just for fun and interest, should i wear a belt after after the wedding?
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i at least have years of experience, but i have to be honest, i wonder if i'm going crazy?
I had actually finished with the belt, I didn't want the control anymore, even if it was perhaps only the control by my father, and now?
Now I'm thinking about how we could integrate the belt into everyday life. 
as always, all ideas are welcome, but only the serious ones 
Angelina Now I'm thinking about how we could integrate the belt into everyday life.
as always, all ideas are welcome, but only the serious ones
I'd recommend exploring a bit. Don't go back into the belt immediately, but maybe try some related activities. Find out what you enjoy before Dry January 
Angelina Perhaps you could wear it when the two of you are going to be apart. What constitutes apart would have to be decided. Just leaving the house to go to the store? Going away overnight? It would be a good reminder of each other and your commitment to each other hen you are apart. Of course, you could always do more when you are together, also.
I am glad that this is working out for you.
Angelina For how you could use it maybe something like, you wear it all the time, you still have a normal sex life but she has to be satisfied first before the belt comes off.
Or something along those lines.
I really think, at least it seems like anyway, that it wasn’t the belt you hated it was the control
Angelina i wonder if i'm going crazy?
Let me frame this differently: Would you not agree that having your parent's hands on your privates is very different from having your spouse's hands on your privates? Even without the implications on what the parent's intentions might be (surely motivated by kindness, not lust, of course), I would reckon that the touch of your spouse would be much more welcome.
But yeah, my proposal would be in line with Tjc and Sasha, perhaps even in the middle of the two: The belt comes off when you are both ready to make love. With obvious exceptions based on mutual agreement for anything from hygiene needs to outings where the belt would pose a practical problem of course. This is not about distrust in you, but in having your wife's loving embrace constantly present on your body, after all.
thank you for your input, my wife and i are currently discussing this very actively
first of all, we have come to a point, if i really take this seriously and really want to use it seriously, then i would at least have to wear the belt all the time. then there is no reason why i don't wear it except for sexual activities. for the bra you could use other standards, but we are still thinking about that. Thighbands should not be a permanent fixture and should only be used in exceptional circumstances, for example if I break one of the rules.
the big sticking point at the moment is how to balance the restrictions of the belt with a fulfilling sex life. this is important for our marriage, but the question is to what extent sexual control and my right to orgasms go together.
There are several possibilities. My wife could always unlock me when we want to have sex, or I could only get a limited number of orgasms. If we decide on a limited number, we have to consider how many I need to continue to be happy and up to what point it is okay to remain sexually frustrated.
these are the points we are currently discussing, including the issue of breaks for cleaning, so whether they will be monitored or whether I will be showered by my wife like in Locktober has not yet been decided
As far as an emergency system is concerned, we have already considered using sealed envelopes and we are considering setting a "trial period" so that we can back out if the whole thing does not meet our expectations
further ideas are of course always welcome
Angelina, sometimes I feel you'll lock your belt back on to rescue this forum^
Angelina the big sticking point at the moment is how to balance the restrictions of the belt with a fulfilling sex life. this is important for our marriage, but the question is to what extent sexual control and my right to orgasms go together.
There are several possibilities. My wife could always unlock me when we want to have sex, or I could only get a limited number of orgasms. If we decide on a limited number, we have to consider how many I need to continue to be happy and up to what point it is okay to remain sexually frustrated.
I feel like instead of firm rules, you should leave some space for spur-of-the-moment decisions and give her some agency in deciding based on what feels right. Particularly if you want to explore your submissive side further. Set a minimum that is well on the frustrated side (though still somewhat bearable), but give her the opportunity to grant you more if she wants to. If it becomes too much, you can always adjust the arrangement later.
Sorta wondering if at any time in the foreseeable future, a new belt might be in the cards for Camryn, though.
youdontknowme I feel like instead of firm rules, you should leave some space for spur-of-the-moment decisions and give her some agency in deciding based on what feels right
Agreed, to a certain extent, although this could be on a "decide once per month" basis or something like that. I've found it's worth trying different things, rather than jumping into one set of rules.
youdontknowme Sorta wondering if at any time in the foreseeable future, a new belt might be in the cards for Camryn, though.
