Saintprudence I believe mom would call that “a bonus.”

I'm not sure it's a bonus

    @TimGER

    thanks for describing your situation. I have now read the posts here and would like to take a step back from the discussion as to whether it is a good thing that your mother takes the keys, but I have one question. should it be worn 24/7 or should you have breaks?

    i personally don't see a direct connection between masturbating and school performance either, in my view giving up masturbation completely does not automatically lead to better grades at school (you're welcome to discuss that, it's just my experience). but what can work is a system like the sister of @Lukas. In short, it means that you get breaks based on what grades you get in school, which keeps you motivated to study, knowing that if you get good grades, you'll get opportunities to masturbate 🙂

      Laura Ok, I was a bit imprecise with graduation.

      I meant graduation from school. And then we see further. End of school is in 3 month. If it works, then it can be continued, she said today.

      I'm not in an relationship at moment.

          Andrew Somehow I don't see a connection between your school performance and jerking off...

          The answer goes to you and Angelina

          Sure, the topic of school and grades related to masturbation can be discussed!

          A lot certainly depends on the individual. I can only speak for myself now. On the one hand it took a lot of time, on the other hand I have no motivation to do anything afterwards. Just kind of hanging out and watching tv or something else. Now the energy goes into learning or doing other productive things.

                Angelina but I have one question. should it be worn 24/7 or should you have breaks?

                Yesterday when I asked about the key handover I said for about a month and then a weekend break.

                However, it must also be said that everything was also quite surprising for my mum. In this case, not everything could be negotiated exactly yesterday evening.

                So there will certainly be a few more talks in the next few days and the exact conditions will still be negotiated or fixed.

                  Saintprudence congratulations on getting what you wanted. You have joined the ranks of the truly securely belted and you can expect to be chaste for a long time.

                  Thanks to you. I also think that the belt is now being used longer and properly

                  Saintprudence I welcome you to the siblinghood of the truly belted and hope that you will find it a rewarding rather than frustrating experience!

                  Also thanks to you.

                      TimGER On the one hand it took a lot of time, on the other hand I have no motivation to do anything afterwards. Just kind of hanging out and watching tv or something else. Now the energy goes into learning or doing other productive things.

                      I'm not you, so it's hard for me to speak authoritatively here, but what you're describing looks to me like a mix-up of cause and effect. Masturbation does not seem to be a cause of laziness here, but a way to kill boredom and a sign of a lack of willingness to engage in more valuable activities, such as study. However, if the belt helps you to some extent, then OK.

                        TimGER On the one hand it took a lot of time, on the other hand I have no motivation to do anything afterwards

                        This was my experience too.

                          TimGER I meant graduation from school.

                          I thought about university since you mentioned it before

                              Laura Yes, I should have made that clear in the one post.

                              I thought so at first, but of course my mum didn't think in such dimensions yesterday.

                                  TimGER

                                  if it helps you to improve your school performance, then i'm glad and i don't want to tell you which way is the right one. however, i just ask you to consider whether a reward system could be even more effective, i.e. breaks to masturbate if you have good grades?

                                      Angelina Masturbation is never a problem. So the sollution has be different.

                                      He needs treatment like with an other addiction. Forced abstentions is not a solution.

                                      Brake every day or two days will be more usefull. His genitals and brain will not be that full of sex and he will can study more easy and effective.

                                          Angelina i.e. breaks to masturbate if you have good grades?

                                          I feel like dedicated masturbation breaks, as well as "I will leave you alone without the device for fifteen minutes, wink wink nudge nudge" breaks would be kinda awkward in a parental keyholding dynamic. The parents knowing exactly when he is doing what, and judging it... even if you are openly talking about sexual matters, that seems like a step too far to me. If he gets such breaks, they shold be long enough that it does not feel like mom is waiting at the door waiting for him to... do the deed. And that goes for every break, be it regular maintenance or special events, but especially for any sort of "reward" breaks.

                                          Kaja Masturbation is never a problem. So the sollution has be different.

                                          He needs treatment like with an other addiction. Forced abstentions is not a solution.

                                          And yeah, measures like forced chastity seem a bit dangerous as a form of addiction treatment, but for channeling a habit into something more productive, I see no issues with it.

                                          But you are right that there are a few caveats to any form of chastity treatment for boys:

                                          1. Regular ejaculations are considered healthy - it is generally not recommended to go below once per month over extended periods, especially at his age.

                                          2. Unfulfilled arousal can also have a negative impact on cognitive performance, so it is unwise to commit to chastity periods that have not been tested in practice yet. If performance begins to suffer while the belt is securely in place, it is better to reconsider that arrangement than to double down on it.

                                                youdontknowme Im girl, but for me is worse whan Im horny and I cant go out - I can be useless for days... Give me half of hour and everythink will be nice 😃

                                                    Kaja Im girl, but for me is worse whan Im horny and I cant go out - I can be useless for days... Give me half of hour and everythink will be nice 😃

                                                    It only occurs at the beginning, later you get totally used.
                                                    Few keyholders give such breaks to their girls.

                                                      Kaja Masturbation is never a problem. So the sollution has be different.

                                                      i didn't say that masturbation was a problem, i meant that it might be useful to implement a reward system. you can also say you reward yourself with chocolate bars for every good grade, it's the same here, only with orgasms.

                                                      youdontknowme The parents knowing exactly when he is doing what, and judging it... even if you are openly talking about sexual matters, that seems like a step too far to me

                                                      well, i think if a young man is willing to give his mother the key to his chastity belt, we are way past the point of "staying discreet", i don't think it would be wrong to consider this as an option, just let him think about it, i think it makes more sense than being locked up for weeks on end

                                                          2 months later

                                                          TimGER Hi I'm Daniel, I'm from germany too, I'm 17 as you can read in
                                                          the introduction of mine and if you want to, we could write a bit.