Vanessa I think taking control without your consent is a form of abuse.If you were ok before,you talked about it a lot,why not,but,as it seems it wasn't the case,I think it is not good at all.
Generally I think the same, but if you go into a marriage without beeing forced by someone after this conditions during the engagement, it feels consensual from this point.
I think she could quit the engagement anytime she wants, but she didn't.
Sara, good that you're writing about this 
I am very worried about @Mary, I am afraid that the engagement is based on serious abuse 
but I always remember that I thought the same thing about Daniel in the beginning and you were able to convey the positive aspects of your relationship to me
so I don't want to be prejudiced and hope that Mary will write again 
I'll bundle the answers to several questions into this post. I'm happily married and wear the belt 24x7. It only comes off when he wants it off. That, and also every morning and most evenings when I shower - supervised. The used belt goes into the dishwasher and I put on a fresh, clean one.
The biggest problem I have is with the thighbands and chastity bra when he goes on business trips. When I'm wearing only the belt, I can do my cardio and pilates. But when he has me wearing accessories, that becomes impossible. So when he's out of town I can't exercise. I don't like those down times.
Our marriage is wonderful, much happier than most of my friends'. Since we know who makes the decisions, we never argue about it. Yes, I know it's politically incorrect for me to say, but I don't have equal rights and that's just fine. He's sweet and usually make decisions that will make me happy. What's wrong with that?
yes i was very shocked i got it for my birthday and i have to say that there could not have been a worse present for my 16th birthday
if you're scared of it, just ask
ok that sounds a little better and there is nothing wrong with it as long as it is acceptable for you but for most women it would not be
Mary The used belt goes into the dishwasher
Dishwasher? It have to be nice for neoprene...
But for sure @strictfather will be glad with it.
Mary I put on a fresh, clean one.
And the old is hung to dry, I guess.
Hi to everyone. I am Nataly, 16 years old. I am glad that I have found this forum and to know that I am not alone in this.
Mary Thank you for your answer. Are there any other rules or protocols you have to accept in your marriage? I would love to know anything. I'm sure there are many interesting aspects for me, because I think my (possible) marriage with my current boyfriend may have many similarities with yours. What happens if you don't follow the rules? How and who makes the rules and how big is your influence? It would be great if you can explain as much as you like 
catherine98
No, they don't require me to wear it permanent, at least not yet. My stepdad says it would be the easiest but I disagree. I said that I need time without it for cleaning and other things. Mom agreed with me that I can not wear it without breaks.
Angelina Umm, no one so far said any word about masturbation so I think they have it not on their mind that I do it. I think I better not ask about it. What do you think?
Were you shocked?
