Jen it's bloody frustrating i think I'm crazy thinking I could wear this long term. And the cable in my butt is really awkward. And it's all -like not what I imagined- like stuff I said about saving myself for my partner, I dunno it seems more like a sex toy.
Sounds like you're cured of the idea. Good that you refused wearing it. Now you have made your own picture without any pressure.
Jen And it's all -like not what I imagined- like stuff I said about saving myself for my partner, I dunno it seems more like a sex toy.
if you don't like it, you shouldn't wear the belt. it should be what you expected. of course it's difficult at the beginning, you shouldn't give up yet and give yourself enough time, maybe you'll like it better then.
but as i said, if you still think that way in a few weeks, i would advise you not to wear the belt.
Jen And it's all -like not what I imagined- like stuff I said about saving myself for my partner, I dunno it seems more like a sex toy.
Jen Shield and cable both too long. But I think it was mum had the belt higher on my hips when measuring. With the whole chastity belt pushed up as high as it can go, and with the bending, I can do the waist band tighter and it's secure now.
For me it sounds the whole try is an failure because the belt does not fit. I would stop and give it back your parents.
If you later still think it is worth to do it to saving yourself for you partner and you can't manage it without a belt get you own one. But I believe it is possible without if it really important for you.
Joh For me it sounds the whole try is an failure because the belt does not fit. I would stop and give it back your parents.
I agree with you in principle, but in the beginning it can also be more of a feeling and the belt doesn't feel so uncomfortable after a while (at least that's how it was for me). I agree with you, but I would wait a little longer before making that judgement.
Angelina In my opinion it's not @Jen's thing. @Angelina, please forgive me, but I think most girls here have a submissive part in their heart. If you don't have this, you can't stand the belt at all. It feels just 'not okay'.
For example my daughter would call the authorities. I'm absolutely sure. You need a dominant and a submissive part (at least a little bit). Otherwise it will never work. @Ines for example, wrote some time ago, she may give her keys to her husband and would continue wearing the belt.
In my case there is neither a dominant nor a submissive part. So a chastity belt will never find a way into our family.
Sure.
Jen I'm making progress I've had it on for 20 minutes now and it's bloody frustrating i think I'm crazy thinking I could wear this long term. And the cable in my butt is really awkward.
Not surprising,it is very hard at the start.
Not very easy after either,but you could manage it better.
Jen And it's all -like not what I imagined- like stuff I said about saving myself for my partner, I dunno it seems more like a sex toy.
It would mainly depends how you consider it,I think.
Your idea about "saving yourself" for your partner is pretty romantic,but hard to do.
Jen With the whole chastity belt pushed up as high as it can go, and with the bending, I can do the waist band tighter and it's secure now.
So you managed to make it fit better,now?
I think so,too.
I thought at you when she talked about chastity belt as a sex-toy!
I agree.
She should decide what she prefers,but wearing it 20 minutes(and lock open)is not enough to take a good decision.
Joh it is possible without if it really important for you.
Possible,but hard;she would need a lot of willpower.
a_father but I think most girls here have a submissive part in their heart. If you don't have this, you can't stand the belt at all. It feels just 'not okay'.
so i only have two parts in me. one wants a good relationship with my father and the other is my own opportunism, i like to take the path of least resistance. that might be more selfish but definitely not submissive
Vanessa She should decide what she prefers,but wearing it 20 minutes(and lock open)is not enough to take a good decision.
right, so I recommend waiting a little longer and then deciding.
Jen I dunno it seems more like a sex toy.
That's because it is for most users 
Jen Shield and cable both too long.
I believe I have the same belt, so perhaps I can share some advice 
If my waist band is too loose, the whole belt drops a bit and it feels as you describe. Assuming you have a few holes for size adjustment, tighten the belt until everything is snug.
It'll have pressure points at first. Wear it for awhile, take it off, and bend it to add a little space on each pressure point. Repeat the process, and it'll fit comfortably. It took me a couple weeks to get everything bent correctly, and I still need to adjust it every once in awhile.
I'm quite surprised you're putting so much effort into tuning the fit. Has your end goal changed?
Jen was trying to wear it lower
If the front shield and cable hang down below, it will need to be tightened so that it sits a bit higher, otherwise it'll chafe terribly.
Jen getting there... bends easy enough sorting out where to bend is hard
Wear it for some time and move around. Remove it. If you see a red spot, bend a bit more curvature into the band on both sides, that will reduce the pressure on that spot.
