Single again chastity

Angelina

the key question is what happens if you get a permanent job and move out? will she still require you, or rather be able to require you, to continue wearing the belt?

Christine

carg but of course I'm very sorry for you, and totally disagree with your mother

Thank you. Unlike some others here who support her decision.

carg OK, as if the first one was not good enough for her purpose

She caught me trying to pull down.

carg Or do you prefer the hip belt (easier to hide)?

I prefer the hip belt, but I'm in the waist belt now.

carg But do you mean that things have gotten worse for you in other ways than more chastity equipment?

It looks more and more stupid.

carg or restore your previous marriage

No.

carg but at the same time she makes it much harder for you to start a relationship

She believes, that the belt doesn't make it harder.

Angelina will she still require you, or rather be able to require you, to continue wearing the belt?

She will, but I will not care about her opinion.

carg

Christine It looks more and more stupid.

Yes, I can imagine.

Christine I still can't afford it.

Perhaps you could take an internet course or follow evening classes, so you could get qualifications for a better paid job? I believe here in the Netherlands, the unemployment agency would be willing to help you with that, even if you are not currently unemployed, to improve your chances to be as productive as you can, but I don't know how that is in other countries.

Maybe you have already considered all such options, and my suggestion doesn't help; but I have the feeling you are sort of stuck in a situation with no easy way out, so I'm trying to think what you could do to make it better.

Vanessa

Christine No. She wanted a more secure belt.

Don't you like to have a waist style one and a hip style one?

Christine Not enough to change the situation.

Any chance it becomes better soon?

Christine She believes it improves my attitude.

What is your opinion about it?

Christine It's not detachable anyway.

My-steel(I don't remember,sorry)?

carg And of course she is not willing to try and see if your improved attitude continues if you do get breaks...

It would be wise and fairer,yes.

carg Another thing that doesn't seem to make sense, is that I get the impression that she wants you to be married again, or restore your previous marriage, but at the same time she makes it much harder for you to start a relationship. Does she have a rationalization for that, or does she just go her own way without feeling the need to be consistent or make sense?

It is not very different for many of us.We have to wear it until marriage,even if it can make harder for us to have and keep a serious relationship...

Christine She caught me trying to pull down.

But without success,I guess.

Christine I prefer the hip belt, but I'm in the waist belt now.

Hos does she decide which one you wear?

Christine She will, but I will not care about her opinion.

No consequences,if you live on your own?

Angelina

Christine She will, but I will not care about her opinion.

that's right, you are an adult woman. just please don't let yourself be emotionally blackmailed and try to stay in contact with your mother anyway 🙂

Jonas but either way, I think wearing a belt does affect your outlook and behaviour.

that's true, but to a different extent for everyone. i would say that for me the changes in behaviour are rather weak, puberty is the much stronger factor. 😂

Christine

carg Perhaps you could take an internet course or follow evening classes, so you could get qualifications for a better paid job?

It's not only about a job.

Vanessa Any chance it becomes better soon?

idk

Vanessa My-steel(I don't remember,sorry)?

Yes, my-steel.

Vanessa But without success,I guess.

ofc

Vanessa Hos does she decide which one you wear?

Depending on the weather and amount of clothes.

Vanessa No consequences,if you live on your own?

Like what?

Angelina and try to stay in contact with your mother anyway

It will be up to her.

carg

Vanessa It is not very different for many of us.We have to wear it until marriage,even if it can make harder for us to have and keep a serious relationship...

Yes, that is true, especially for the involuntary wearers.
I just had the impression that for Christine's mother the marriage thing is exceptionally important, while, except for Sara2001 and perhaps Funguy, I have not heard many parents of the wearers here were pushing, or even just stimulating, their children to get married (or remarried) quickly. (Of course release from the chastity devices is a stimulus by itself, but I mean apart from that.)

Jonas

Vanessa Christine She believes it improves my attitude.

What is your opinion about it?

Chastity certainly affects my attitude. When frustrated and fighting the belt I can be grumpy and short-tempered, but when I accept the frustration and the chastity and the reasons for it, I become more peaceful and, well, compliant - towards my partner at least.

Whether attitude change is perceived as an improvement depends on each of the individuals involved I guess, but either way, I think wearing a belt does affect your outlook and behaviour.

Vanessa

carg I just had the impression that for Christine's mother the marriage thing is exceptionally important

Maybe yes.

I know the rules for my chastity belt,but I can marry when I want.

carg Of course release from the chastity devices is a stimulus by itself

I confirm.

Jonas When frustrated and fighting the belt I can be grumpy and short-tempered, but when I accept the frustration and the chastity and the reasons for it, I become more peaceful and, well, compliant - towards my partner at least.

Which is the most frequent?

Christine It's not only about a job.

What else?

Finding you own place?

Christine Depending on the weather and amount of clothes.

