Belt fitting

Jen I'm a bit bruised under the shield doesn't hurt today but yeah taking a break

I did not remember the same problem, I remember other!
I am happy you are going slowly. Do not hurry, and think well before close that padlock.

Jen oh no I've accidentally locked it what an I going to do oh except actually I didn't because it's like the most important thing in the world

There's "accidentally" locking your belt and finding out what chastity is actually like.
There's being very careful not to lock your belt and maintaining personal control.
And then there's the conflict between the two.

Beware! Curiosity only has to get the better of you for a moment!!

Jen oh no I've accidentally locked it what an I going to do oh except actually I didn't because it's like the most important thing in the world

in an emergency, ask your parents for the keys and if they refuse, break open the belt.

Jonas Beware! Curiosity only has to get the better of you for a moment!!

Jonas
Reminds me of this story where a woman made a secured mistake. The line of the story: "She reached down and felt the lock and wondered again what it would feel like to be locked."

Jen I'm just trying to make it comfortable for more than a few hours

There's a point where the fit is basically ok and comfort only develops with wear time as the body adapts.

Raziel "SNAP. The lock had suddenly given under her fingers without warning."

"The belt wants to be locked..."

As much as I approve of the ideal of chastity, I don't want @Jen to be freaked when all this leads her into the situation where she has to ask to be unlocked.

This is Foxies partner Angela

Jen

For the life of me I do not understand why you have the lock even near your belt. Surely it is so obvious that you would remove it, put it in a drawer (or the rubbish bin) and hold the belt by wrapping a thick strand of something like copper wire around the locking beg, or through the locking peg. With the malleable copper wire together so it holds in place. Or tape the damned thing together with duct tape of even Scotch tape. Even purchase your own lock and use that. But keeping the lock in place waiting for an accident is just ridiculous.

Or is this just leading up to a story of "Wups"?

Foxies by this point, she’s well past the “thinking about it” stage. I’m not saying she WANTS the belt, but in between the increases in wearing, the work to get it to fit, and living dangerously with the lock, it’s at least on her mind.

This is Foxies partner Angela

Saintprudence

It DOES seem like she wants the experience of being locked in by someone to the point where she cannot just asked to be unlocked. But it also seems that the last person(s) she wants to be controlled by is a parent. It does seem strange though that she can't just buy a lock, click it shut and mail the keys to herself so she loses control but just for a few days - which is a common story plot line.

Jen, if you read this, I am sorry if I sound harsh. But there are vulnerable youngsters here that you are influencing. Please be careful.

Jen Actually I like this I checked bunnings has copper picture hanging wire. The peg has a groove for the lock so yeah wire could be good.

A zip tie and a side cutter would also be an option. You get it at Bunnings.

Jen if you want to stay a virgin, which is quite laudable, you can just not have sex. A belt is a pretty extreme way to approach that, let alone parental control when you’re an adult. (Indeed, if you outsource protection of your virginity to a device rather than willpower, it makes you all the more vulnerable if the device fails.)

I sometimes get the impression you’re feeling guilty about the earlier promise you made, but a promise made under duress is not a real promise. I’d urge you to let go of any concern you have there.

Jen but staying virgin is what i want

If you want this try it with willpower as Saintprudence sad.
If you think you will not reject every possible opportunity and you like the belt go for it. It is your live and your decision. No one shall judge you for it because you informed yourself, tested the belt, you know of the drawbacks and you decided on a good base.

Jen i want like what Ines has - there I said it everyone gonna say don't now. But like it's not guilt or church - but staying virgin is what i want

@Ines seems very content and self-assured with her choice to wear a belt so I think you've chosen a very good role model if this is your aim.

I increasingly see my own belt as the physical expression of the strength of my personal choice to abstain. I know what I'm like so it makes sense to install a few physical as well as mental road blocks.

In regard to parental involvement, others on here manage. Maybe as adults our parents become more akin to highly trusted friends anyway.

Jen I’m sorry. I’ll try to dial back a bit myself. We’re all intense opinionated people here, but you’re correct. The only thing that matters now is that you are happy and comfortable with what you do next, even if it’s just random exploration. If there’s any way we can support you on your terms, just let us know.