Max9 that's true, but therefore you can think with your pearl.
nice that you call it my pearl, i like that 
Vanessa Like a better meal,a nicely decorated house for a romantic time...
that's what I mean, so it's probably going to be difficult for @Sara2001 at some point.
somehow i have the feeling that this is a contradiction in terms. the strict rules only increase the potential for conflict, don't they?
Sara2001 I think whoever says that she or he is absolutely loving and adoring his life in chastity without missing anything is lying.
No there are many wives like me who like everything about it. You could argue that our husbands are more giving and go by what we both want rather than set rules.
Biblically when people marry they are to be as one... So as couple say "we're remodeling, we are moving to a town, we are pregnant" etcetera
Sara2001 You mixed a lot. This never happened. Nobody ever talked about a number of orgasms during a family dinner
I thought so Daniels sister was told be her husband that she would be having fewer orgasms. I forget the amount you said but it was very few for a happy marriage and so she cried. I remember THAT because it felt like a punch to the gut ... 
Megan No there are many wives like me who like everything about it. You could argue that our husbands are more giving and go by what we both want rather than set rules.
How much time do you have out - like non sexual time just doing stuff it doesn't work with?
Megan I forget the amount you said but it was very few for a happy marriage and so she cried. I remember THAT because it felt like a punch to the gut ...
Yeah I remember too it seemed like it was just to be cruel
Angelina somehow i have the feeling that this is a contradiction in terms. the strict rules only increase the potential for conflict, don't they?
I don't think so, because there is no room for a disagreement. The rules are strict but very clear.
Megan No there are many wives like me who like everything about it. You could argue that our husbands are more giving and go by what we both want rather than set rules.
But I want him to set these rules for me. It's just that I don't love any of my rules 24/7. Sometimes I think how great it would feel to be able to have an orgasm and in this moments I definitely don't love my chastity belt.
Sara2001 But I want him to set these rules for me. It's just that I don't love any of my rules 24/7. Sometimes I think how great it would feel to be able to have an orgasm and in this moments I definitely don't love my chastity belt.
Clear rules and punishment must not go hand in hand. It is also possible to set strict rules and you follow them because you like it that way.
Megan I thought so Daniels sister was told be her husband that she would be having fewer orgasms. I forget the amount you said but it was very few for a happy marriage and so she cried. I remember THAT because it felt like a punch to the gut ...
Sara2001 During dinner the husband of Daniel's sister offered her her new orgasm amount. She started to beg for staying with the old amount. In Daniels family doing this in front of others this counts as backtalking, it also counted as unsolicited talking. She and her husband left the dinner table to give her a good spanking. 20 minutes later he came back while she came back round about one hour later after her corner time. I felt very sorry for her, but I also have to say that she knows the rules and that she should have known better how to behave.
Sara2001 I don't think so, because there is no room for a disagreement. The rules are strict but very clear.
yes, in a way you are right, on the other hand i have experienced with the rules i have at home with my father that the rules where we are the most apart (my equipment is one of them) have the most potential for conflict. the harder the rules the more heated the discussions.
but it is probably very difficult to compare
Joh Clear rules and punishment must not go hand in hand. It is also possible to set strict rules and you follow them because you like it that way.
I follow my rules because I like it. But liking them 99% of the time is something else then liking them 100% of the time and in the other 1%, I love that I have to follow them, even if I don't like to follow it from time to time.
Angelina but it is probably very difficult to compare
I think it's very different. It's consensual and I can talk about my rules every week.
Sara2001 I follow my rules because I like it. But liking them 99% of the time is something else then liking them 100% of the time and in the other 1%, I love that I have to follow them, even if I don't like to follow it from time to time.
Your answer makes sense but didn't imply punishment as necessary action.
I don't like the punishment itself, but I love that I know that I will be punished when I don't take care of my role and rules. Punishments are nothing he loves to give me or that he enjoys applying to me. He loves when I am submissive to him and punishments are not more then a necessary tool to support this.
can it be that sometimes the distance between the non-compliant behaviour and the type of punishment is too high? i mean that maybe more thought needs to be given to whether the "punishment" is directly related to the bad behaviour?
then it would no longer even have to be called punishment but help
Sara2001 I don't like the punishment itself, b
If you would like it it would not make sense that you get it. 
Sara2001 He loves when I am submissive to him and punishments are not more then a necessary tool to support this.
So it like similar for you like for @ZeynepFox . She sees it as education help.
Joh So it like similar for you like for @ZeynepFox . She sees it as education help
I see it kind of similar. It definitely helps me to behave better the next time and at the end it are his rules but our goals.
Avery It's not the same thing, of course, but I enjoy it much more when he enjoys giving it to me, when that opportunity arises.
We don't see giving punishments as an opportunity but as a necessary part of our relationship and a helpful tool. Hr definitely prefers when I behaved instead of he needs to punish me. When he punishes me, he likes it a lot when I don't fight against it. It's very important for his feelings that I thank him after the punishment and tell him that I am happy that he is helping me. This can't be a phrase but I have to honestly feel it.
Sara2001 We don't see giving punishments as an opportunity but as a necessary part of our relationship and a helpful tool.
Agreed, I just used the word opportunity because I don't usually behave badly.
Sara2001 When he punishes me, he likes it a lot when I don't fight against it.
I fight some. I don't really enjoy it fully unless I shed at least a few tears.
Sara2001 It's very important for his feelings that I thank him after the punishment and tell him that I am happy that he is helping me.
Thanking him is an important part of continuing the dynamic and admitting I deserve whatever he did to me but some aftercare for me is important too.
Avery I fight some. I don't really enjoy it fully unless I shed at least a few tears.
Yes, I agree. A punishment from Daniel is almost useless when it doesn't touch me emotionally.
Avery Thanking him is an important part of continuing the dynamic and admitting I deserve whatever he did to me but some aftercare for me is important too.
Aftercare is extremely mandatory, thanking him is just one aspect of the aftercare. Cuddling and things like that is extremely important for me. I also need to hear and to feel that with the punishment anything that was maybe between us is solved now.
Sara2001 punishment ...... is almost useless when it doesn't touch me emotionally.
The physical pain is usually minor, it's the mental distress, the waiting for it, the (temporary) withdrawal of approval and love that hurts most and does the most good.
Sara2001 I also need to hear and to feel that with the punishment anything that was maybe between us is solved now.
And I need to say that I will try to do better.
Sara2001 It's very important for his feelings that I thank him after the punishment and tell him that I am happy that he is helping me. This can't be a phrase but I have to honestly feel it.
can you do this honestly? i find it a bit difficult because of course you can mean it in a way that you respect his authority, but to focus it on individual punishments/rules i find it difficult.