Can you give your opinion,or is it useless?

Christine Like what?

Breaking your relationship with her/your family.

Christine It will be up to her.

What do you think she would decide?

Angelina

Christine It will be up to her.

well, if she defines your relationship only by the belt, it will be hard, but i think she must have known from the beginning that it can change if you move out, right?

Christine

Angelina but i think she must have known from the beginning that it can change if you move out, right?

She did, but keeps changing her mind.

Vanessa What else?

Credit score.

Vanessa Finding you own place?

Yes, in a good place.

Vanessa Can you give your opinion,or is it useless?

She doesn't hear me.

Vanessa Breaking your relationship with her/your family.

I don't care.

Vanessa What do you think she would decide?

Will get used to my decision.

Jonas

Vanessa Jonas When frustrated and fighting the belt I can be grumpy and short-tempered, but when I accept the frustration and the chastity and the reasons for it, I become more peaceful and, well, compliant - towards my partner at least.

Which is the most frequent?

Well, what I'm finding is that right now I am kinda desperate for activities. So if someone suggests cleaning up, repairs, laundry whatever, I'll do it simply to keep myself distracted from all the sexual frustration I'm feeling. Effectively this means I'm doing what I'm told (or at least what my partner would like) far more often. Conversely, when fighting and grumpy I'm left stewing in my own juices which is very uncomfortable. So, overall I'd say it's 20:80 fighting/compliant but heading towards more compliance. I could only ever trust my wife such a huge degree of control over me!

Angelina

Vanessa I know the rules for my chastity belt,but I can marry when I want.

if there was no wedding in sight, do you think you would still have to wear the belt at 50?

Vanessa

Jonas

Was it the effect you hoped for,or a side-effect?

If it is an unexpected side effect,do you like it or not?

Angelina

Probably,yes.

Angelina

In your case,would it not be the case?

Christine She did, but keeps changing her mind

Any chance she changes her mind again and agree you would not have to wear it after you move out?

Christine She doesn't hear me.

Too bad!🙁

Christine I don't care.

So no problem,you could stop wearing it right after you move out,anyway.

Angelina get a job, your own flat and live in freedom again. 🙂

Harder to do than to say.

Avery they ask for proof of income, proof of who you are, a security deposit in case you skip out or cause damages and the first payment must be drawn on a bank, not on your personal account

Similar in France,except we can pay the first month from our account.

Laura

Angelina do you think you would still have to wear the belt at 50?

There should be no age restrictions

Angelina

Laura There should be no age restrictions

i see it a little differently, i don't think the belt should be a lifelong measure at worst

bonzibuddy

Angelina why is Enderman expand dong

Jen

Christine She doesn't hear me.

Christine I don't care.

Christine Will get used to my decision.

Hey look after yourself👋 if you need a break make it happen. If it's time to stop I'll cheer you for stopping

carg

Christine Credit score.

I know credit score (or credit rating) as the trustworthiness for getting a loan, like when you want to buy a house they want to check if you're likely to be paying it off. Normally if you would rent a small apartment, or even a room with a landlord/-lady, it wouldn't be checked, would it? I don't think they are even allowed to here, only banks can.
Or do you mean you built up debt on a credit card and first need to pay that off? Perhaps not, since the solution for that would also be trying to get a better paying job, although it will take longer then until you can move out.

Angelina

Christine She did, but keeps changing her mind.

not good, in general key holders should not change their mind too often. i really hope things will get better for you soon, at the moment you seem very unhappy 🙁

Christine Will get used to my decision.

if she gets used to it, she will probably be able to forgive you, so go ahead. get a job, your own flat and live in freedom again. 🙂

bonzibuddy why is Enderman expand dong

because tree

Laura

carg Normally if you would rent a small apartment, or even a room with a landlord/-lady, it wouldn't be checked, would it?

It would in the US

Christine

Angelina at the moment you seem very unhappy

I just feel myself stuck forever.

Angelina o go ahead. get a job, your own flat and live in freedom again

Sounds like a plan.

Vanessa Any chance she changes her mind again and agree you would not have to wear it after you move out?

I doubt, but if she wishes she should try wearing herself first.

Vanessa you could stop wearing it right after you move out

Immediately.

Rina I think there are many services you can use to get boost in credit score

And more money.

Avery

Laura It would in the US

They even ask for a W-2 (proof of income for tax purposes).

carg

Laura It would in the US

Hmm, I would consider it a big invasion of my privacy if just anyone could check the health of my finances at any time.
But I certainly believe that privacy legislation is stronger in (western?) Europe than in the US.
If the Proof of Income only shows that you have a high-enough regular income, and not exactly how much, that would feel a bit different for me, also because if it is asked, I can still decide if I want to share that info, and with whom. That would seem more balanced between my privacy and their need for financial security.

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