Laura

But a different situation. I know it's pointless to tell you each time, and I'm just bothering you, but I would really like that you understand how much you are damaging yourself

      Milord But a different situation.

      Why is it? I'm talking about when I was 19. The situation was pretty similar

      Milord that you understand how much you are damaging yourself

      Damaging how?

            Laura Why is it? I'm talking about when I was 19. The situation was pretty similar

            But you are no longer 19, and your situation now is exactly the same. Same situation at different age make different situation

            As for damaging, may I answer via mail?

                Milord and your situation now is exactly the same

                No, it's different now

                Milord As for damaging, may I answer via mail?

                As you wish

                      Laura No, it's different now

                      May I ask in which way? Belted at 19, belted now. Living at home at 19, living at home now. According to what I know of course

                          Tasha I could live alone if I wanted to. I'll be making less profits but it can be done for sure (if things get really bad)

                          But living with them gives me a big house to roam in and home cooked food which I do like hah

                          That's the quid pro quo. You get locked by them for an easier life else. perfectly reasonable IMO

                              Greatcornbow

                              I disagree. This should be provided to a 19yo without having to give personal freedom away (hint: this is how it happens everywhere, and where it doesn't happen it normally end in raisedbynarcissistic subreddit)

                                  Milord and where it doesn't happen it normally end in raisedbynarcissistic subreddit)

                                  I doubt that most people who go through these experiences post on Reddit about it, but yeah, the stories will be similar.

                                      youdontknowme

                                      Of course, but it is to explain the point. Most abuses are never told, even if I see that something is moving and people start to talk

                                        Milord I have the impression that there are some girls on this forum who are simply comfortable with this form of dependence on their parents, which is why they accept wearing a belt.

                                            Tasha But living with them gives me a big house to roam in and home cooked food which I do like hah

                                            This is a pro on your list and only few releases is the contra. Anyway you are in a good position for a better agreement. You can offer to continue with the belt with more me-time. You decide how often is good and not distracting e.g. ones per month or every weekend.

                                                Joh yeah I'm going to talk about it with them soon, I need to find a good opportunity to.

                                                And, I still haven't forgotten your request to find a similar belt, I'll send one eventually.

                                                    Tasha is mainly reduce.. forced sex (not sure if I can use the word here) and teen pregnancies from my understanding.

                                                    forced sex is always a crime no matter what age and there are contraceptives against teenage pregnancies, this law simply criminalises teenage couples in love

                                                    Tasha The correlation seems more towards thier mood than my behaviour.

                                                    seems very arbitrary and somehow illogical to me. i'm glad you have breaks (even if not many) but i don't really understand your parents' goal

                                                    Tasha I was a bit surprised on the showers too, but not quite sure what happened there. I'm not going to discuss it with them regardless.

                                                    yes, here too it is better if you don't discuss it, but this is another point that is absolutely illogical

                                                    Tasha yeah I'm going to talk about it with them soon, I need to find a good opportunity to.

                                                    i've never had the opportunity to get breaks myself, but how do you negotiate that without it being very embarrassing? being locked in a chastity belt by your parents is obviously something uncomfortable, but then asking if you can get breaks to masturbate? How do you do that without it being totally humiliating? Question goes out to the whole community

                                                              Angelina but then asking if you can get breaks to masturbate?

                                                              Ask for Demand your me-time without any explanation. Everybody will know but nobody will say

                                                                Angelina this law simply criminalises teenage couples in love

                                                                Nothing more to say on my side. That's how it is here.

                                                                My parents claim (as I've said before) they use the belt to prevent pre-marital sex and excessive masturbation. I'm okay with thier goals but not the way they execute thier goal. As I said before, I'm okay with being belted outside home, more releases are all I want.

                                                                They aren't that "strict" on rules or previously agreed upon things. They change things (usually for the better) as they see fit. I can't understand what thier thought process is, but I don't question it unless it's a worse outcome.

                                                                Not much conversation happens about the belt in my home. They behave as if nothing happens regarding the belt/cage - unless there is something seriously wrong with it as the one time it happened with my brother. The last time i negotiated (fought pretty much) for releases I just brought it up before sleep, on a day my parents seemed happy. It turned into a bit of a fight but eventually things settled down. But yeah it did take some courage to ask/demand it to them.

                                                                While @Joh makes a good statement of ask/demand, it does take some courage to go ask for it, (especially for me) without it turning into super awkward/ have a worse outcome.

                                                                    Tasha It is your life and you have to do the work. 😉 We can only give you some tips, maybe another view at the situation, some arguments for discussion but in the end you have to face it.
                                                                    I think it's a good start to let them know that you understand their point of view and their leadership concerns. But now you're an adult and you want to handle it yourself. Ask them to carry the CB out of the house but you have your regular time at home without the CB. This should be so that it doesn't take you away from your life because you are too busy with yourself. I think you will know best.