Am i normal?

Steve first, as i find it hard to open up and then she has to accept me as i am. which sounds stupid and generic but it really is a big problem here.

Maybe try looking on dating sites related to BDSM (if you would like a femdom/FLR relationship).

@Steve

I see the big problem in the fact that you already seem to be a very shy person and I really wonder if the belt doesn't make the problem even bigger?
What is the relationship status of your best friend?

Steve so even after i opened myself up and decided to write someone, it was very disappointing most of the tim

Ok, I think I'm starting to understand your situation. Undoubtedly, it is quite difficult to solve. The only other thing I can suggest is moving to a city where people are more open to sexual kinks and where is bigger BDSM community.

Steve i am. its hard to find someone that truely accpets you as you are. at least here.

Maybe get a t-shirt with "Ask me about my chastity belt!" on it. Conversation starter, and, it would get the belt issue out of the way right at the outset of any relationship!!

More seriously; the longer I spend in enforced chastity the more it becomes a part of who I am. I've made peace with it and so really don't care who knows about it.

The title of this discussion suggests that you're still worried about what other people will think about you. So I'm not totally joking about the T-shirt... What I'm saying is be proud of who you are and all you've achieved!!

With confidence, everything else will come to you.

Jonas I've made peace with it and so really don't care who knows about it.

Easier like this

Steve Not sure I’d accept telling her friends about it. If you wanted to share that would be different, but I couldn’t accept that as a requirement.
Her being the lead doesn’t sound all bad, if you’re happy with that no worries. But it seems that statement is based entirely on your chastity. I could be entirely wrong but that implies to me she sees you as sub based on that alone.
And the big one. I could not accept not being unlocked despite a relationship. To me there should be conditions to get that. A timeframe, engagement, marriage, a certain anniversary, etc.
hope this helps

i was just wondering if you've ever had an orgasm? Of course she will take the lead and of course you'll accept it. I think if i were you i'd ask what her defination of a relationship would be. Just as an outsider looking in, plus her early demands, i can only guess you're headed for complete female domination and ALL that entails. I also doubt that she would ever unlock you. But you would have love. I see a very demanding woman and a man that has not yet made peace with his own submissivness. All in all; i'd take the deal in a heartbeat. See you on fetlife soon!

Steve If you feel it it will be fine with her than why not but I recommend you talk about every detail in advance.

• What does she understand taking the lead? In some parts or all of your relationship?
• Under what conditions will you be open-minded and when and how often will you have sex?
• If you can not fulfil her expectation will their any penalty?
• What influence and in what way are your wishes taken into account?
• If you decide you don't want to continue the relationship, will she hand you the keys straight away?
• How should the finances be regulated?
  If you live in a flat, who will be in the tenancy agreement?
  etc.

Steve After all she sent me home with some things to think about.
I won't get unlocked even if we enter in a relationship (at least for now).
She will take the lead in the relationship. However it won't be onesided as she wants me to be happy.
I should tell her best friends about my chastity and start to accept it.

The only thing I would have serious reservations about is the lack of unlocking. On the one hand, I understand her position, because she probably doesn't want you to see a relationship with her as a form of easy satisfaction. On the other hand, if your goal is to establish a normal relationship and have children, you should discuss this openly with her and agree on the rules under which you will be able to satisfy yourself.

" start to accept your chastity" after fifteen years? My question for the ladies here is always, does long term chastity lead to seeking a dominant partner? I've spent a lot of time in chastity over the years and for me it does. It seems you said that if you found a girl she would have to continue chastity and accept you for who you are. This sounds like the perfet situation for you. What does your ideal relationship look like? Equality? Kink? Big questions. I think if you get honest with yourself, you'll find that your KH is the right match. Either way it seems you'll stay tightly locked. May as well enjoy it with someone vs. staying lonely lost AND locked. It seems that your fate is as sealed as your boy parts.

Steve Some advice would ve really appreciated

i would try it, in my opinion it is your best chance because she knows you, knows the belt and it avoids awkward conversations. also you have to keep one thing in mind, if you meet another woman, she will probably not like it if another woman has the key.

Steve I should tell her best friends about my chastity and start to accept it.

why should you talk to her friends about it? what exactly is the reason for it, i would only accept it if there is a really good reason for it.
You should also consider the questions @Joh has posted.

toad My question for the ladies here is always, does long term chastity lead to seeking a dominant partner?

my girlfriend is not dominant but i think it depends on whether the belt makes you feel submissive or not

i find it hard to believe chastity wouldn't make you feel submissive. But as they say everyone is different

toad i find it hard to believe chastity wouldn't make you feel submissive. But as they say everyone is different

Well you covered yourself by saying everyone is different but I've found attempting chastity has made me feel more in control.