Avery When I have a weak moment when in bed, I get out of bed, put the belt on, put the key under the mattress and get back into bed

I find that admirable discipline. Only very few people have this.

    Mr-TM I find that admirable discipline. Only very few people have this.

    Thank you. I do feel I have some advantages. First, I want to do this. No one is forcing me. Also, I have no lover and have always needed a person to focus my sexual desires on. Without one I just don't think about it that much. I think that's fairly common among women, not so much men. Also, again, the hook-up kind of culture I have found at university does not attract me. I was sexually active when I was in high school and we saw the same guys all the time and had time to develop an attraction for them.

      Nice discussion. But I have one question (maybe not directly addressed here, but also related). Such a summary - did you have, do you have... any restrictions on what you had to or could not wear? at home? outside?.... With yours chastity underwear...

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        C-B

        There are specific threads for clothing.

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          Ines Yes I know, but I don't want to elaborate too much, just a quick summary (it is not existing here) when it was mentioned.

            Avery Those people that came early then over the years migrated west and a lot of other immigrants came to the West coast with other religions and determination.

            I just saw from California they are trying to decriminalize sex work. It may take a few tries but like marijuana they will probably get there. Probably about time. Again we are one of the few western countries where sex work is illegal in every way.

              bdsamm I just saw from California they are trying to decriminalize sex work. It may take a few tries but like marijuana they will probably get there. Probably about time. Again we are one of the few western countries where sex work is illegal in every way.

              Well again this subject came up in relation to raising one's children and attitudes toward nudity so I think some talk is appropriate in this thread. I was never taught that sex work was wrong, in fact when I worked at the homeless shelter in Haverhill, MA when I was in high school I got to know several prostitutes, and my parents did not object. Of course, none of these women bore any resemblance to Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman, they spent much of their earnings on booze and cigarettes and often slept under the bridges. Cops seemed to take a relaxed view, busting men who tried to set up as pimps but not these women who had nothing except their bodies.

              So I would think it good if California could adopt a model such as the one they have in Nevada, which seems to work just fine. The workers make good money under safe conditions. It would be a while, I think, before many children were raised to think this was a legitimate way to make a living, but a lot of girls from poor backgrounds might benefit. I find it charming, by the way, that the political action group set up to promote the Nevada operation is known as the NBA - Nevada brothel association). Only we Americans probably would know that is the name of the professional basketball league.

              Finally, Boston, a big college town, is awash with stories about girls who paid their way through Harvard stripping in Revere, MA.

                Avery Cops seemed to take a relaxed view, busting men who tried to set up as pimps but not these women who had nothing except their bodies.

                That is actually how it works in most of Europe - in some places, like Germany, prostitution is legal but pimping most definitely is not. On others, for example Sweden, there are laws against prostitution, but they criminalize then johns, not the hookers. Because the primary reason for banning prostitution is how vulnerable prostitutes are to abuse, and it is hard to call a law just when it punishes the victims.

                Speaking of bodies though, why is it that sex work is commonly referred to as "selling one's body", but back-breaking labor and hazardous jobs are not?

                  Avery obviously you are in a liberal state. In some states, the cops spend half their time busting prostitutes. As your Patriots Owner found out down in Florida. Don't know how Kraft came out on that but it was ridiculous. Here they keep after the massage parlors but more or less as a sideline.

                  youdontknowme Speaking of bodies though, why is it that sex work is commonly referred to as "selling one's body", but back-breaking labor and hazardous jobs are not?

                  Men who need money to support their families often seek out risky/hard jobs because the money is better, cops, firemen, construction, etc. A better question might be why is it OK for a man to sell his body doing hard labor but a woman cannot sell her body (some places) to earn a living as a sex worker.

                  Avery

                  you have impressive willpower if you can do it like that, i don't think i would be able to do it like that. if i wanted to wear a belt voluntarily and my goal was absolute chastity, then i would need a key holder and yes also supervised showers, otherwise i probably wouldn't be able to control myself

                  Ines Well, you could have timed showers.

                  well, how much time do i need for a shower and how much for an orgasm? i can't say exactly either, so that's out of the question

                  C-B just a quick summary (it is not existing here) when it was mentioned.

                  well, i have to choose my clothes so that i hide the belt (or other devices) well, that can be hard in summer

                    Angelina you have impressive willpower if you can do it like that, i don't think i would be able to do it like that. if i wanted to wear a belt voluntarily and my goal was absolute chastity, then i would need a key holder and yes also supervised showers, otherwise i probably wouldn't be able to control myself

                    I'm beginning to feel like I've had enough of it. Not that I'll start fooling around with boys. People may recall I've talked about running against the Mormon girls from BYU and the strict life demanded by their church and never a mention of belts. Just this past week I listened to a youtube short by a Mormon girl who was talking to her pastor, or whatever they call it, and he told her if she limited herself to masturbating once a week that would probably be OK. So I don't know. I am breaking my own rule that God gave us the body and the means to enjoy it, so to say you can't is heresy.

                      Avery I have no lover

                      And how about if you had one?

                        Mr-TM And how about if you had one?

                        If by lover one means a person with whom I had a serious emotional connection I would first have to give up giving up masturbation because I would certainly fantasize about him. Then at some point, probably sooner, rather than later, begin a sexual relationship. That has always been the plan and I have articulated it before.

                        All of this is related to how I was brought up. That is the family model.

                        Avery I think what you are doing is wonderful. But I do think one masturbation a week would not really be that much of a variation. I personally think you should continue to the extent you can with your running and other activities.
                        Being the dirty old man though I think you should lock the belt on at night and put the key in a kitchen timer safe set for at least 8 hours. That way you can relax and know you are safe. (just kidding) My device has a timer function built in. Really convenient.

                          bdsamm But I do think one masturbation a week would not really be that much of a variation.

                          I don't know. I've produced some real toe curlers i my time.

                            Avery It is mean of you to make that statement where men in chastity devices will read it. Makes the thing a little uncomfortable. But I suppose that was your intent.

                              bdsamm It is mean of you to make that statement where men in chastity devices will read it. Makes the thing a little uncomfortable. But I suppose that was your intent.

                              It was not my intent. It was supposed to be a joke between the two of us. I'm sorry if it affected people badly.

                                Avery LOL! I am just kidding you. There was an effect but nothing really undesirable.

                                  bdsamm LOL! I am just kidding you. There was an effect but nothing really undesirable.

                                  Good. You had me worried.