gwen Part of your challenge seems to be that you confound gender identity and sexual identity.
Yes, I have the problem to understand the difference.
I also not sure do I have to? If I accept you as a person as you are why must I know if you are one or another?
OK. We have the classification o male and female. But if we differentiate we see their a many colours in this two types. Do we start a long discussion every time to find out exactly what type one is and give it a special name? I don't need that to be frank.
So I have a little bit of a problem with describing gender and sexuality because I don't see why everyone needs to know that. It distracts from the real issues. I admit it can sometimes be helpful to know the exact terms and differences when talking about sexuality, but then it's just a class you more or less fit into. If I want to know exactly, you have to talk about it in detail anyway.