Asking mom for takeover the keys

Laura

TimGER If she takes over the key, then first until after graduation

And no relationships with girls?

Saintprudence

Laura I believe mom would call that “a bonus.”

TimGER

Laura Ok, I was a bit imprecise with graduation.

I meant graduation from school. And then we see further. End of school is in 3 month. If it works, then it can be continued, she said today.

I'm not in an relationship at moment.

Laura

Saintprudence I believe mom would call that “a bonus.”

I'm not sure it's a bonus

Andrew

TimGER 2-6 times a day.

It's not that much. I've had more. 😉 Somehow I don't see a connection between your school performance and jerking off...

TimGER

Andrew Somehow I don't see a connection between your school performance and jerking off...

The answer goes to you and Angelina

Sure, the topic of school and grades related to masturbation can be discussed!

A lot certainly depends on the individual. I can only speak for myself now. On the one hand it took a lot of time, on the other hand I have no motivation to do anything afterwards. Just kind of hanging out and watching tv or something else. Now the energy goes into learning or doing other productive things.

Andrew

youdontknowme That is why I prefer to caution against a keyholder that is already an authority figure

This is the crux of the problem in relationships where the parent is the keyholder, especially in the case of a minor or young adult still in the parent's actual custody. The power of the parent and the power of the keyholder intertwine and reinforce each other, which raises the risk of its abuse.

Jonas

TimGER I now wear the belt sereously! The padlocks have been replaced with the new ones. And I didn't get a key for the new ones.

Many congratulations! 👏 I hope your choice helps you to achieve all your goals.

I've never experienced a parent as a keyholder, but in all cases I'd suggest that you do your best not to bug your keyholder about the belt. It's something you want, for your life, and it's something you can learn to wear permanently with very little maintenance.

Their role is simple and in the job description: to hold the keys.

Good luck with breaking your habit! Cold showers, getting outside, sports and work all help!!

Saintprudence

TimGER It's not a game for me either!!! Its a serious use of the belt!!!

I now wear the belt sereously! The padlocks have been replaced with the new ones. And I didn't get a key for the new ones. These will now remain in the hands of my mum.

In all seriousness, now that warnings will do no good, congratulations on getting what you wanted. You have joined the ranks of the truly securely belted and you can expect to be chaste for a long time. (Personally, I’d urge you to either give up those monthly breaks or stay strictly supervised during them, but I’m an extremist that way, lol.)

It will change everything — among other things, you’ve limited your relationship options and given your mom essential veto power over your spouse — but it can be very fulfilling. And I understand the temptation; I recently transitioned as an adult to being full-time belted by my parental figure, and I think I will be happy with it, but I also spent literal years considering it.

You’re belted now semi-permanently and regular orgasms are a thing of the past. I welcome you to the siblinghood of the truly belted and hope that you will find it a rewarding rather than frustrating experience! (Or that it is at least rewarding while being frustrating!)

Jonas

Saintprudence I’d urge you to either give up those monthly breaks or stay strictly supervised during them

Tell it, sister!

TimGER

Saintprudence congratulations on getting what you wanted. You have joined the ranks of the truly securely belted and you can expect to be chaste for a long time.

Thanks to you. I also think that the belt is now being used longer and properly

Saintprudence I welcome you to the siblinghood of the truly belted and hope that you will find it a rewarding rather than frustrating experience!

Also thanks to you.

Angelina

@TimGER

thanks for describing your situation. I have now read the posts here and would like to take a step back from the discussion as to whether it is a good thing that your mother takes the keys, but I have one question. should it be worn 24/7 or should you have breaks?

i personally don't see a direct connection between masturbating and school performance either, in my view giving up masturbation completely does not automatically lead to better grades at school (you're welcome to discuss that, it's just my experience). but what can work is a system like the sister of @Lukas. In short, it means that you get breaks based on what grades you get in school, which keeps you motivated to study, knowing that if you get good grades, you'll get opportunities to masturbate 🙂

TimGER

Angelina but I have one question. should it be worn 24/7 or should you have breaks?

