@WriterAlexis
OK. I ask in a different way.
Are the circumstances in which you live the cause that you get the idea of jumping off a bridge without the medication or does it have other medical reasons that you don't need to go into here?

Certainly, one can see it as such that the social structure defines the genders. My question was also about how you feel. If it's always different, that's no problem, just as little as if you can't define one for yourself. It would simplify the conversation.

Are you of age in your country?

    @WriterAlexis just a heads up, most of the users on this forum are not native English speakers, so subtlety and implication are often not as useful communication tools as they would normally be.

      pestulens

      Noted. Stylistically, my introduction was as it was because that is me. I cannot simplify me to be any simpler.

      Communication where I intend to relay or inquire actual information cogent to the topic of this forum will be more direct.

        WriterAlexis Maternal expectation, terrible behavioral precedence by my elder sister

        What did your sister do? Does she also wear a chastity belt?

        WriterAlexis Gender is a social construct.

        Did your slightly "revolutionary" views on moral and sexual issues influence the fact that you ended up in a chastity belt?

        How long have you been wearing the belt?

              Andrew

              What did your sister do?

              May be faster to list what she hasn't done. If my rebelliousness is philosophical, hers is very much practical. But topping the list would be drinking, drugs, wrecking her car, a pregnancy scare, failing out of college, consorting with bad influences, and demonstrating a total lack of ambition on a daily basis.

              She is sweet. She is not a bad person. But she is in desperate need of wisdom and discernment.

              Does she also wear a chastity belt?

              Yes, until she gets her life on track. I do not know when that will happen, because she is still receiving some serious favoritism and coddling.

              Did your slightly "revolutionary" views on moral and sexual issues influence the fact that you ended up in a chastity belt?

              Streisand effect. Other way around. If you bar someone from exploring their sexuality, they are going to prioritize it to the exclusion of all else.

                  WriterAlexis

                  Your mother does not have to wear the belt?

                  WriterAlexis Yes, until she gets her life on track. I do not know when that will happen, because she is still receiving some serious favoritism and coddling.

                  In what sense?

                        WriterAlexis But topping the list would be drinking, drugs, wrecking her car, a pregnancy scare, failing out of college, consorting with bad influences, and demonstrating a total lack of ambition on a daily basis.

                        As for the fear of pregnancy, I understand perfectly well (I'm in a somewhat similar situation myself), but for the rest, I don't think a chastity belt will fix anything here.

                        What is your parents' attitude towards masturbation? Reading your posts, I can't quite understand whether you can do it or not...

                            Ines

                            Your mother does not have to wear the belt?

                            She does have belts, but does not use one all of the time.

                            In what sense?

                            Right now she is staying at home rent-free while not studying or working a "real" job. There is no incentive or pressure for her to grow and better herself, except the expectation she finds a husband. Even when she does trash her life, the consequences she faces are so much lower than what I would, because mom is closer to her.

                            The whole reason I had to start wearing a belt was because my dad didn't want it to seem like he was favoring me by being my biological father and making only his stepdaughter wear one. So I harbor some resentment that she gets to receive favoritism in the form of breaks and privileges that I no longer have.

                            I am probably biased in my perception of things. And blending families is always complicated, but I just sometimes feel a certain kind of way about it sometimes.

                                Sabina

                                What is your parents' attitude towards masturbation?

                                The church is certainly against it. My parents have always discouraged it.

                                It is honestly not that big a deal to me in practice. There are some days where I don't care at all, some days when I am a panty liner-exchanging rampageous ball of lust, some days where I am a Grouchy McGrouch about it, and some days when I am generally happy to not have that as a possible distraction. And even if I have access, climax is exceedingly difficult at my current dose of sertraline. For me, it is more about the principle.

                                    WriterAlexis The whole reason I had to start wearing a belt was because my dad didn't want it to seem like he was favoring me by being my biological father and making only his stepdaughter wear one. So I harbor some resentment that she gets to receive favoritism in the form of breaks and privileges that I no longer have.

                                    I feel like you could easily make the case here that punishing you for your sister's behavior is not really helpful in encouraging you to be a good girl, and that ensuring fairness could be done more effectively with a consistent set of rules, rewards and punishments that apply to both. That they only have themselves to blame if you end up making worse decisions than she did, because none of your choices ever mattered.

                                        Sabina but for the rest, I don't think a chastity belt will fix anything here.

                                        It depends if her sister wants to change, that is the only reason the belt worked for me. And others I'd imagine.

                                            WriterAlexis The whole reason I had to start wearing a belt was because my dad didn't want it to seem like he was favoring me by being my biological father and making only his stepdaughter wear one. So I harbor some resentment that she gets to receive favoritism in the form of breaks and privileges that I no longer have

                                            I think it's fucking unfair that you have to wear a belt just because your sister did stupid things. Everyone should bear the consequences of their own actions. I'm not surprised that you feel disadvantaged by the situation, especially when your sister has more privileges than you. Could you refuse to wear a belt?

