Keyholder welcome thread.
When I mention dating, I have a classic first date in mind - café or restaurant, talking to get to know each other.
Laura Ideally I'm keyholding for humans, not hymens. I see virginity as an abstract cultural ideal, associated with purity, chastity, and certain standards of social behaviour. In former times, girls who have never been with a man have been called a virgin. What is virginity to you Laura? Somebody had oral or anal sex and gave or received many orgasms, but was never penetrated vaginally, is she virgin? Somebody who tore her hymen when she was four by accident? I don't want to sell a virgin to the highest bidder, so I mostly care about her current motivation and state of mind.
. Back to you question, it's just a family tradition- Edited
Your answer seems to be about a family tradition of unwed chastity, but as you brought up virginity: What is it to you?
Sin I can't imagine how much my life would suck if I permanently hooked up with the first few guys I dated as a teenager.
I think the idea is that the bad guys won't marry you, so instead of getting stuck with them you never lose part of your heart to them if that makes sense.
But we each need to find our own path, and decide on our own goals.
Sin I can't imagine how much my life would suck if I permanently hooked up with the first few guys I dated as a teenager.
then you had different values as a teenager than you do today, i think that's one of the main reasons why relationships fail. How often do I ask myself: "he/she" must have felt something for the partner, what happened?
Angelina then you had different values as a teenager than you do today, i think that's one of the main reasons why relationships fail. How often do I ask myself: "he/she" must have
I just think it takes time to get to know someone and decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with them. Sometimes you fall into complacency because it's comfortable, but with the benefit of hindsight you realise you should have broken up much earlier. Sometimes it takes a while to figure that out. It's easy to go "He / she is the one!" when you first fall in love. Doesn't mean it is though.
i think especially when you're young (and yes i know, i'm still young myself) you tend to look for a partner just to have a partner. your first friends also have partners and you don't want to be alone. unfortunately, this often leads to finding the wrong one and not wanting to admit to yourself that it would be better to be single.
Jen A critical period has turned out to be 5 to 7 years. During this period, in most relationships the little things have accumulated into a problem. Even if things go very well in the first years, it can then come to a break if it is not actively dealt with by both.
I want to show how important it is to get to know each other over a longer period of time. It may seem like a trial and error. I think it is time well spent compared to a lifelong relationship.
This doesn't mean you need to have Sex with him during this time. If He is the right one He will wait.
Jen wow like 5-7 years is insane like legit like either he's the one or I'll move on!!!
Yes, do it if you are in the situation.
I just wanted to point out that really getting to know each other and the unpleasant sides of the other can show up quite late. And from my experience I can confirm it. The first few years are very good, then here and there are little things that bother you a bit, but over time they slowly build up into problems if they are not actively addressed. And all of a sudden things start to go wrong.