Behaviour change through long term chastity?

Alma05

Alma05 I hope once it's on, it'll reduce my desire eventually.

For what it's worth I have worn a CB for just over seven years and I can say categorically it has not reduced my desire one iota. Rather the opposite. By its very presence you can feel something there that is beyond (mostly - ) your reach. This leads to a frustration which for me isn't always unpleasant.

But be aware, I wear it out of choice. In other words I have gifted my sex to my partner in the strongest way I could fathom. In return, my partner does not let me suffer. She is very much aware of my needs, understands how frustrating the belt can be and take steps to make sure I am happy. This has a knock-on effect about her own needs which ultimately leads to more pleasure between us.

But that is not the rule on this forum. Girls (and guys) are being kept chaste in a manner that is beyond their control. That control is usually maintained irrespective of the wearers needs and feelings. Even so, some wear willingly, but others wear very much against their will which they tolerate for other reasons. However, I imagine most wearers will agree with me that wearing a chastity device will not reduce your desires - and may well make them stronger.

Just sayin ...

Foxies
My "problem" right now is that I spend so much time alone, and each time the desire crosses my mind, nothing stops me from relieving it. Even while watching online classes bc I have no mic/cam recording me. My mother caught me in this situation and she went mad.

So I think maybe wearing it would prevent me from doing it out of boredom because it won't be that easy as just put the hand down and rub. I thought as time passes it would reduce my desire to do it, it's gonna be hard if it actually increases it.

Alma05 I'm disabled (dependent on a wheelchair), so sports are out of the equation.

I don’t know what your exact situation is and I’m not asking, but there are wheelchair sports?

Sorry to hear she feels that way though.

Alma05 So I think maybe wearing it would prevent me from doing it out of boredom because it won't be that easy as just put the hand down and rub. I thought as time passes it would reduce my desire to do it, it's gonna be hard if it actually increases it.

I definitely can empathise with that, I also kinda default to that sort of "easy entertainment" when bored, and it played a role in my own chastity experimentation. Now, our experiences cannot be 100% compared because I am male, and I have not been practicing it for too long, but I am pretty sure that locking up has not decreased my time spent on things that turn me on at all - though I feel it had increased the excitement that comes with it.

Max9 might rather be due to the conversations, nit due to the belt

that's why the emojis, it's more through the back door on the belt

Alma05 So I think maybe wearing it would prevent me from doing it out of boredom because it won't be that easy as just put the hand down and rub. I thought as time passes it would reduce my desire to do it, it's gonna be hard if it actually increases it.

of course it's true that with the belt you don't, or rather can't, do these things anymore, but you'll find that it causes you great frustration, it's a weighing of what's more important.

Alma05 I'm disabled (dependent on a wheelchair), so sports are out of the equation.

Alma05 She doesn't realize my condition turns off boys hahaha. Moreover, she doesn't realize I'm not even interested in them...

that makes me a little sad, it should be self-evident that people with disabilities can also do sports (there are also the paralympics) and if someone really loves you then it will be secondary for him and he will adapt to your situation.

In my case it made me more horny and have more sexual thoughts but i try to avoid them.

Max9 but would she be having those conversations without the belt?

lucy Same with me I'm just horny all the time. My grades have gone back up but definitely more horny and desperate for release.

Alma05 Would you like to do sport?

Joh
Not really I have enough with the physiotherapist sessions twice a week.

Alma05 Just to be clear, I'm gonna try my best to not cheat, though everyone here is basically telling me I won't be capable haha

i have not managed to cheat after 2 1/2 years, if the belt is good, it is unfortunately also very safe

Alma05 I'd prefer a her/she but I get the point Thanks

you are a lesbian? then welcome to the club, i am bisexual but together with a girl and well, the chastity belt is also like a kind of handicap and also my girlfriend could adapt to it.

gwen In general, it increases my desire sharply. However, we did one longer experiment of about 6 weeks and my desire did start to drop off again towards the end.

that's exactly what i experienced too, at the beginning the desire gets bigger, but at some point it gets a little better (of course never really good)

Angelina you are a lesbian? then welcome to the club

Thanks Reading the forum I discovered there were some non-straight users, so I'm thankful I'm not the freak and that I don't have to hide that side of me. On the other hand, I've never actually dated anyone yet irl, so I don't know if I can be considered a "lesbian" yet haha. Though I know for sure I'm only attracted to women.

Alma05 Though I know for sure I'm only attracted to women.

then of course you are a lesbian, but you know what we have a high rate of non-heterosexuals here and so far it has always been true that it doesn't matter what sexual orientation someone has i was just asking so that i wouldn't get into "boy stories" with you

Alma05 Reading the forum I discovered there were some non-straight users, so I'm thankful I'm not the freak and that I don't have to hide that side of me.

Angelina but you know what we have a high rate of non-heterosexuals here

At first I thought if you did one mainstream thing (wear a chastity device), you are also more likely to do another, but then I remembered not everyone here became a wearer of their own choice. So maybe it is just the unrelieved arousal that makes people realize how complex their sexuality really is.

Angelina

At least,he could take it as a proof he was right.

And no way to prove he's wrong...

Max9

Of course.

Alma05 Did wearing a cb help any of you to reduce your needs of self pleasuring?

No,it's only very frustrating...

And we tend to think more about sex when wearing one...

Alma05 I found myself doing it even more. I keep telling myself that I'm just enjoying it for the last time in IDK how much time...

You're not the only one her who did it.

@Sara2001 mentioned it,if I remember well.

Alma05 But my mom is even more worried with that because she thinks I'm gonna get pregnant or something like that.

Maybe you should talk with her and suggest taking the pill,if pregnancy if her main concern...

Angelina if someone really loves you then it will be secondary for him and he will adapt to your situation.

I agree.

Alma05 I hope I can get over it.

Probably not,but we tend to manage it better,after some time.

Alma05 if cheating would be even possible

If a secure one,no.

Alma05 I'd prefer a her/she

lucy

Classical.

Do you manage well to avoid these?

Christopher17 My grades have gone back up

You think your chastity cage had an impact on it?

Angelina if the belt is good, it is unfortunately also very safe

Right.

Angelina then welcome to the club

Welcome!

Alma05 Though I know for sure I'm only attracted to women.

Even if not dating,in this case,I think you can be considered as a lesbian,yes.

In my case,I'm bisexual and have a girlfriend.

youdontknowme

I doubt chastity impact our sexual orientation.

In my case,I was bisexual before starting to wear it.

Vanessa I doubt chastity impact our sexual orientation.

In my case,I was bisexual before starting to wear it.

I was not thinking so much in terms of completely changing it, but many people have some latent bisexuality that they might be far more willing to explore if they do not spend all their arousal getting off to fantasies of their preferred sex.