As someone in a relationship where we both have belts, I highly recommend considering this. Lots of scope for fun.
Angelina thank you for your input, my wife and i are currently discussing this very actively
Why don't you let your wife decide if, when and how you will get orgasms in the future - and also when you have to wear the bands? She needs to have the freedom to actively make decisions to develop her own style and ideas instead of following only your suggestions.
Yes, that might be more risky for you, as you could end up extended times in bands or without orgasms, but after all she is your wife, you love her and trust her. So show her your trust by giving her the freedom to make decisions as she sees fit.
curious Yes, that might be more risky for you, as you could end up extended times in bands or without orgasms, but after all she is your wife, you love her and trust her. So show her your trust by giving her the freedom to make decisions as she sees fit.
Whilst totally giving over power is one way to do this kind of thing, I'm not sure it's the most fun all of the time. It could be good to try for a while, but it's not the only way to enjoy this kind of thing.
Angelina Angelina, it seems like the two of you have given this much thought and discussed it extensively. It would make sense that to have this be a serious effort, you would wear the belt all the time or at least as much as is practical. It is apparent that your wife loves you and is supportive of this exploration and it is obvious that you both trust each other. Perhaps, it makes sense for you to just allow her to be the sole one to determine your level of restriction based on her needs and her understanding of your needs. Her can allow orgasms for you as she sees fit with the intent of having you be happy but always just a little bit hungry for more. She can decide the extent that she trusts you to follow whatever rules she sets about "me time" while showering, whether it is permitted, limited, or forbidden all together. When you are happy and follow the rules, she allows more of treats you to showering together. When you do not follow the rules, the privilege is limited or removed. The thigh bands allow for an additional way for her to encourage you to comply with the rules you set together.
It seems to me that this could be fun for you both and also let you continue to grow closer and learn about each other. I wish you the best of luck.
curious I dont know how much do you know about BDSM (and consent at all). Im nor expert but your opinion is strictly against everything what I read about it. All people I know say that you have to start slowly, try what you like and dont like, every step with agreement and safe word. This is the difference between BDSM and abuse (the difference is not in how you mean it - you can want the best but you can make it in abusive way).
Kaja
This is not about how BDSM is done. Plenty of people have as many ideas about what is the right way to do it.
When you grow older and get more life experience, then you will come to realise that it does not matter what all those people think. Even if 99% agree on something it might still be wrong for you.
Angelina has the experience to live extended periods even with very strict belting and knows, she can handle it if need be.
Her wife however needs t9 find her own way of being a keyholder. Restricting her in this endesvour by setting all the rules, how could she ever find out what she enjoys?
She needs the space to try out things, maybe sometimes that means Angelina gets more orgasms as necessary, sometimes maybe she is too strict. But finding her way is a process that requires experimenting.
And as they love and trust each other, that should all that is necessary. If you are married and do not trust your partner to find a good balance (after some experimenting which can include deviating a bit to either side) that makes both of you happy, I would argue you have married the wrong person.
As much as I disagree with curious about his whole "if an opinion exists, it is equally valid" attitude, in this case I would like to defend him a bit. All he did was show alternatives, present a different side in the spectrum of options, maybe nudge her away a bit from her natural tendency towards inflexible, but clearly defined rules. "Trust her" and "give her the freedom to make decisions" does not imply completely waiving the need for consent or surrendering her rights as an individual. It just means not being afraid of her making unpredicted choices.
That said, Kaja, you are absolutely right to remind people of the importance of consent, and its nature as a specific choice that can be taken away as easily as it has been granted. Keeping this in mind is especially important for couples exploring unfamiliar territory, which is probably what Angelina and Camryn would be doing if they started allowing more discretion into a dynamic that they have previously approached with rather formal rules.