sun I concur. I don't feel entirely comfortable talking about these topics, either. My discussions here regarding thigh bands are purely functional. Even then, the things I said on here might be perceived as "s*xual" by a Chinese woman.

    sun
    Would you say your relationship is of a kind where she wants major decisions, even the ones affecting several aspects of her personal life, to be made by you?

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      Tenn__Man Even then, the things I said on here might be perceived as "s*xual" by a Chinese woman.

      that's no wonder, this forum consists mostly of sexual topics or rather how sexuality is prevented 😂

      Tenn__Man
      Yes,the smallest city in Anhui province.But I don't think women born in small city can accept it easily,many of them are very conservative.

      Owl
      Basically,that's correct.She asked me to make more and more decisions after marriage.

        sun She asked me to make more and more decisions after marriage.

        so as long as she doesn't contradict you are welcome to do it.

          Angelina as a person with a lot of submissive tendencies, I can confirm that when someone like me asks you to make the decisions, they really mean it. It probably bugs his wife more to hear him pester her about the belt than it does for her to wear it.

            Saintprudence It probably bugs his wife more to hear him pester her about the belt than it does for her to wear it.

            that would at least explain why there are so few open discussions about it. probably she thinks "now finally decide and take responsibility".

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            sun
            My opinion: If you can wholeheartedly say that making past decisions for both of you were generally OK for both of you, as well, then take that position of her seriously. Speaking from experience.

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            Jen
            What you have written seems very recognizable to me, and I myself had written similar things about my experiences.
            I accept that they are not something especially comfortable, but I have even gone for ice cream with them.
            To be at home or to sleep, no girl needs more movement than thighbands allow.
            Sometimes I think there is a lot of drama in the world of chastity belts, and I am convinced that there is because there are many people with negative feelings.

              Ines Sometimes I think there is a lot of drama in the world of chastity belts, and I am convinced that there is because there are many people with negative feelings.

              As much as I currently evangelize the belt and have come to understand the anti-masturbation POV, I can still very much understand why those unfortunate enough to be thighbanded at night would resent their situation. It feels like you are a bit less of a person to be denied freedom of movement others possess simply to minimize the chance of self-pleasure. There are keyholders who consider the comfort of their charge to be a sacrifice they are willing to make!

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                Saintprudence

                It is evident that the keyholders who abuse are the main causes of this perspective of the girls.
                I understand why I wear them sometimes and it really doesn't seem like anything terrible to me either.
                It is just like I ask to open my belt for a shower if I need to, and I do not think it is a crime either.
                On the other hand, if you do not like wearing the belt, everything that makes it a little more effective seems like a world.

                  Ines It is evident that the keyholders who abuse are the main causes of this perspective of the girls.

                  From many perspectives, the belt itself is abusive, so I’m not surprised at this response from anyone who didn’t discover the belt themselves. Even a convinced wearer at some point didn’t want it.

                  Ines On the other hand, if you do not like wearing the belt, everything that makes it a little more effective seems like a world.

                  True. If I had been invited to wear a belt in college, I would have reluctantly accepted, but thighbands would have caused great resentment and frustration.

                  Ines Sometimes I think there is a lot of drama in the world of chastity belts, and I am convinced that there is because there are many people with negative feelings.

                  Thighbands were easier than I thought - yeah I could cope at home at night. But the feeling of control is just something else - like the belt is just about blocking access - but the bands are controlling how you move.

                    Jen Yeah. The belt is surprisingly easy to live with in everyday life. Bands send the clear message at all times that your feelings are not as important as stopping even a minuscule chance at forbidden sensations.

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                      Jen Thighbands were easier than I thought - yeah

                      hmm.. I'm not sure if the thighbands you made really have anything to do with original thighbands 😂

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                        Saintprudence Bands send the clear message at all times that your feelings are not as important as stopping even a minuscule chance at forbidden sensations.

                        Depends what your feelings are though - like ignore daytime, but nightime I think bands are more about the feeling of control than the inconvenience or even stopping sensations. And if you wear the belt for safety anyway does the extra control feel like extra safety?

                        Trying it changed my thoughts

                        Angelina the bands on my legs could bend - so if I pulled harder it stretched and I got a bit more separation. But other than that I think it was all the same - I even used the d-rings on my belt.

                          Jen

                          probably it was because you could handle it better because you could take them off whenever you wanted