i'm almost jealous because it all sounds so well planned. you've managed to sort out pretty much everything without any major conflicts. i like planning too, but that's really impressive, but apparently also necessary for the kind of relationship you have. 
sorry but at this point I agree with @Sara2001, for me BDSM is a game in the bedroom but not a real lifestyle.
BDSM is not a simple sex game. It can be a serious kind of relationship and it must not be disregarded as a play thing or a simple sexual act.
It can be also a relationship with different roles and behaviors.
Yes, there are people who do it as a simple sexual act which ends, but there are people who live it with the same commitment that people here invest in chastity.
Angelina
I am a fan of calling a spade a spade and not covering it up.
If you like it, what's the problem?
Who has the right to judge whether what you are doing is right or wrong when you can say for yourself it feels right?
The different names/abbreviations should help us only to understand what it means. Nothing more nothing less.
LoonyMel BDSM is not a simple sex game. It can be a serious kind of relationship and it must not be disregarded as a play thing or a simple sexual act.
I thought it's called D/s or DD or TiH or TPE or something like this when it goes beyond sex play and become a 24/7 thing.
LoonyMel why stigmatize BDSM lifestyle so much?
I don't want to stigmatize this lifestyle, I just think/thought that when it becomes a 24/7 thing, it's more then BDSM. We would never even think about calling our relationship a BDSM relationship, but if anyone wants to call her/his lifestyle BDSM, that's perfectly fine for me, but I have no idea how the dynamic is working by this name. That's why from my experience other names are used like the names I mentioned above.
I think an important aspect is the question if pain is directly used to make it more sexy or to enforce the rules.
Sara2001 D/s is a subset of BDSM, the part that deals more with hierarchy than with tying up or pain. The other terms you mentioned are pretty much ways in which a D/s relationship may work.
LoonyMel 3) why stigmatize BDSM lifestyle so much?
i don't, i just doubt it's a lifestyle. if it is, it's like @Sara2001, a male-led or in other cases female-led relationship. a sub/top relationship.
Joh The different names/abbreviations should help us only to understand what it means. Nothing more nothing less.
i admit that i am sometimes a bit small-minded, but i, for example, would imagine a BDSM relationship that involves one partner being led on a dog leash by the other partner all day long, even in public. that is certainly wrong, but i would associate it with that.
Sara2001 I just think/thought that when it becomes a 24/7 thing, it's more then BDSM
I agree with you, I think so too
Angelina i admit that i am sometimes a bit small-minded, but i, for example, would imagine a BDSM relationship that involves one partner being led on a dog leash by the other partner all day long, even in public. that is certainly wrong, but i would associate it with that.
As I said, it is only a description. A suitable example would be:
Class: Car
Including subclass: sports car, station car, bus, truck.
It is only a description to differentiate it and not to rank it.
Abby82 But how would this get damaged?
i don't know exactly (but i keep thinking about how i can make it look like an accident). frankly, i would have thought earlier because a girl's body changes a lot during puberty. that's why i ask again about your starting age? didn't your body change too much until 17?
