Right time to tell a man you wear chastity belt
Angelina and he would leave not because of the belt but because of lack of trust.
Men's logic. Coz that was him who tried to move forward with sex.
Laura They promised a belt until marriage
that's true, but how should this be implemented in practice? i'll give you an example. i would move with my girlfriend into a flat 500 kilometres away from my father. i don't see any way that belt-wearing would still work.
Renita Yes, I do. And I think, that a girl should keep it in secret as long as possible.
but only as long as there is no danger of him discovering it by accident. then he could have the feeling that you were not honest and that the relationship is not important to you.
Christine Men's logic. Coz that was him who tried to move forward with sex.
this is not men's logic. at a certain point, both partners in a relationship usually want to have sex, and at the latest (really at the latest) at this point the woman should say it honestly.
So ... how would you girls react when a man who you're dating tells you that he likes being belted? How would you like to be told that?
i would want him to tell me at least when we are talking about a real relationship. he should tell me why he likes it and who has the keys.
Laura She shouldn't move to another city
but that is not always possible. there is not always a suitable flat in your hometown.
Renita I don't think so.
then we will not agree at that point. write when it is so far with you and how he reacted when he discovered it by chance and without warning beforehand from you.
Max9 So ... how would you girls react when a man who you're dating tells you that he likes being belted? How would you like to be told that?
Yuk - like its unfair but that's what I think. But like it all depends I mean if it's just sort term play that's one thing but I don't think I'd accept of it was long term or he had a keyholder. I guess if he has those thought he should tell me when I tell him.
Kaja And do you see problem in honor killing?
I'm against violence.
Angelina over 90% of all couples live together before the wedding, this is completely normal.
They do, but it's not normal.
Angelina So you would marry a man with whom you have not lived before?
If you live with him already, why should you marry him at all?
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Kaja
Please, even you are right in a lot of statements, you have you have to reduce your aggressiveness.
I can understand that certain topics may have a more vehement response, but, in this case, she has said that she does not see it as normal for a couple to live together before getting married.
You can not answer that by labeling the person as not normal.
What he has said is not an aberration, you can refute it, of course, but his opinion is perfectly respectable.
Joh
Maybe it's a language nuance, but in Spanish we have a subtle difference between "frequent" and "normal".
Sometimes they are synonyms, but they have the subtle difference that "normal" also implies "acceptability" or "convenience" of that action.
Living together without being married may be "frequent" but I don't think that's "normal" either.
HHelen They do, but it's not normal.
of course it's normal. living with someone is different from meeting only a few times a week. many couples want to test this before the wedding.
HHelen If you live with him already, why should you marry him at all?
because a wedding is a promise of love, a move is not
Joh In this case when 90% of the couples live together before they marriage it is normal.
i would be careful with that. in germany a large majority were nazis once and that is definitely not normal. i would say normal is a problematic word. everyone should have their own opinion and i let @HHelen have her opinion too, i just don't share it.