Single again chastity

Angelina

Avery and the first payment must be drawn on a bank, not on your personal account, to make sure the payment is good.

ok, i don't know that, at least not in every case. the other criteria are quite similar in germany, mostly you have to pay a deposit of two months rent.

carg

Avery

Yes, that was as I understood it. I was just surprised that Laura said that a landlord could also check your credit score.

Angelina

carg I was just surprised that Laura said that a landlord could also check your credit score.

In my experience, he only does this if there is a later purchase option for the property.

Vanessa Probably,yes.

sounds scary, i think i would have "quit" my father at the age of 40 at the latest

Vanessa In your case,would it not be the case?

probably not, but it would probably end at some point anyway. the probability of my father living longer than me is very low, but i think we would find a solution at some point.

Vanessa Harder to do than to say.

of course, but the question is what is sexual freedom worth?

Vanessa

Jonas

Was it the effect you hoped for,or a side-effect?

If it is an unexpected side effect,do you like it or not?

Angelina

Probably,yes.

Angelina

In your case,would it not be the case?

Christine She did, but keeps changing her mind

Any chance she changes her mind again and agree you would not have to wear it after you move out?

Christine She doesn't hear me.

Too bad!🙁

Christine I don't care.

So no problem,you could stop wearing it right after you move out,anyway.

Angelina get a job, your own flat and live in freedom again. 🙂

Harder to do than to say.

Avery they ask for proof of income, proof of who you are, a security deposit in case you skip out or cause damages and the first payment must be drawn on a bank, not on your personal account

Similar in France,except we can pay the first month from our account.

Avery

Vanessa Similar in France,except we can pay the first month from our account.

I didn't realize you were in France. No wonder you mentioned my few French phrases, I looked you up in the intro thread. You've been here a long time, since the beginning. I only just started reading some of the intros.

Christine

Angelina at the moment you seem very unhappy

I just feel myself stuck forever.

Angelina o go ahead. get a job, your own flat and live in freedom again

Sounds like a plan.

Vanessa Any chance she changes her mind again and agree you would not have to wear it after you move out?

I doubt, but if she wishes she should try wearing herself first.

Vanessa you could stop wearing it right after you move out

Immediately.

Rina I think there are many services you can use to get boost in credit score

And more money.

Jonas

Vanessa

Was it the effect you hoped for,or a side-effect?

If it is an unexpected side effect,do you like it or not?

I certainly wanted to be more active and so the fact that the chastity/frustration is fuelling this is great. I also wanted to do more around the house.

Compliance was not really the aim as we don't really have a dom/sub relationship, however, I do have a problem with authority and so it is very, very, good for me to do what I am told... especially by someone whom I love and trust.

Vanessa

Avery I didn't realize you were in France. No wonder you mentioned my few French phrases

😉

Avery You've been here a long time, since the beginning

Yes!🙂

Rina

Christine Credit score.

I think there are many services you can use to get boost in credit score, even credit repair service that will help you through recovering your credit score. Try to look into one of them.

Vanessa

Angelina at the age of 40 at the latest

Why at 40?

I would still have the possibility to stop wearing it,but with the same consequences.

Angelina probably not, but it would probably end at some point anyway.

Your father would be bit less strict than my parents,so,about it.

Angelina of course, but the question is what is sexual freedom worth?

I meant it can be hard for her,especially to get a long term job.

Christine I just feel myself stuck forever.

Understandable,but you know you would be free when you get a good job,or be married again.

Are you dating someone,presently?

Christine she should try wearing herself first.

Do you think she would?

And if she does it,would you accept to keep wearing it too?

Angelina talk to your mother about your future and that you are unhappy with the current situation

I think she knows it,and don't care...

Angelina

Christine I just feel myself stuck forever.

Christine Sounds like a plan.

then do whatever you can do. in case of emergency, do a new apprenticeship or study or look for a job for the transition, talk to your mother about your future and that you are unhappy with the current situation. i strongly believe that you can do all this, but you have to want it and start as soon as possible. 🙂

Christine

Angelina talk to your mother about your future and that you are unhappy with the current situation

I did and how I know her opinion.

Vanessa Are you dating someone,presently?

Yes and I'm in active search.

Vanessa Do you think she would?

Ofc not. But it would be a good argument.

Vanessa And if she does it,would you accept to keep wearing it too?

As a small revenge.

Angelina

Vanessa Why at 40?

it seems appropriate to me, i don't have an exact reason, but i think everyone needs at least one perspective

Vanessa Your father would be bit less strict than my parents,so,about it.

that was more related to the fact that for biological reasons my chastity would end at some point

Vanessa I meant it can be hard for her,especially to get a long term job.

That's what I mean too, that's why I say it's a matter of balance.

Vanessa I think she knows it,and don't care...

she can argue against it but i don't think it's appropriate for a mother and keyholder not to care.

Vanessa

Angelina it seems appropriate to me, i don't have an exact reason, but i think everyone needs at least one perspective

Mine is when married.

Angelina That's what I mean too, that's why I say it's a matter of balance.

I don't think it is relevant if she has no job...

Not much choice in this case.

Angelina she can argue against it but i don't think it's appropriate for a mother and keyholder not to care.

I agree,but it seems it the case for her...

Christine Yes and I'm in active search.

You're dating someone and search for someone else?

Christine Ofc not. But it would be a good argument.

Maybe if you get enough good arguments you could have some impact on your situation.

Jonas

So a pleasant side-effect,even if unexpected at first.

saras

Hi!

Still dating your girlfriend?

Angelina

Christine I did and how I know her opinion.

what exactly is her opinion? it is unacceptable that she does not care. she can argue against it, but ignoring it is not acceptable.

Christine Yes and I'm in active search.

I'm glad to hear that 😃

Christine

Angelina what exactly is her opinion?

She wants me to keep wearing a belt.

saras I do feel her pain as her situation is similar to mine

Thank you.

Vanessa You're dating someone and search for someone else?

Last.

Vanessa Maybe if you get enough good arguments you could have some impact on your situation.

That's why I'm here and your advises are very useful.

saras

I do feel her pain as her situation is similar to mine

Laura

saras I do feel her pain as her situation is similar to mine

Any updates from you?

Angelina

saras I do feel her pain as her situation is similar to mine

sorry to ask so directly after such a long time, but how are things with your girlfriend? i hope all is well

Angelina

Vanessa Mine is when married.

But not everyone is lucky enough to get married in their lives.

Vanessa

Angelina

Right.

Christine Last.

Ok,I hope you find a new boyfriend soon,so!

Christine That's why I'm here and your advises are very useful.

Thank you!🙂

I'm glad to help,if I can.

Angelina

Christine She wants me to keep wearing a belt.

did she at least address the fact that it makes you unhappy. does she have any ideas on how you could be better despite the belt? does she motivate you to manage your life again yourself?

carg

Christine That's why I'm here and your advises are very useful.

I'm very happy to hear that. Often I find it hard to judge if advice is welcomed, and if I should continue with what I started, or if that would only lead to frustration.
You seemed to have lost hope that you could get out of your current situation; have our tips helped you see more hope again, and have gotten you more active? I read you are actively looking for a relation now; are you also more active in trying to improve your own financial situation?
In the end it is often best to go into a relationship from a stable situation: if you feel you need the relation to get you out of your current situation, you'll feel dependent on him, which isn't good to start a balanced relation (if that is what you are looking for), and could leave you feel trapped in the relation, if the only alternative would be to move back in with mother and belt.
So I would advise to first get your independence, and then a relationship,. But of course if you don't see a way to reach that independence now, you might fall back on starting a relationship and hope for the best.

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