Yesterday when I asked about the key handover I said for about a month and then a weekend break.

However, it must also be said that everything was also quite surprising for my mum. In this case, not everything could be negotiated exactly yesterday evening.

So there will certainly be a few more talks in the next few days and the exact conditions will still be negotiated or fixed.

Laura

TimGER I meant graduation from school.

I thought about university since you mentioned it before

Andrew

TimGER On the one hand it took a lot of time, on the other hand I have no motivation to do anything afterwards. Just kind of hanging out and watching tv or something else. Now the energy goes into learning or doing other productive things.

I'm not you, so it's hard for me to speak authoritatively here, but what you're describing looks to me like a mix-up of cause and effect. Masturbation does not seem to be a cause of laziness here, but a way to kill boredom and a sign of a lack of willingness to engage in more valuable activities, such as study. However, if the belt helps you to some extent, then OK.

Jonas

TimGER On the one hand it took a lot of time, on the other hand I have no motivation to do anything afterwards

This was my experience too.

Angelina

TimGER

if it helps you to improve your school performance, then i'm glad and i don't want to tell you which way is the right one. however, i just ask you to consider whether a reward system could be even more effective, i.e. breaks to masturbate if you have good grades?

TimGER

Laura Yes, I should have made that clear in the one post.

I thought so at first, but of course my mum didn't think in such dimensions yesterday.

Chastity-beginner

TimGER Hi I'm Daniel, I'm from germany too, I'm 17 as you can read in
the introduction of mine and if you want to, we could write a bit.

Kaja

Angelina Masturbation is never a problem. So the sollution has be different.

He needs treatment like with an other addiction. Forced abstentions is not a solution.

Brake every day or two days will be more usefull. His genitals and brain will not be that full of sex and he will can study more easy and effective.

youdontknowme

Angelina i.e. breaks to masturbate if you have good grades?

I feel like dedicated masturbation breaks, as well as "I will leave you alone without the device for fifteen minutes, wink wink nudge nudge" breaks would be kinda awkward in a parental keyholding dynamic. The parents knowing exactly when he is doing what, and judging it... even if you are openly talking about sexual matters, that seems like a step too far to me. If he gets such breaks, they shold be long enough that it does not feel like mom is waiting at the door waiting for him to... do the deed. And that goes for every break, be it regular maintenance or special events, but especially for any sort of "reward" breaks.

Kaja Masturbation is never a problem. So the sollution has be different.

He needs treatment like with an other addiction. Forced abstentions is not a solution.

And yeah, measures like forced chastity seem a bit dangerous as a form of addiction treatment, but for channeling a habit into something more productive, I see no issues with it.

But you are right that there are a few caveats to any form of chastity treatment for boys:

Regular ejaculations are considered healthy - it is generally not recommended to go below once per month over extended periods, especially at his age.
Unfulfilled arousal can also have a negative impact on cognitive performance, so it is unwise to commit to chastity periods that have not been tested in practice yet. If performance begins to suffer while the belt is securely in place, it is better to reconsider that arrangement than to double down on it.

Angelina

Kaja Masturbation is never a problem. So the sollution has be different.

i didn't say that masturbation was a problem, i meant that it might be useful to implement a reward system. you can also say you reward yourself with chocolate bars for every good grade, it's the same here, only with orgasms.

youdontknowme The parents knowing exactly when he is doing what, and judging it... even if you are openly talking about sexual matters, that seems like a step too far to me

well, i think if a young man is willing to give his mother the key to his chastity belt, we are way past the point of "staying discreet", i don't think it would be wrong to consider this as an option, just let him think about it, i think it makes more sense than being locked up for weeks on end

Kaja

youdontknowme Im girl, but for me is worse whan Im horny and I cant go out - I can be useless for days... Give me half of hour and everythink will be nice 😃

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