Asking mom for takeover the keys

TimGER spoiler alert: it will be further! I hope you like the belt, it’s remaining for a while.

TimGER not at all, as long as you’re prepared to join the ranks of the unwillingly belted. Authority figures are very reluctant to give up the keys once they have them. After enough months it may no longer seem like a game to you but your belt stays locked nonetheless.

TimGER My mum would also like to register here, if that's generally ok.

She is welcomed here

TimGER

There are a few things about your story that puzzle me.
1) Was your mother aware that you were wearing a cage and then a belt?
2) You mention excessive masturbation - how often has this happened to you without a cage/belt?
3) If you already had a cage 3 years ago, why didn't it save you from failing the year?

TimGER I understand your argument But it's definitely not a kink use. The results of the last school year actually showed that.

Did not necessarily mean that kink would be your motivation, more that someone (e.g. your mom) would think that it was a kink thing. But bringing up your grades and how they improved after you bought your devices probably did a lot to allay that worry.

TimGER If she takes over the key, then first until after graduation

And no relationships with girls?

Laura I believe mom would call that “a bonus.”

youdontknowme That is why I prefer to caution against a keyholder that is already an authority figure

This is the crux of the problem in relationships where the parent is the keyholder, especially in the case of a minor or young adult still in the parent's actual custody. The power of the parent and the power of the keyholder intertwine and reinforce each other, which raises the risk of its abuse.

TimGER I now wear the belt sereously! The padlocks have been replaced with the new ones. And I didn't get a key for the new ones.

Many congratulations! I hope your choice helps you to achieve all your goals.

I've never experienced a parent as a keyholder, but in all cases I'd suggest that you do your best not to bug your keyholder about the belt. It's something you want, for your life, and it's something you can learn to wear permanently with very little maintenance.

Their role is simple and in the job description: to hold the keys.

Good luck with breaking your habit! Cold showers, getting outside, sports and work all help!!

TimGER It's not a game for me either!!! Its a serious use of the belt!!!

I now wear the belt sereously! The padlocks have been replaced with the new ones. And I didn't get a key for the new ones. These will now remain in the hands of my mum.

In all seriousness, now that warnings will do no good, congratulations on getting what you wanted. You have joined the ranks of the truly securely belted and you can expect to be chaste for a long time. (Personally, I’d urge you to either give up those monthly breaks or stay strictly supervised during them, but I’m an extremist that way, lol.)

It will change everything — among other things, you’ve limited your relationship options and given your mom essential veto power over your spouse — but it can be very fulfilling. And I understand the temptation; I recently transitioned as an adult to being full-time belted by my parental figure, and I think I will be happy with it, but I also spent literal years considering it.

You’re belted now semi-permanently and regular orgasms are a thing of the past. I welcome you to the siblinghood of the truly belted and hope that you will find it a rewarding rather than frustrating experience! (Or that it is at least rewarding while being frustrating!)

@TimGER

thanks for describing your situation. I have now read the posts here and would like to take a step back from the discussion as to whether it is a good thing that your mother takes the keys, but I have one question. should it be worn 24/7 or should you have breaks?

i personally don't see a direct connection between masturbating and school performance either, in my view giving up masturbation completely does not automatically lead to better grades at school (you're welcome to discuss that, it's just my experience). but what can work is a system like the sister of @Lukas. In short, it means that you get breaks based on what grades you get in school, which keeps you motivated to study, knowing that if you get good grades, you'll get opportunities to masturbate