

A belt is very expensive. You don't buy one if you don't expect it will be worn. We don't talk about a cheap shirt...
But my problem is, that @Ines talks about her 'rebellious' sister. But with her sister everything is fine. Here you can see how family members think about her sister

Angelina

Ines Yes, but, since the belt was in home, and she was not very slim... I can understand her in this aspect. I do not like so much my belt after Christmas...

your sister is younger than you, right? then she probably gained some weight during puberty. it may be that the belt no longer fits her anyway.

and yes christmas is a bad time for chastity belts 🤣

Ines

Angelina your sister is younger than you, right? then she probably gained some weight during puberty

Well she was a bit lazy about sports, fortunately I could change it a bit.
Now she is perfect!

Vanessa Right,I haven't thought it this way.

Yes, and I think she does not want change it.

Vanessa Sometimes,it needs time to fit well again,sure,but it usually don't last long.

Gap is very narrow, and she took some weight in short time, for sure it was very tight.

Ines

Vanessa Good it would have not much consequences,however.

They can not exist... What can a family about it? Further disappointment, there is not much more options.
It is not a good habit for a girl, but...

Vanessa

Ines

Unfortunately,my parents think there is options,even if we would agree that these are not good options(punishment,unwillingly use of a chastity belt...).🙁

But we would never agree about if it is a good habit or not!😉

Ines I think she does not want change it.

Understandable.

Ines Gap is very narrow, and she took some weight in short time, for sure it was very tight.

Don't you think she would care more about keeping the same weight most of time is she wears one,to keep it comfortable?

Angelina secondly, rebellious is not a swear word, only within the family she is the rebel. 😉

I agree,in french too,it is not considered as an insult,only a personality trait.

Angelina

a_father A belt is very expensive. You don't buy one if you don't expect it will be worn. We don't talk about a cheap shirt...
But my problem is, that @Ines talks about her 'rebellious' sister. But with her sister everything is fine. Here you can see how family members think about her sister

so first of all it depends on the financial circumstances whether a belt is expensive or not. my father does not find it expensive. secondly, rebellious is not a swear word, only within the family she is the rebel. 😉

Ines Now she is perfect!

Good 🙂

Ines

Vanessa Unfortunately,my parents think there is options,even if we would agree that these are not good options(punishment,unwillingly use of a chastity belt...).🙁

But it is only impose a piece of steel, the true meaning of wear a chastity belt is lost irretrievably, and further I do not know if maybe in homes where physical punishment is accepted, but in my home such action would rot the environment.

But we would never agree about if it is a good habit or not!😉
Yes, and you know that I know that this depends on cultural and educational environment, and I can no judge, I am used to girls that do it without any problem, but I know what I should say to my daughters.

Vanessa Don't you think she would care more about keeping the same weight most of time is she wears one,to keep it comfortable?

Yes, but firstly it should fit comfortably, and she get fat. Currently, for example, she could wear it comfortably, and it is a good way to maintain our weight.

Vanessa I agree,in french too,it is not considered as an insult,only a personality trait.

However, we are more worried about her grades, for example, that about if she wears or not a chastity belt.

Angelina

Vanessa But we would never agree about if it is a good habit or not!😉

that's not even us involuntary wearers among ourselves. i differentiate between singles and couples 😉

Vanessa agree,in french too,it is not considered as an insult,only a personality trait.

correct and sometimes even as a positive, depending on the context.

Ines However, we are more worried about her grades, for example, that about if she wears or not a chastity belt.

Do you think there is a connection between the fact that she has rather poor grades as you describe and not wearing the belt?

Vanessa

Ines But it is only impose a piece of steel, the true meaning of wear a chastity belt is lost irretrievably, and further I do not know if maybe in homes where physical punishment is accepted, but in my home such action would rot the environment.

Personally,I think there could still be a good ambiance most of the time(in my family,at least),but of course,it is not the best way to use chastity and I would prefer there is no corporal punishment(and even no punishment,cornertime,grounding,etc...are not much better,even more at 26).

Ines you know that I know that this depends on cultural and educational environment

I guess so,yes.

Ines it is a good way to maintain our weight.

Right,even if only a side-effect.

Ines However, we are more worried about her grades, for example, that about if she wears or not a chastity belt.

Logical.

Angelina that's not even us involuntary wearers among ourselves. i differentiate between singles and couples 😉

I know!😉

And we would never agree about it too!😉

Ines No, wearing a belt does not have relationship with marks.

Not directly,yes.

But,if we try to concentrate on other things,and if one of these is studies,it may have some impact.But a probably low impact.

My parents think a bit otherwise,my twin had to wear his chastity cage for some time when he had several bad grades in a row,to make him concentrate more on studying...

Ines

Angelina

Angelina Do you think there is a connection between the fact that she has rather poor grades as you describe and not wearing the belt?

Well, My sister and me always achieved very high marks, her marks are not a catastrophe, but are pretty lower than ours.
No, wearing a belt does not have relationship with marks.

Angelina

Ines No, wearing a belt does not have relationship with marks.

i think so too, i only asked because there are different opinions on this here

Angelina

Vanessa And we would never agree about it too!😉

probably not, no 😉

Vanessa my twin had to wear his chastity cage for some time when he had several bad grades in a row,to make him concentrate more on studying...

does it worked?

Vanessa

Angelina does it worked?

Yes,but I think mainly because he wanted to end this punishment as soon as possible than because he concentrated more on his studies.

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