Angelina But also accept your parents' opinion on the subject.

Disagree of course

Angelina think mutual understanding is the best solution if you want to continue living with your parents

They will not send her away. It would be suicidal. Than for the rest you know my position, so useless to discuss it again

        Tasha Concratulation to Stand Up for yourself.
        Have you thought about setting yourself a schedule for your me-time?
        It would help you not to fall back into old habits. For example, once a month or on every Sunday.

            Joh Have you thought about setting yourself a schedule for your me-time?

            Currently I've not messed around too much, but yes some sort of a semi rigid seems probably for the better.

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                Tasha
                I know a women who want to stay cast but not without it until heir wedding. Every last Sunday of the month she is without her belt and then has her me-time.
                The other time she wears her belt. She says it is less hard and no temptation to cheat

                    Tasha My mum unlocked and took it away

                    Congratulations. I always fail in it because talk with the belt on šŸ˜ƒ

                    Laura You have missed my irony. Since @Renita can't get free from her belt by moving out she should move in

                    It's not as much ironical as you think. If I moved in, I wouldn't wear the belt when we are both home.

                    Tasha Just a day out the belt and I'm already happier

                    It's more than a day now.

                    Tasha Would be hard to go back in

                    When is it planned to be?

                              Renita Congratulations. I always fail in it because talk with the belt on šŸ˜ƒ

                              Break it. So you can talk without the belt on. Breaking the lock is not so hard. Pretty easy actually because it is very small

                              Or when you are opened refuse to get back and talk with her while unbelted.

                                Joh well I had worked out a deal like that before, I also mentioned it on the fourm somewhere.

                                For me it didn't really work out, probably because of my sister being out, I having the possibility to get out of the belt fully, and emotions

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                                    Renita When is it planned to be?

                                    Like when going outside or when I'm left alone at home. Or if I decide to dumb things, maybe they put the belt on me. But I don't think I'll do dumb stuff.

                                        Tasha For me it didn't really work out, probably because of my sister being out, I having the possibility to get out of the belt fully, and emotions

                                        Sorry, I don't get it.

                                            youdontknowme Now I imagine you bringing a boy home and asking for the key with him around...

                                            But she is unbelted at home, just need to find an excuse for him šŸ˜‚

                                              youdontknowme I'm not that stupid haha. If I dare ask that there will be a huge commotion at the home.

                                              Joh Sorry, I don't get it.

                                              I was promised monthly unlocking before, I remember posting it here.

                                              Aside:
                                              And I've been very busy and will be this week.

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                                                  Tasha Thier opinion would be to he belted at home which is not what I'm looking to be in again.

                                                  Milord Disagree of course

                                                  please read again, i said accept the opinion of the parents and not follow the opinion

                                                        Milord and i disagree on accepting their opinion.

                                                        hey, it's nothing different than what I often do to you here. I don't agree with you on some points, but I accept your opinion and try to understand it. @Tasha should do nothing different either.

                                                            Angelina

                                                            Maybe we give a different meaning to the word ā€œacceptingā€. I donā€™t accept opinion I disagree with. I respect the right to express them, but I donā€™t respect the idea per se if for me itā€™s completely wrong. I normally give a lot of explanation on why I donā€™t accept them.

                                                            So in my opinion accepting is recognising that the idea is valid, even if I disagree on it
                                                            For example I accept the idea @Ines being belted. Do I think she should? No. But I accept she want this and happy about it.

                                                            Hope the example clarify my position.

                                                                Milord That approach works well when in a situation where the ideas themselves are primary (like this forum). However, when trying to navigate a personal relationship we sometimes need to accept and work around unreasonable and/or irrational ideas.

                                                                To use Tasha's situation as an example, if she completely disregards her parents' opinion it will probably damage the relationship. Thad doesn't mean she has to do what they want all the time, but at least take their opinion into consideration and show them that she takes it seriously and they are more likely to accept a compromise she is willing to make.

                                                                    pestulens I agree, but when it is out of convenience, I will not call this accepting idea, i will call it accepting situation.

                                                                    On a personal opinion, that someone must accept unfair limit to her personal freedom cannot be accepted even as a situation. But this is me.

                                                                      Tasha Like when going outside or when I'm left alone at home.

                                                                      And it didn't happen yet or what?

                                                                          Renita we did go out once with my parents, me and her weren't belted because we were together with my parents. They were by my side while shopping around.

                                                                          But I'm sure if I were to go out by myself they will bring the belt