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youdontknowme But "different culture" only excuses so much
Completely agree, but saying rotten things about her future husband, and I realize YOU didn't post what I objected to, because he follows the culture he grew up in is not productive, I don't think.
Avery I think it can be seen as a side effect of the discussion getting rather heated. Personally, I feel like not letting the newlyweds breed like rabbits while there are still family functions to attend is one of the mildest values dissonances in this topic, compared to stuff like regular hymen inspections and a cultural norm of female submission, both of which I find highly objectionable if not based on freely-given consent. To point out that feels like the straw that broke the camel's back after it had been loaded with boulders already.
youdontknowme compared to stuff like regular hymen inspections and a cultural norm of female submission, both of which I find highly objectionable
Yup.
Angelina that would be interesting, but does it only apply to muslims (I'm just asking out of curiosity)?
Don't give parents such a crazy idea.
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Avery Wake up, this is a completely different culture. We have at least one person here that is over 30 and has been locked up by parents for more than ten years. Do you want to editorialize on that? I'll bet they have a happy life.
Yes, it is another culture. Nevertheless if you do something do it right.
From @ZeynepFox posting her future husband will lead their relation including sometime spanking for her for her development.
They live in Germany and they respect and following the German law.
As an adult you make your own decision and nobody has the right to do so for you without your consent.
If, as a young adult, you are aware that you do not know everything and that you also have less experience, this shows maturity. Therefore, when it comes to important questions, it is good to get opinions and advice from others who know more or have more experience. One way is to ask your parents. In the end, however, you decide for yourself and stand by it.
If her mother-in-law insist to have the key at her wedding and to keep it against his will than he shows he is not the leader of his own family. Apart from that, it is against the law to use $240 StGB (coercion).
If he agrees than his mother should ask herself what she did wrong with her education of her son that he is not able to fulfil his duty or can't handle his wife.
Laura It's probably forbidden
I don't know, I guess I could have it done if I really wanted to, but there is no medical necessity from my point of view.
Christine Don't give parents such a crazy idea.
i didn't do that. it's more about when, for example, german women want to have a "virginity certificate", in my opinion the parents are left out.
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Angelina but after the wedding, no one but the two of you will be interested
Both could be interested if explained the advantage.
Angelina sex life is something very special and intimate
That's exactly the reason, and they should wait at least until night.
Laura But in this particular case his mother requires it, that means she doesn't trust him
No, it's because her parents are irresponsible. She will have to present that certificate right before marriage as a proof she didn't sleep with him yet. Otherwise it would be the shame for both families and other negative consequences.
Joh Another way is she doesn't trust her or she will be sure nothing can happen like rape.
Not rape, but seduction.