curious I have seen various reasons here in the forum why a CB was considered. It was good to discuss the teme in detail and show options. Either the whole thing was reconsidered or they were really sure they wanted it.
If someone has a problem with extensive masturbation, a CB is a solution to prevent it but it doesn't change the problem. I think professional help should be sought first. A CB can temporarily help reduce the impact until it is better controlled.
If a woman is afraid of an unwanted pregnancy, why does she have to give up masturbation? She is responsible for herself and can decide when and for how long she wants to wear the CB to prevent it.
Every situation is different and so are the expectations. Your idea of how it should work is not the solution for everyone but only for a few.
@Kaja is, in my opinion, often undiplomatically in her formulations so that it sounds harsh. English is not her mother tongue and her social environment is not yours. I often find her statements appropriate, just not well formulated. I also welcome other views so that there is a broad basis for a sound decision. That's all we can do.
Single again chastity
Christine Well, it was not important before, but she's convinced me.
but then you are now at the same point of double standards that your mother had before. You're both single women, so you should both wear a belt, or both shouldn't. there is no reason that one person wears a belt and the other doesn't (please don't get me wrong, this was also true in the last few years when you were in the belt)
curious You do not go to a catholic church and loudly proclaim there that everyone is wrong and should become an atheist instead, do you?
I should do that haha 
Christine But she can let mom out, while I'm belted all the time.
do you think that would happen? only in theory, but do you think if your aunt was the key holder for both of you, that your mother would get more freedom than you?
curious See my 3xample about the. church. You can stand on the street and tell everybody that there is no God and atheism is the only right way. Perfectly fine. But saying the exact same thing inside a church is wrong and disrespectful because that place is dedicated to worship a God.
But this is not a church. This is not a place to worship chastity. This is a place where people who deal with chastity belts in their daily lives in some way come together and talk about the way it affects our lives, and how to best live with it. We have enthusiastic wearers, sure, but there are also less-than-enthusiastic wearers and even some less-than-consensual wearers in here. Our job is not to make them like their chastity belt, it is to support them through their daily lives. And sometimes, in cases of extreme non-consent, even to provide them with resources that can free them of the belt.
And even if we assume that a person wants to not have sex, they are still free to make their own choices as to what chastity means to them. Saying no to sleeping around is very different to saying no to any form of carnal pleasure whatsoever. And even if you want to stop any form of touching for pleasure, how far are you willing to go. A chastity belt has practical drawbacks - dealing with them is a major part of what this forum is about - and whether a person is willing to endure them all to achieve their goal is their choice and theirs alone.
None of us are against sexual abstinence, or no-carnal-pleasure-at-all chastity. But I think it is justified to speak out against not just physical, but also emotional pressure to put people into belts.
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Thank you all. You recapitulated what I said in past in more noble words.
Jonas I wonder if your mother projected her own need for a chastity belt onto you?
Sure thing now.
Jonas I wonder if any other parents who write here do the same?
Unless they already wear.
curious Why should your aunt make a difference and keep you locked while your mother is let out?
Coz they are sisters.
Angelina but then you are now at the same point of double standards that your mother had before.
I never cared about double standards.
Angelina do you think that would happen?
I think, it was the whole idea of that offer.
Angelina but do you think if your aunt was the key holder for both of you, that your mother would get more freedom than you?
Mom can persuade aunt to let her out for a while.
Christine
If different treatment is your concearn but you otherwise like the idea, why don't you talk to your aunt and make it a condition that the rules and how strictly they enforced must be 100% the same for you and your mother. Nobody should have an advantage.
If your aunt agrees to that - preferably in writing - all is good. Isn't it?
Christine I never cared about double standards.
unfortunately, i think this is very wrong, but it seems to be the same thing your mother has been doing for the last few years.
Christine Mom can persuade aunt to let her out for a while.
yes, but you could too, if then the rules have to be the same for both of you and your aunt has to enforce them.
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Christine Mom can persuade aunt to let her out for a while.
If you fear that kind of "social engineering", just a technical interjection: How adding unique plastic seals signed by you to her belt? So Aunt is keyholder, but you'd have much higher certainty to learn about any potential, extraordinary breaks.
It think this can be argued for. Especially since some conflict of interest on her side would only be human.
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Angelina nd your aunt has to enforce them
And change her mind later.
Owl How adding unique plastic seals signed by you to her belt? So Aunt is keyholder, but you'd have much higher certainty to learn about any potential, extraordinary breaks.
What's a difference from emergency key? Keyholder should be able to let you out at any time.
Christine What's a difference from emergency key? Keyholder should be able to let you out at any time.
The difference would be that your aunt cannot let out your mother without you knowing it. So secretly having different rules preferential to your mum will not be possible then. So you can be confident that she will honour the agreement of same rules and freedoms (or actually the degree of enforced chastity) and enter into that contract with your aunt with confidence that it 2ill be fair and equal.
Angelina I never cared about double standards
But you should. Double standards are wrong on an ethical level. I know your mother did a poor job of being a role model in that regard, but once you have realised this, it is for you to become better and do the right thing than rather repeat the same unethical behaviour.
Christine And change her mind later.
it can happen, but if you think it's not fair and your aunt would prefer your mother, you can always cancel the deal and stop using the belt again. unlike a year ago, you hold all the cards yourself.
curious But you should. Double standards are wrong on an ethical level. I know your mother did a poor job of being a role model in that regard, but once you have realised this, it is for you to become better and do the right thing than rather repeat the same unethical behaviour.
why am I quoted when @Christine wrote this? 
Christine What's a difference from emergency key? Keyholder should be able to let you out at any time.
curious already answered for me (thx).
Joh If don't trust your aunt make no deal with her.
I'd add that trust often is not a binary of absolute trust vs absolute mistrust, no matter the circumstance. (For the record, Joh, not that I'm saying that's what you claimed.) Yet, I support the general line of reasoning. Either I'd find rules and measures that gives me sufficient trust in the arrangement (particularly keyholder(s)), or I wouldn't consent to it.
Generally, I also could imagine small steps to learn about a certain person. How they behave and handle situations. Like trial periods. For instance, letting them bear the responsibility for 1 single day, or 1 day per week, while the rest of time stays the current situation. When I got a bad feeling at some time, I'd investigate about the reason; and if no reasonable explanation I'd refrain to go further for a time, rather roll back.
Owl Generally, I also could imagine small steps to learn about a certain person. How they behave and handle situations. Like trial periods. For instance, letting them bear the responsibility for 1 single day, or 1 day per wee
sorry, this can work for small things, but we are talking about giving up control of one's sexuality, there has to be trust, there has to be 100% trust and if there is not 100% trust, then you should not give the key to that person.
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I was talking about Christine evaluating the possibility of her Aunt keyholding her mother's belt. (Or part-time holding as trial / intermediate solution). Which could be an improvement to entangle this unwholesome situation between Christine's mother and C. (The mutual mistrust and all that stuff between those two going on for so long now.)
How Christine wants to handle her own chastity is a second question. If I was involved, I'd see unraveling the relationship dynamics between mother and daughter as the primary issue.
Owl . (The mutual mistrust and all that stuff between those two going on for so long now.)
i agree here, there really is a problem. but i think before you think about both in the belt and keys to the aunt, you should work on these problems, otherwise it won't work because there will always be mistrust.
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I didn't write for a while coz I've lost my credentials to this site. Remembered today.
Not many updates. Mom wears her belt all the time and she seems get used to it well.
And I don't wear one.