Such law sounds really dystopian thing, I believe that chastity device usage should only be based on mutual consent between wearer and keyholder. As a trans though, if I had choice either I won't have to wear chastity belt but have to live in wrong body vs having to wear a chastity belt but can live as a woman, I would rather choose latter, since I know I won't go past 30s in wrong body... I rather live as belted woman than a person in wrong body with mind crippled with dysphoria that led me almost wanted to end my life. (Thanks to my partner who saved me from ending my life... she's the reason why I'm staying alive now, trying to strive for better.)
Chastity belt law
Angelina not everyone makes the promise to god (i won't) and for me marriage doesn't mean love until death, but the promise to try everything to make the marriage last until the end of life, but no one should be unhappily married.
Just saw this and it struck a cord. Angela and I are not married - at least in the eyes of the law. When we first got together it wasn't an option anyway. Marriage and even civil unions were not yet a "thing". Instead we lived together (in sin? ). At first it was just convenient (she nursed me back to health). Then we became aware that by living together we made each other happy. Both of us realised that while it wasn't always roses, on balance we made each others lives better and grew "comfortable" in our relationship. It always made more sense to stay together and work out what differences we had, than to split up. In essence we became "married" in the truest sense of the word.
While we have never formally promised to stay married until death us do part, long ago we realised that that is what we both want. Our goal ultimately is to make each other happy and by doing so increase our own happiness. It works for us and these days we actually both wear rings signifying our unity.
Angela has indeed looked after me in sickness and in health and I would always do the same for her. It doesn't matter that we occasionally get cranky and annoyed with each other, we have long since learned that what ever our differences are, together we can always sort things out and restore life to the wonderful feeling of being together.
Believe me, it has nothing to do with chastity or sex. They merely add to the spice of life, increase the fun, and humor. My "equipment" while real and very much a part of my life, is merely an adjunct to our relationship, albeit providing a sense of being bound together which is important, but only because it is consensual on both our parts.
(Sorry if this was off topic - but Angelina's comment triggered my commenting urge )
HHelen Would you approve a chastity belt in this case?
of course, i would go even further and shoot myself rather than marry someone i don't love, marriage is too important for me.
admire your strength and i totally agree with you, however, the difference is that it is not a legal requirement to wear a belt. you should decide the way you can best accept yourself
Foxies (Sorry if this was off topic - but Angelina's comment triggered my commenting urge
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i always enjoy reading your comments because they are very harmoniously written and yes i agree with you. of course no one is forced to get married and even a partnership without marriage can mean love until the end of life. but for me marriage means a promise, a promise that i am determined to share my life with camryn.
Renita And not tell friends
Of course.
Angelina it is worse than chastity
I agree.
HHelen Different status.
But she would be able to find someone else to marry,which make her happier,even if it means a "lower" status for a while.
HHelen Would you approve a chastity belt in this case?
If the only possibilities are an unhappy marriage or a chastity belt?
The chastity belt,in my case.
It is very romantic.
And a good way to consider how you live together,even if not wed.
I like you wear rings like wedding ones,too.
Angelina i always enjoy reading your comments
Me too.
Foxies We just chose to make the promises personal and private,
that is also perfectly ok, but i must also point out again that at least in our country there are also legal things that ensure that we make this promise as a marriage promise.
Rina That's why I said it would be very dystopian thing.
I agree with you, even though I don't think it's impossible
Vanessa If the only possibilities are an unhappy marriage or a chastity belt?
The chastity belt,in my case.
I agree even if it is a hard decision
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Laura Have your friends seen your belt?
No, they don't know about it.
Vanessa But she would be able to find someone else to marry,which make her happier,even if it means a "lower" status for a while.
She doesn't need to be divorce for looking. She can divorce right before a next marriage.
Vanessa If the only possibilities are an unhappy marriage or a chastity belt?
No, I meant a chastity belt being unhappily married.
Rina Such law sounds really dystopian thing
Not for my mother.
HHelen She doesn't need to be divorce for looking. She can divorce right before a next marriage.
i don't know how it is in other countries. in germany, according to the law, you have to have been separated for one year before you can get divorced. with a bit of luck, that should be enough to find a new partner. but i think the separation should take place before looking for a new partner, otherwise it would be very dishonest.
Angelina but i think the separation should take place before looking for a new partner
You should take your time to get over the divorce and and put yourself and your life in order. Find out what you like and not like, what is important and what you expect from a new relationship. Otherwise it could be you start with the wrong one again.
i agree, but i wrote this under the condition of a chastity belt law
Laura Should she wear a chastity belt during the separation in this dystopia?
difficult. i would say no because she is still officially married and if she changes her mind again she ahould could have sex with her husband at any time.
I would say any world where chastity devices are mandatory for the unmarried would be running on the principle of no sexual relief outside of "marriage duties". Which would mean a chastity belt would be customary, if not required, for spouses in the process of separation. Of course with the soon-to-be-former spouse having the ability to remove the belt if the marriage is resumed before the divorce.
Angelina I don't think it's impossible
But very very very unlikely.
Angelina if it is a hard decision
Sure.
HHelen She doesn't need to be divorce for looking. She can divorce right before a next marriage.
Yes,but she may want to never be unfaithful,and so divorce first.
Angelina in germany, according to the law, you have to have been separated for one year before you can get divorced.
Even if the two partners agree to divorce?
Probably.
I agree.
maybe no belt during the separation, but as soon as she has sex with another man, she has to wear the belt again (difficult to control)?
Vanessa But very very very unlikely.
unless I found the CBP (chastity belt party)
Vanessa Even if the two partners agree to divorce?
yes, because marriage is something important. the partners should think about whether they really want a divorce during this one year.