Would orgasms pre- belting motivate a girl to search for a husband?

Saintprudence So perhaps the young should be counseled not to self-pleasure, but we turn a blind eye to what we can’t and shouldn’t stop. Then adulthood arrives, and it is time to put away childish things.

I agree with you, we did not think about wearing a chastity belt when our daughters were at that complicated age, but if they knew that it was something that they were prohibited from doing, nonetheless, well, what always happens when something is prohibited and is not reviewed. I'm not even going to ask them about that at this point.

Saintprudence Touching yourself with no regard for your future spouse is a childish act. But it’s hard as an adult to refrain, which is why a good girl accepts a belt to assist her willpower.

As an adult woman I must admit that only one thing has worked to contain me, even knowing that, as a woman, it was a shame. And I'm not just talking about masturbation, I'm also talking about certain pressures in certain areas even when you're dressed, jets of water on the bikini... many stimuli that many of us seek every day without the belt.

Saintprudence It’s regrettable that this means people are likely to become familiar enough with orgasms to fully know what they’re missing once the belt goes on, but I don’t see any other ethical path. I would have asked to be belted as a teen if I knew it was an option, but I also think it would have been wrong for my mother to agree.

Agree everything.

Yolanda As an adult woman I must admit that only one thing has worked to contain me, even knowing that, as a woman, it was a shame. And I'm not just talking about masturbation, I'm also talking about certain pressures in certain areas even when you're dressed, jets of water on the bikini... many stimuli that many of us seek every day without the belt.

I probably don’t experience it quite the same way as a woman born with a vagina, but it was still really weird to feel this after my transition! Everything was so much more intense and sensual in exactly the way you talk about here. My nerve endings didn’t feel things the same way when I lived as a man. Honestly, that’s a big reason I seriously adopted chastity a few years after my transition. As a man it was ironically a lot easier to control the urge. As a girl, many more things set it off that I didn’t even expect. Now I understand much better why women’s virtue has to be so closely protected. All my life I thought men had to deal with worse temptation, but when even a shower head poses a temptation as a woman, I think it’s a lot more to deal with.

a_father Women since time immemorial have sought marriage as a means to get out from under their parents' thumb. This is no different.

That said, you do bring up an important point about the ethics of this. We have to balance protecting a woman's virtue with protecting her future well-being.

Yolanda As an adult woman I must admit that only one thing has worked to contain me, even knowing that, as a woman, it was a shame. And I'm not just talking about masturbation

Yolanda I agree with you, we did not think about wearing a chastity belt when our daughters were at that complicated age

Well there are many women who can't masturbate because that's how they are mentally.
I know a couple personally and they have never seen a belt not even mine.

On the other hand some girls are uncomfortable to the point of depression and insomnia when they are belted way to late by their parents.
I don't know how I would be if I wasn't prevented from masturbating early on.

Abby82 Well it would probably motivate, but the belt makes me insecure in searching boys

I have told my husband that a lot of girls have said that, and he agrees with you.
That's another reason he is NOT a fan at all of some of the makers.

Rafael The conflict exists since the belt is not something that should be used on younger girls as it would affect their own knowledge and development and that is a crime.

Of course you don't want to do anything with the girls that would be creepy and I won't say to belt teens like I was either because that would make me sound like the many pedophile trolls on the internet.
But if it was you @Rafael would you want someone tell you to learn to masturbate for education and then never do it again and just be uncomfortable ???
There are also people who never masturbated and were belted as teens but are very rebellious and uncomfortable.

I still can't masturbate even when my husband unlocks me and gently encourages me to try. I can touch for a minute and it feels sorta nice but then it stops and my hands move away and I need my husband to finish.
There are people who have complained on here how they will play around their belts or with their breasts and butts but then it stops and they can't continue but that's how I already am naturally without my belt.
I have no idea what I would do in a divorce because I would get excited and even if my Mom gave me breaks I wouldn't know how to finish.
Some people will say this is sweet, but if a woman were married to a controlling manipulative man it could be awful because you wouldn't want to leave.

So I will just say everyone is different and @Ines zen comfort state is very great.
What might be right for one woman might not be right for another woman.

@David I think I am a example to your question

Megan I still can't masturbate even when my husband unlocks me and gently encourages me to try. I can touch for a minute and it feels sorta nice but then it stops and my hands move away and I need my husband to finish.

Patient love is the best love. I needed Goody's help for years to come to terms with this, because I was the same way.

Megan But if it was you @Rafael would you want someone tell you to learn to masturbate for education and then never do it again and just be uncomfortable ???

I worry about this with my philosophy, but there's also a different between "telling someone to learn and then take it away" and "just turn a blind eye until it's the right time to level up your virtue."

Megan I have no idea what I would do in a divorce because I would get excited and even if my Mom gave me breaks I wouldn't know how to finish.

I'm pretty sure the answer to your question is "permanent belting and no unsupervised breaks until marriage"!

Megan Some people will say this is sweet, but if a woman were married to a controlling manipulative man it could be awful because you wouldn't want to leave.

This is a repeating nightmare for me when I've been thinking too much about chastity. All the power I would place in the hands of authority figures entirely depends on them being responsible with the power.

