I'm making progress I've had it on for 20 minutes now and it's bloody frustrating i think I'm crazy thinking I could wear this long term. And the cable in my butt is really awkward. And it's all -like not what I imagined- like stuff I said about saving myself for my partner, I dunno it seems more like a sex toy.

Ines I believe that length of crotch piece is now well measured and it is so long, and probably the cable too. If it is well fitted it avoids you can move up the belt when waist is well tight around your hips.

Shield and cable both too long. But I think it was mum had the belt higher on my hips when measuring. With the whole chastity belt pushed up as high as it can go, and with the bending, I can do the waist band tighter and it's secure now.

      Jen the cable in my butt is really awkward.

      It's not like regular panties, but you will get used to it.

          Jen And it's all -like not what I imagined- like stuff I said about saving myself for my partner, I dunno it seems more like a sex toy.

          Glad you see it that way.

              Jen it's bloody frustrating i think I'm crazy thinking I could wear this long term. And the cable in my butt is really awkward. And it's all -like not what I imagined- like stuff I said about saving myself for my partner, I dunno it seems more like a sex toy.

              Sounds like you're cured of the idea. Good that you refused wearing it. Now you have made your own picture without any pressure.

                Jen And it's all -like not what I imagined- like stuff I said about saving myself for my partner, I dunno it seems more like a sex toy.

                if you don't like it, you shouldn't wear the belt. it should be what you expected. of course it's difficult at the beginning, you shouldn't give up yet and give yourself enough time, maybe you'll like it better then.

                but as i said, if you still think that way in a few weeks, i would advise you not to wear the belt.

                    Jen And it's all -like not what I imagined- like stuff I said about saving myself for my partner, I dunno it seems more like a sex toy.

                    Jen Shield and cable both too long. But I think it was mum had the belt higher on my hips when measuring. With the whole chastity belt pushed up as high as it can go, and with the bending, I can do the waist band tighter and it's secure now.

                    For me it sounds the whole try is an failure because the belt does not fit. I would stop and give it back your parents.

                    If you later still think it is worth to do it to saving yourself for you partner and you can't manage it without a belt get you own one. But I believe it is possible without if it really important for you.

                          Joh For me it sounds the whole try is an failure because the belt does not fit. I would stop and give it back your parents.

                          I agree with you in principle, but in the beginning it can also be more of a feeling and the belt doesn't feel so uncomfortable after a while (at least that's how it was for me). I agree with you, but I would wait a little longer before making that judgement.

                              Angelina In my opinion it's not @Jen's thing. @Angelina, please forgive me, but I think most girls here have a submissive part in their heart. If you don't have this, you can't stand the belt at all. It feels just 'not okay'.
                              For example my daughter would call the authorities. I'm absolutely sure. You need a dominant and a submissive part (at least a little bit). Otherwise it will never work. @Ines for example, wrote some time ago, she may give her keys to her husband and would continue wearing the belt.
                              In my case there is neither a dominant nor a submissive part. So a chastity belt will never find a way into our family.

                                  Angelina

                                  Sure.

                                  Jen I'm making progress I've had it on for 20 minutes now and it's bloody frustrating i think I'm crazy thinking I could wear this long term. And the cable in my butt is really awkward.

                                  Not surprising,it is very hard at the start.

                                  Not very easy after either,but you could manage it better.

                                  Jen And it's all -like not what I imagined- like stuff I said about saving myself for my partner, I dunno it seems more like a sex toy.

                                  It would mainly depends how you consider it,I think.

                                  Your idea about "saving yourself" for your partner is pretty romantic,but hard to do.

                                  Jen With the whole chastity belt pushed up as high as it can go, and with the bending, I can do the waist band tighter and it's secure now.

                                  So you managed to make it fit better,now?

                                  Tobbe

                                  I think so,too.

                                  Sin

                                  I thought at you when she talked about chastity belt as a sex-toy!😉

                                  Angelina

                                  I agree.

                                  She should decide what she prefers,but wearing it 20 minutes(and lock open)is not enough to take a good decision.

                                  Joh it is possible without if it really important for you.

                                  Possible,but hard;she would need a lot of willpower.

                                                    Vanessa Possible,but hard;she would need a lot of willpower.

                                                    I don't see a problem. If she really want it she can do it. The question is: does she really want?

                                                        a_father but I think most girls here have a submissive part in their heart. If you don't have this, you can't stand the belt at all. It feels just 'not okay'.

                                                        so i only have two parts in me. one wants a good relationship with my father and the other is my own opportunism, i like to take the path of least resistance. that might be more selfish but definitely not submissive

                                                        Vanessa She should decide what she prefers,but wearing it 20 minutes(and lock open)is not enough to take a good decision.

                                                        right, so I recommend waiting a little longer and then deciding.

                                                            Jen I dunno it seems more like a sex toy.

                                                            That's because it is for most users 😀

                                                            Jen Shield and cable both too long.

                                                            I believe I have the same belt, so perhaps I can share some advice 🙂

                                                            If my waist band is too loose, the whole belt drops a bit and it feels as you describe. Assuming you have a few holes for size adjustment, tighten the belt until everything is snug.

                                                            It'll have pressure points at first. Wear it for awhile, take it off, and bend it to add a little space on each pressure point. Repeat the process, and it'll fit comfortably. It took me a couple weeks to get everything bent correctly, and I still need to adjust it every once in awhile.

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                                                                  gwen If my waist band is too loose, the whole belt drops a bit and it feels as you describe. Assuming you have a few holes for size adjustment, tighten the belt until everything is snug.

                                                                  Yes i worked that out I need to wear it where it fits not where I want it to sit.

                                                                      Jen How do those places differ? Does it fit in a way that you didn't expect?

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                                                                          Joh

                                                                          It is not very easy...

                                                                          Jen

                                                                          Good you managed it(and without help).

                                                                                Vanessa It is not very easy...

                                                                                I didn't say it is easy but manageable.

                                                                                    gwen was trying to wear it lower

                                                                                    Vanessa Good you managed it(and without help).

                                                                                    getting there... bends easy enough sorting out where to bend is hard

                                                                                          I'm quite surprised you're putting so much effort into tuning the fit. Has your end goal changed?

                                                                                          Jen was trying to wear it lower

                                                                                          If the front shield and cable hang down below, it will need to be tightened so that it sits a bit higher, otherwise it'll chafe terribly.

                                                                                          Jen getting there... bends easy enough sorting out where to bend is hard

                                                                                          Wear it for some time and move around. Remove it. If you see a red spot, bend a bit more curvature into the band on both sides, that will reduce the pressure on that spot.