WriterAlexis So I harbor some resentment that she gets to receive favoritism in the form of breaks and privileges that I no longer have.

why does your sister get breaks from the belt when you don't, even though she has more reason to wear one than you do?

Maybe it's because I'm reading a lot here today, but I haven't fully understood your story yet. That's why I'm asking briefly and precisely to get an idea.

Your sister and you both wear a chastity belt?
You have to wear it because your sister had problems and now you're being collectively punished, right?
can you masturbate?
Why does your sister get breaks from the belt and you don't?

      Sabina In my opinion, what you write is evidence of obvious coercion on the part of your parents, if you are threatened with being denied such basic things if you give up the belt.

      I mean, we know nothing about how old she is, but I would say if she is old enough to wear a belt, things like being able to own a phone or visit the library seem like fairly unreasonable restrictions to enforce on a daughter who does not comply with fairly tall parental demands.

          youdontknowme Judging by the highly intellectual writing style, she is a mature person, at least at the high school level, although I think she is older.

              Sabina If she were below high school level and her parents were making her wear a chastity belt, that should ring several alarm bells and get a whole lot of authorities involved.

                George You mean like @WriterAlexis has the grievance that she is belted without a reason, as punishment for what her stepsister did?

                Do not forget that she wears her belt as the result of a deal.

                WriterAlexis By that logic, shouldn't dad be caged too? Seems turnabout is fair play.

                No chastity belt for men in my family. It is a girls thing.

                Women have to act and behave as women, and men as men.

                    George You mean like @WriterAlexis has the grievance that she is belted without a reason, as punishment for what her stepsister did?

                    Well, I think it is not a punishment, but a, -wrong-, way to solve some problems. Since her sister had problems with behaviors very improper for girls, it is very reasonable that they think in a chastity belt as a solution.
                    Since her mother has to wear the belt too, and nobody is forced to wear it, I think that there is not room for complaints.

                        Ines Since her mother has to wear the belt too, and nobody is forced to wear it, I think that there is not room for complaints

                        Based on her description, it sounds like even if she is not technically forced, she is at least coerced.

                          Ines Since her mother has to wear the belt too

                          Does she have to?
                          She only has belts that are not required to be worn. At least how I understand this

                          WriterAlexis She does have belts, but does not use one all of the time.

                                Laura Does she have to?

                                I understand that her mother has to wear the belt even her rules are a bit different of her daughters rules.

                                Angelina why does your sister get breaks from the belt when you don't, even though she has more reason to wear one than you do?

                                It is a great question for @WriterAlexis

                                    Sabina

                                    If I may ask, does your OCD have anything to do with sexuality?

                                    Yes. I think it was entirely ancillary to the decision for me to be in chastity because I doubt my parents know the extent, but unmedicated and left to my own devices, it would become highly compulsive during high stress times. I can remember the weeks before some of my academic tests or some of the swimming/horseback competitions I was doing, my membranes would be raw and inflamed in the morning. I did not tell the psychiatrists about what I was doing, because masturbation (especially female) has so much shame attached to it from religious indoctrination, despite being a normal, healthy part of childhood sexual development. Of course, even then it must be engaged in with appropriate levels of privacy and moderation.

                                        Angelina

                                        Summary post.

                                        Your sister and you both wear a chastity belt?

                                        Me and older step-sister do. Younger half-sister is still elementary age.

                                        You have to wear it because your sister had problems and now you're being collectively punished, right?

                                        Basically. I wouldn't necessarily use the word "punish" here, but a decision was made and applied to both of us to supposedly increase fairness and avoid strife.

                                        can you masturbate?

                                        At the risk of pendantry knowing English is not your primary language (and an incredible job you have done in mastering it! @angelina) I will split this into two answers.

                                        May I masturbate? The weird, cultish church some dude in New York made up about a dead angel, some gold plates buried in the ground, Jesus living in America, and an ancient tribe of Israelites crossing the Atlantic ocean 2,000 years before Columbus, no. It is sinful. And the kool-aid sipping parental units buy into that.

                                        Can I masturbate? I do not have much opportunity to do so at the moment. Additionally, because of medication that is vitally important to me, and I am so exceedingly grateful for the economic position my family is in to afford it (compared to yours, the heathcare in this country is even more backward than our religious notions) it is exceedingly difficult for me to achieve orgasm under ecen ideal circumstances.

                                        Why does your sister get breaks from the belt and you don't?