Megan

You have written a message that has many points to reflect on, I like to interact with you because it is seen not only that you have a lot of experience but also that you answer with more complex answers than usual.

Megan But if it was you @Rafael would you want someone tell you to learn to masturbate for education and then never do it again and just be uncomfortable ???

Here I think you are misunderstanding me, in my family we would never teach girls to do that, and in fact, they knew they were not allowed to do it.
That on the one hand, but actually I know what you mean, and it is that surely at some point they let go and did it without thinking about why it was forbidden.

Megan Of course you don't want to do anything with the girls that would be creepy and I won't say to belt teens like I was either because that would make me sound like the many pedophile trolls on the internet.

Again you are right and I think that talking about when you should start wearing a belt can be the subject of debate and I do not think that it should, as you say, give rise to pedophiles.
I think about starting at university to avoid possible abuses and allow healthy development, but it is also true that it was when we considered it, we would never know if another scenario would have been possible.

Megan Some people will say this is sweet, but if a woman were married to a controlling manipulative man it could be awful because you wouldn't want to leave.

It is sweet Your husband is very lucky to be able to enjoy you. I also agree with you in what you say about the risks of a bad man, but it is a risk that also exists without the belt. That is why we parents have the obligation to educate daughters who are women and who enjoy being women, but who value themselves and are safe.

Megan So I will just say everyone is different and @Ines zen comfort state is very great.

She is like that. She has very feminine manners and she is very clear about how to behave, but she doesn't let herself be ignored or stepped on.

Rafael She is like that. She has very feminine manners and she is very clear about how to behave, but she doesn't let herself be ignored or stepped on.

Ines is what the kids these days call "chastity goals" .

Saintprudence This is a repeating nightmare for me when I've been thinking too much about chastity. All the power I would place in the hands of authority figures entirely depends on them being responsible with the power.

How can everyone know what that is before it happens ???
You have to talk and have some good advice from somewhere

Rafael It is sweet Your husband is very lucky to be able to enjoy you. I also agree with you in what you say about the risks of a bad man, but it is a risk that also exists without the belt. That is why we parents have the obligation to educate daughters who are women and who enjoy being women, but who value themselves and are safe.

Thank you so much that is sweet. I am very lucky to have him to and he isn't on the dating websites especially not the BDSM dating sites sooo there would have been no way to find him there.
Because someone has a chastity belt is no reason to think you are forced to go there.
That is why people like you and @Ines and @Laura are so valuable to let girls (and trolls) talk so we can know this.

Rafael She is like that. She has very feminine manners and she is very clear about how to behave, but she doesn't let herself be ignored or stepped on.

She is the greatest. We all know

Megan I’m very sorry I treated that inappropriately lightly.

Megan She is the greatest. We all know

The greatest inquisitor, no more.
And sometimes I am a bit bossy, and it is not nice in a girl.

Ines And sometimes I am a bit bossy, and it is not nice in a girl.

Okay, this I think is not true. Leadership is important for everyone. If it's 'not nice' in a girl, it's 'not nice' in a guy too. Machismo doesn't make it OK.

Megan What if after 6 months of failing to masturbate it back fired and sent me into an even worse relationship.

In that sense is better wear the belt again. I have no experience on the subject, but probably, and if I understand what you are saying, trying to reach an orgasm would cause you anxiety because it is difficult for you to achieve it without a partner.

Megan Before @Sin jokes and send me an instructional video I understand how women orgasm but it just really doesn't interest me and it stops after a couple minutes. I don't feel guilty because I was raised chaste or anything like that.

The same happens to me. Many times I do notice that my body is excited, I do not know if I am explaining myself, and I am hot and my heart rate goes up and there is even a little flow down there.
This usually coincides with the times of ovulation.
But even though my body notices that, my mind does not ask me to try to touch myself. My body simply prepares itself in case a male wanted to impregnate me, I would give him certain facilities. pure physiology.

Megan How can everyone know what that is before it happens ???
You have to talk and have some good advice from somewhere

Sadly, many times, in this type of relationship, two pathological personalities coincide, one evil, and the other not evil, but pathological.
Many times these men have traits of psychopathy, and psychopaths are the masters of masquerades. They can cheat on you during years of courtship, for them it is one more mask. They are also usually narcissistic and manipulative, so they have been doing it since they were children.
What we have to do is take care of ourselves inside and out, be smart and beautiful and leave that guy at the first bad sign. That as women we are worth a lot, we contribute a lot, and the least we deserve is a boy who takes good care of us.

James

I am not a leader, in fact I search for good leaders. Usually we girls prefer that they take us a little by the hand in some things. Normally we like to feel important to the group for some good reason, to be very skilled at something, to be conciliatory... but normally we do not like to have the weight of making decisions and assuming that even a good decision is going to harm someone and those people It will hold us accountable.

Being bossy is different from being a leader, and the truth is that nobody likes bossy girls. Not even bossy girls!

Megan Before @Sin jokes and send me an instructional video I understand how women orgasm but it just really doesn't interest me and it stops after a couple minutes.

Hey sista you do you, that's what's important.
I haven't double-clicked the hairy mouse all year thankyou very much!