                                            WriterAlexis my current dose of sertraline

                                            I'm not a psychiatrist, but a chastity belt and treating depression at the same time doesn't look good for me...

                                            youdontknowme punishing you for your sister's behavior is not really helpful in encouraging you to be a good girl

                                            Totally agree.

                                            Sasha It depends if her sister wants to change

                                            I'm afraid the only change her sister might want as a result of wearing the belt is to be free from it and her parents.

                                                      Well, I in this point I see it in a similar way to her stepfather: if a girl wears it, it is better if the rest wear it too. It avoids comparisons and grievances.

                                                        Ines You mean like @WriterAlexis has the grievance that she is belted without a reason, as punishment for what her stepsister did?

                                                        I think it avoids grievance only if it's explicitly not seen as punishment.

                                                        If it is seen as punishment, then extending it to all siblings to treat them equal, when not all of them have "sinned" this is exactly the non-equal treatment that you wanted to avoid.

                                                            George I think it avoids grievance only if it's explicitly not seen as punishment.

                                                            Ines Well, I in this point I see it in a similar way to her stepfather: if a girl wears it, it is better if the rest wear it too. It avoids comparisons and grievances.

                                                            If an affliction is imposed as a consequence of someone's wrongdoing, it will always be perceived as a punishment. As far as I know, there was no such situation in your family @Ines, so the attitude of individual girls towards the belt is different.

                                                                I am with George and Andrew here. This is not like Ines's situation where the family decided to adopt a general chastity policy, if the introduction of the belts was indeed in response to one person's misbehavior.

                                                                Furthermore, while I obviously would consider

                                                                WriterAlexis Even when she does trash her life, the consequences she faces are so much lower than what I would, because mom is closer to her.

                                                                The whole reason I had to start wearing a belt was because my dad didn't want it to seem like he was favoring me by being my biological father and making only his stepdaughter wear one. So I harbor some resentment that she gets to receive favoritism in the form of breaks and privileges that I no longer have.

                                                                this bit a case of unreliable narrator, and would assume that Alexis surely did something that caused her to lose privileges that her sister enjoys, there is clearly some work to be done in terms of ensuring fair standards. Even if there is a uniform chastity policy in place, any punishments or rewards regarding that, such as gain/loss of privileges and such, should follow a clear set of rules in such case. Everyone gets the same baseline arrangement, and all deviations from that are either uniformly shared by everyone or inflicted specifically on the person who has done the deed. Any punishable misbehavior should either be specified as such in mutually agreed-upon rules or be so egregious that any reasonable person would agree that it merits a punishment. Rewards may of course be a little more ad hoc, but the reason for a reward should be announced such that consistent standards can be monitored.

                                                                Now obviously, this has so far completely ignored the matter of consent, which to me looks like it is formally there, but neither meets the standard of freely given nor of enthusiastic. That is of course an entirely different matter, but this is about a double standard. Non-consent obviously makes this worse, but even in a fully consensual arrangement, that would be a red flag that merits a serious discussion with the possibility of revoking said consent.

                                                                    Andrew

                                                                    Could you refuse to wear a belt?

                                                                    Absolutely, and I have done so before. Even the most disenfranchised, powerless persons in history still have some basic decisions to make on how exactly they will proceed. Every choice we make has consequences both positive and negative, and will impact what our lives will be like. There are always other things that can be taken away. I want to keep my phone. I want to be able to go to the library. I need transportation to do certain things. I want to be able to leave the house unchaperoned, so I can work/volunteer, because those are important to my future and I want to be able to help people. Some of those privileges my sister has have come as a result of her choice to be yoked and beholden in other fashions.

                                                                    As children, there is always going to be an inherent power imbalance with our parents. And they have choices to make as well, that will have consequences, but were not necessarily done maliciously. They are going to make decisions they feel are best, the same way we do. So I will continue operating in a way which I will derive maximum benefit for myself and eventually lead me to the life that I want to be living.

                                                                    a chastity belt and treating depression at the same time doesn't look good for me.

                                                                    Uncorrelated. I have been manifesting anxiety and OCD for as long as I have been communicative. I will not use it as an excuse for anything, nor does it diminish my capabilities. The reason I communicate so openly about mental illness is that it is possibly the only phenomenon more heavily stigmatized in America than either female sexuality or anti-capital views. It is a medical condition that millions of us have and should be treated as such. You wouldn't suggest that a hay fever sufferer who takes diphenhydramine and experiences fatigue as a side effect be ineligible for chastity. (I also have hay fever.)

                                                                    the only change her sister might want as a result of wearing the belt is to be free from it and her parents.

                                                                    That is ultimately what happens for all of us, whether we want it or not. Sooner or later as we grow and mature, we move on with our lives, and they move on with theirs. I know that day is coming when I will be almost entirely independent of their rules, their belts, their oversight. But also their protection and financial support. I am just getting my ducks in a row until then and reminding myself that "This too shall pass."

                                                                        WriterAlexis Ines is from a very conservative catholic family and has rather strong views on different roles for different genders.