Sara2001 I don't think so, because there is no room for a disagreement. The rules are strict but very clear.
yes, in a way you are right, on the other hand i have experienced with the rules i have at home with my father that the rules where we are the most apart (my equipment is one of them) have the most potential for conflict. the harder the rules the more heated the discussions.
but it is probably very difficult to compare
Joh Clear rules and punishment must not go hand in hand. It is also possible to set strict rules and you follow them because you like it that way.
I follow my rules because I like it. But liking them 99% of the time is something else then liking them 100% of the time and in the other 1%, I love that I have to follow them, even if I don't like to follow it from time to time.
Angelina but it is probably very difficult to compare
I think it's very different. It's consensual and I can talk about my rules every week.
Sara2001 I follow my rules because I like it. But liking them 99% of the time is something else then liking them 100% of the time and in the other 1%, I love that I have to follow them, even if I don't like to follow it from time to time.
Your answer makes sense but didn't imply punishment as necessary action.
I don't like the punishment itself, but I love that I know that I will be punished when I don't take care of my role and rules. Punishments are nothing he loves to give me or that he enjoys applying to me. He loves when I am submissive to him and punishments are not more then a necessary tool to support this.
can it be that sometimes the distance between the non-compliant behaviour and the type of punishment is too high? i mean that maybe more thought needs to be given to whether the "punishment" is directly related to the bad behaviour?
then it would no longer even have to be called punishment but help
Sara2001 I don't like the punishment itself, b
If you would like it it would not make sense that you get it. 
Sara2001 He loves when I am submissive to him and punishments are not more then a necessary tool to support this.
So it like similar for you like for @ZeynepFox . She sees it as education help.
Joh So it like similar for you like for @ZeynepFox . She sees it as education help
I see it kind of similar. It definitely helps me to behave better the next time and at the end it are his rules but our goals.
Avery It's not the same thing, of course, but I enjoy it much more when he enjoys giving it to me, when that opportunity arises.
We don't see giving punishments as an opportunity but as a necessary part of our relationship and a helpful tool. Hr definitely prefers when I behaved instead of he needs to punish me. When he punishes me, he likes it a lot when I don't fight against it. It's very important for his feelings that I thank him after the punishment and tell him that I am happy that he is helping me. This can't be a phrase but I have to honestly feel it.
Sara2001 We don't see giving punishments as an opportunity but as a necessary part of our relationship and a helpful tool.
Agreed, I just used the word opportunity because I don't usually behave badly.
Sara2001 When he punishes me, he likes it a lot when I don't fight against it.
I fight some. I don't really enjoy it fully unless I shed at least a few tears.
Sara2001 It's very important for his feelings that I thank him after the punishment and tell him that I am happy that he is helping me.
Thanking him is an important part of continuing the dynamic and admitting I deserve whatever he did to me but some aftercare for me is important too.
Avery I fight some. I don't really enjoy it fully unless I shed at least a few tears.
Yes, I agree. A punishment from Daniel is almost useless when it doesn't touch me emotionally.
Avery Thanking him is an important part of continuing the dynamic and admitting I deserve whatever he did to me but some aftercare for me is important too.
Aftercare is extremely mandatory, thanking him is just one aspect of the aftercare. Cuddling and things like that is extremely important for me. I also need to hear and to feel that with the punishment anything that was maybe between us is solved now.
Sara2001 punishment ...... is almost useless when it doesn't touch me emotionally.
The physical pain is usually minor, it's the mental distress, the waiting for it, the (temporary) withdrawal of approval and love that hurts most and does the most good.
Sara2001 I also need to hear and to feel that with the punishment anything that was maybe between us is solved now.
And I need to say that I will try to do better.
Sara2001 It's very important for his feelings that I thank him after the punishment and tell him that I am happy that he is helping me. This can't be a phrase but I have to honestly feel it.
can you do this honestly? i find it a bit difficult because of course you can mean it in a way that you respect his authority, but to focus it on individual punishments/rules i find it difficult.
Angelina can you do this honestly? i find it a bit difficult because of course you can mean it in a way that you respect his authority, but to focus it on individual punishments/rules i find it difficult.
Yes, if a punishment is done correctly, I feel truly thankful. I know it's not easy for him and needs a lot of consistency from him. Because of this I am truly thankful no matter how much I hate the punishment result itself.
Angelina So you're grateful that he's playing by the rules too, even if it means it's painful for you and emotionally difficult for him?
Yes, absolutely. It's important for me to know that we both want this lifestyle. If I would only punish me for misbehaviour when he is in the right mood, it would feel like it's just a funny game for him.
It is his job to ensure absolute perfect consistency. If he set a rule for me, he MUST ensure, that I follow this rule at all times and under any circumstances. No matter how he is feeling today. Of course except if one of us is seriously ill and this rule would impact getting healthy again.
His role is not easy, too.
After the wedding, I told my wife about my preference for chastity belts. For me, it is a proof of love and a sign of loyalty to my wife (like a wedding ring). But it was only after the birth of our last daughter (2 years ago) that she started keeping me locked up regularly. The locking times are getting longer and longer.
cool that this survey was highlighted, so i could correct my answer 
