youdontknowme This is not about changing agreed-upon rules, this is about negotiating the terms in the first place, before the belt goes on. And in that case, the worst-case result is that the prospective keyholder does not take the keys, so I do not think we are dealing with keyholder overreach here. Negotiation is a two-way street.

Exactly my point

    Thanks everyone for your replies 🙂

    I was just talking to my husband about this this morning. in principle, he has nothing against it. He also thinks we should support their wish.

    later we had a long talk with our daughter. or rather two conversations. meanwhile my husband and I talked alone again.

    we wanted to know how she imagines it and how she thinks it will be.

    basically she would like to wear a belt like that for serious use, no kink use (she knows, i wear them for serious and kink use) as she speaks, her goals are no sexual activities without serious releationship.

    We think we'll let her try wearing a chastity belt. But I don't have an old belt anymore, so she can try mine later if she wants. it won't fit 100%, but with small adjustments it should fit very well.

    she is still out, but she knows that she can try the belt later.

    I also think that I will tell her about the forum here, maybe she would also like to comment on the topic here.

    Renita Also a chastity belt on you looks nice.

    do you mean me?

    C-B How old is your daughter?

    she will be 19 soon!

    C-B but discuss with her all consequences

    we spent a lot of time on this today!

    C-B LetÅ› her try it

    We give her this chance.

    Andrew If your daughter still wants it, buy it for her.

    she should first try out my belt and gain some experience with it. Just buy one straight away and then it won't be used, it's a bit too expensive.
    But we give her the chance to try it.

    Ines Late. Did you hide it from her?

    yes i did it. Beacause i wear mine in an mix of serious use and kink use.

    Laura Get locked in it for a while.

    she gehts her chance 😉

                    MarleenTotok she should first try out my belt and gain some experience with it

                    Of course, if possible, let her try wearing yours.

                        Andrew if possible, let her try wearing yours.

                        yes its possible. shurely it will not fits 100% but nearly! She could try my belt and the most of acessoiries if she would do them.
                        My belt is ready for an try, its cleaned and now only waiting for my doughter.

                            MarleenTotok Acessories? You mean thighbands and/or a metal bra?? All other acessories I can think of, would be of a kinky nature, isn´t it :-)

                              you bouth are right! For serious use i have bands and bra. bands are daily used, my doughter only has seen me with the bands on.

                                MarleenTotok For serious use i have bands and bra. bands are daily used, my doughter only has seen me with the bands on.

                                Will you give her the "full program", with thigh bands and bra?

                                  NO! i dont give her an "programm"! She sould only decide what she would try. In my mind she should only try the belt for first try.
                                  But she knows from bands and bra, so she should have the try otion for all (excluding kink stuff). I could not tell her, you could try the belt and the other things are not allowed but i wear them for serios wearing (excluding kink stuff). that not realistic in my mind.

                                    @"MarleenTotok"
                                    So, what is your daughter`s goal?
                                    Why does she want the belt? And have you made up your mind what are your conditions for being keyholder?

                                      curious So, what is your daughter`s goal?

                                      her goal and why she would want the belt is no sexual activitys without an serious relationship. The goal is not an wedding or similar else, only an stable and serious relationship. I could accept them!

                                      curious And have you made up your mind what are your conditions for being keyholder?

                                      not easy to explayn. if her wish would be real, my husband would be the keyholder. i would handle locking or unlocking, but the keys are on his hands, i would prefere them. our daughter would accept them.

                                      She is now at home and she will try now the belt! She is preparing her in the bathroom and if she is ready, i would helb her with the belt and try to fit them for her.

                                            MarleenTotok her goal and why she would want the belt is no sexual activitys without an serious relationship

                                            You might consider an abstinence belt for her

                                                Laura You might consider an abstinence belt for her

                                                Please, what is the difference between an abstinence belt and a chastity belt? Just the secondary shield?

                                                    My daughter is now locked in my belt. We had taken our time but now everything fits so far.

                                                    We only need some little adjustments. She wears them now in the thightest position of the waist-band (i have an my-steel who is adjustable a bit) The crotch-band is similar to me.

                                                    In my mind it fits better then expected. We would see I am right or not. It could may also secure.

                                                    Her first impression is that it is quite tight. She now has about 20 minutes to getr first impressions alone, then we have dinner together. i'm sure with a clear topic of conversation.

                                                      Mithras Just the secondary shield

                                                      Yes

                                                      MarleenTotok Her first impression is that it is quite tight.

                                                      My first impression was that it was impossible to take it off

                                                            Laura You might consider an abstinence belt for her

                                                            i am also asking for the difference?

                                                                Laura My first impression was that it was impossible to take it off

                                                                this she expected, but the tightnes she dont expected as it is. she thought he would be more comfortable.