                                        1. She is older and more independent than me.
                                        2. She was, is, and forever shall be the Golden Child.
                                        3. I have also made some mistakes of my own since then. Despite whatever level of maturity I may or may not have, I now recognize that I am a human who still needs to grow if I am to be the moral, ethical being that I ultimately wish to be. And the scariest thing about that does not have anything to do with parental oversight, chastity belts, or punishments. It is that I may never actually reach that state and I remain a deeply flawed, broken creature eeking out its meager existence until it ahuffles off this mortal coil. I want to be the person I should be, I just don't know if I can.

                                            Laura

                                            All I know is that she was wearing before my sister and I and that she is not wearing much of the time. I don't know what rules my mom and dad have, and I am not about to ask.

                                              WriterAlexis May I masturbate? The weird, cultish church some dude in New York made up about a dead angel, some gold plates buried in the ground, Jesus living in America, and an ancient tribe of Israelites crossing the Atlantic ocean 2,000 years before Columbus, no. It is sinful. And the kool-aid sipping parental units buy into that.

                                              Ah, I didn't know that the Mormons smoke such good pot. Must be good stuff.

                                              WriterAlexis Additionally, because of medication that is vitally important to me

                                              A lottery win, physical chastity and chemical chastity. Poor girl.

                                              WriterAlexis I am so exceedingly grateful for the economic position my family is in to afford it

                                              You mentioned you are taking Sertralin, I checked, that's not exactly an earth shattering medication, the cheapest version in Austria has a healthsystem price of €8,25 for 30x100mg, so the private price (should be in the €12-13 range). So curious what are you paying in the US that you point out the economic position of your family?

                                                      George

                                                      So curious what are you paying in the US that you point out the economic position of your family?

                                                      About the same, but only because they are paying my insurance premium first. Without that, it would probably be over $100/month. It kind of reminds me of this video. (SFW)
                                                      https://youtu.be/Kll-yYQwmuM

                                                          George Ah, I didn't know that the Mormons smoke such good pot. Must be good stuff.

                                                          The Book of Mormon is about the weirder pirces of scripture that fall under the umbrella of greater Christianity. Not as weird as some of the more fringe cults, but pretty weird for such a large church.

                                                          WriterAlexis I have also made some mistakes of my own since then. Despite whatever level of maturity I may or may not have, I now recognize that I am a human who still needs to grow if I am to be the moral, ethical being that I ultimately wish to be. And the scariest thing about that does not have anything to do with parental oversight, chastity belts, or punishments. It is that I may never actually reach that state and I remain a deeply flawed, broken creature eeking out its meager existence until it ahuffles off this mortal coil. I want to be the person I should be, I just don't know if I can.

                                                          Being the person we want to be is a struggle for everyone, not just the ones of us that consider themselves broken in some way. Fallibility is a trait that is inherently human, and whether or not you subscribe to the religious doctrine that we are all sinners who need to find forgiveness and make the most out of it, it is a matter of fact that when you hold yourself to a high standard, there will always be moments when you fall short. That is not a failure, that is just testament to the standard you aspire to. Never think you are not good enough - if you fall short of your expectations, that just means you still have room to become better in the future.

                                                          And unless you get an unplanned pregnancy, an STI or you get implicated in a crime for it, a minor sexual misstep is not going to ruin your life either.

                                                              WriterAlexis I can remember the weeks before some of my academic tests or some of the swimming/horseback competitions I was doing, my membranes would be raw and inflamed in the morning

                                                              I suspected so. I just thought it was more likely to push your parents (rather than you) to decide about chastity belt.

                                                              WriterAlexis Can I masturbate? I do not have much opportunity to do so at the moment.

                                                              How do your parents justify prohibiting masturbation for you? Religion or (also) some other reasons?

                                                                    WriterAlexis Well, here it would be around €12-13 for uninsured (or "privately insured"), and the health care system (we do have basically 3 different "health social insurances, normal workers, self-employed/farmers and government employees, so it's almost single payer) €8-9 are paid by the healt-insurance and actually the co-pay for the insured is €6.85 (if you earn little or pay many prescriptions you don't pay that), so in this case the benefit of being insured is actually paying more or less only the co-pay, because the health system price is lower than the regular one.

                                                                    But you are suggesting that regular price is something like $100 which is ridiculous for a medicine that costs €12 or so in Europe. Well, I'm sure the pharmaceutical industry and their shareholders appreciate the US system more.

                                                                        Sabina How do your parents justify prohibiting masturbation for you? Religion or (also) some other reasons?

                                                                        You just have to read:

                                                                        WriterAlexis May I masturbate? The weird, cultish church some dude in New York made up about a dead angel, some gold plates buried in the ground, Jesus living in America, and an ancient tribe of Israelites crossing the Atlantic ocean 2,000 years before Columbus, no. It is sinful. And the kool-aid sipping parental units buy into that.

                                                                              George That is a common criticism of the US healthcare system. People have gone broke on something as basic as insulin.