Right time to tell a man you wear chastity belt

HHelen They do, but it's not normal.

of course it's normal. living with someone is different from meeting only a few times a week. many couples want to test this before the wedding.

HHelen If you live with him already, why should you marry him at all?

because a wedding is a promise of love, a move is not

Joh In this case when 90% of the couples live together before they marriage it is normal.

i would be careful with that. in germany a large majority were nazis once and that is definitely not normal. i would say normal is a problematic word. everyone should have their own opinion and i let @HHelen have her opinion too, i just don't share it.

The question is who defines the norms. For example, in Germany, there was a time when sex crimes were legally considered "crimes against public morality", and providing a shared bed to unmarried couples was against the law. Now, the same crimes are considered "crimes against sexual self-determination", and most things that involve consenting partners have been made legal. So if the law has changed, that is pretty strong evidence that the agreed-upon standards of what is acceptable also have.

Ines Maybe it's a language nuance, but in Spanish we have a subtle difference between "frequent" and "normal".
Sometimes they are synonyms, but they have the subtle difference that "normal" also implies "acceptability" or "convenience" of that action.
Living together without being married may be "frequent" but I don't think that's "normal" either.

With this detail explanation how you see it I can understand your view. I do not agree but I can accept it.

Angelina i would be careful with that. in germany a large majority were nazis once and that is definitely not normal.

As sadly as it is it was normal at this time. Fortunately, this is no longer the case, although we have too many of them in Germany again.

Angelina everyone should have their own opinion and i let @HHelen have her opinion too, i just don't share it.

I have no problem with other opinion if it stated as their opinion and not as a general fact.

youdontknowme Now, the same crimes are considered "crimes against sexual self-determination", and most things that involve consenting partners have been made legal.

The important part is "consenting partners" we should have this in mind when we talk about sexual self-determination.

youdontknowme So if the law has changed, that is pretty strong evidence that the agreed-upon standards of what is acceptable also have.

I agree.

Joh Fortunately, this is no longer the case, although we have too many of them in Germany again.

Hang on, a good number of my friends are nazis.

Zero. The best number of nazis to have in your circle of friends.

youdontknowme I agree. Zero is the best.
Nobody of my friends are nazis.

Joh With this detail explanation how you see it I can understand your view. I do not agree but I can accept it.

I used translator!

Ines he has said that she does not see it as normal for a couple to live together before getting married.

Such opinion is not too rare. My parents think the same

HHelen She shouldn't live with a guy without marriage

Even if she wears a belt?

Kaja You live in medieval ages.

Can you elaborate, please?

Renita Even if she wears a belt?

It doesn't make sense.

Angelina both partners in a relationship usually want to have sex

They do, but should behave differently.

HHelen It doesn't make sense.

It guarantees no sex.

Ines but about they are not married.

What's a difference?

Angelina why doesn't that make sense? I do not quite understand

I can't live with a guy without sex.

Well, I am going to delete post about politics here, first, my post.

HHelen I can't live with a guy without sex.

You can if you consistently wear a chastity belt.

Angelina You can if you consistently wear a chastity belt.

Or he is gay.

Joh Or he is gay.

haha, I hadn't thought of that at all, but you're right

HHelen I can't live with a guy without sex.

Why not? Why can't you control yourself? Have you spoken to a doctor or therapist about this?

Men have a right to feel safe too!