HHelen She shouldn't live with a guy without marriage

Even if she wears a belt?

    Kaja You live in medieval ages.

    Can you elaborate, please?

    Renita Even if she wears a belt?

    It doesn't make sense.

      Renita
      In my opinion it does not matter, the question is not about if she wears a chastity belt, but about they are not married.

        Angelina both partners in a relationship usually want to have sex

        They do, but should behave differently.

        HHelen It doesn't make sense.

        It guarantees no sex.

        Ines but about they are not married.

        What's a difference?

        Angelina why doesn't that make sense? I do not quite understand

        I can't live with a guy without sex.

          Well, I am going to delete post about politics here, first, my post.

          HHelen I can't live with a guy without sex.

          You can if you consistently wear a chastity belt. 😉

            Joh Or he is gay.

            haha, I hadn't thought of that at all, but you're right 😉

            HHelen I can't live with a guy without sex.

            Why not? Why can't you control yourself? Have you spoken to a doctor or therapist about this?

            Men have a right to feel safe too!

              Angelina You can if you consistently wear a chastity belt

              I don't support this idea.

              Joh Or he is gay

              Even worse.

              Sin Why can't you control yourself?

              I can, but I wouldn't live together with guy.

                HHelen Even worse.

                Why? You can be sure he has no sexual interest. All his reaction is caused from the situation not from any sexual demand.

                HHelen but I wouldn't live together with guy.

                Than live with a women.

                  HHelen I can, but I wouldn't live together with guy.

                  if you can control yourself or wear a belt there is no need to worry. i think it is much harder when you marry someone you don't know if you can harmonise in everyday life and you usually only find out when you live with him. many relationships have failed because of this and a marriage should be worth being sure beforehand.

                  Joh You can be sure he has no sexual interest

                  You can't be sure.

                  Joh Than live with a women.

                  I don't need it either.

                    HHelen I don't need it either.

                    don't you think it's a risk to marry someone you don't know in everyday life?

                      @Angelina
                      Some people would agree that living together would help you better if marrying them is right. Some people have rushed into relationships and divorced within months or a few short years, because the love died out so quickly. (Also because they had the song "Photograph" by Ed Sheeran play in their playlist at the wedding. There was a woman on the radio who came up with the theory that the song is cursed to give divorces, because of her 7 friends, all had the song Photograph in common.)
                      HER: "Did you play the song 'Photograph' at your wedding?"
                      NEWLYWEDS: "Yes, we did."
                      HER: "You're getting a divorce!"

                      My take on answering this post though: Watch a movie together, and when you see a belt, ask how the other thinks about it. It would give you the idea of their take on the device.

                        HHelen They do, but it's not normal.

                        The definition of normal is "the majority of people do it this way". If most people do it in a certain way, this is the norm, the standard. Anything else is an exception, a minority.

                        Angelina i would be careful with that. in germany a large majority were nazis once and that is definitely not normal

                        But even if it was wrong, it was normal at these times. Norms are changing over time. This is normal, too.

                        Laura Such opinion is not too rare. My parents think the same

                        I think something that is not rare doesn't mean it is the standard. But I agree that things can be normal, even if just a minority does it. I think something is normal when it is accepted by the majority of the people. Like gay relationships. They are definitely normal, too.

                          It's something that I don't really know how to say, I have a friend who is studying abroad, and I don't know how to tell him that so that I don't behave like a slut I wear a belt.
                          It's weird even writing it.

                            Raquel that I don't behave like a slut I wear a belt.

                            If you don't behave like a slut, because you wear a belt, than it's right and logical.
                            If you wear a belt, because you behaved like a slut, it sounds worse.