I do feel that most people, in this society, expect guys to do and like manly things, like being interested in sports, cars, and openly discussing porn or something like that. Personally, I am not interested in sports, but I am interested in games with stories. As for cars, new model every year, so I'm not going to bother keeping track of them, even though I like computer and they come out every year, I stick with one pc, and one car, for many years, and I'll be happy. Basic computer and car is for me. For talking about our personal sex life, I rather discuss that with a woman who I'm in a relationship to get closer for when we're ready for that time. Talking about ideas with other guys isn't a clean feeling, so I'd rather just not tell them anything.

As for chastity, sure the belt and cages might tug and pull on guy parts, but I see it as a symbolic meaning, showing that a guy can be trustworthy and faithful for their partner. Another good reason is to stop self pleasure so often that they give themselves rashes or distracting themselves from life goals and chores. Final reason, the guy and girl, of a couple, wears the belt and only takes it off each other to enjoy each other's company and only enjoy their freedom if in the intimate moment with their partner. The last idea falls under faithfulness, but also kind of sounds like a game/foreplay when I reread this paragraph for errors.

Oh well, whatever the reason for chastity, as long as you're safe and it's consensual, do whatever you want with your personal lives. There are still many things I wouldn't want to talk about in public regarding chastity, but I do believe I would keep my device for at least another 10 years.

    Raziel

    it doesn't have to be every man the same, but I think the problem is that it's still not recognized in society if a man has too feminine interests 🙁 I think it's sometimes hard for a man who has to prove his masculinity all the time even though many men don't want to, but that's still a stereotype that many people can't get out of their heads 🙁

        Angelina wow, I think it's really very nice of you to share your thoughts and experiences with us here 🙂

        I must admit that this is a small contribution if you compare to what I can learn from you (the girls of this forum)

        Next to that, what I find quite funny on this forum is that we can very quickly go from a refined conversation (phylosophical or intellectual) to a very trashy conversation (with a strong sexual connotation)

            Ines I think, that in most cases, parents think in "preservation" before than in "protection". They, in general, are not in panic about rapes, more well they are fear of girls bad steps before marrying.

            Ines, your comment is very interesting.
            I think that I will be called to develop this distinction (protection / preservation) during a future post. But for tonight I must admit that I am much too exhausted to be able to expose my ideas on the subject.

              Esteban

              that's one of the reasons why i like this forum so much, the different opinions on the different topics give me strength and inspiration 😉

                Esteban Next to that, what I find quite funny on this forum is that we can very quickly go from a refined conversation (phylosophical or intellectual) to a very trashy conversation (with a strong sexual connotation)

                About male chastity only 🙂

                  Raziel

                  As long as it is consensual,I think too chastity can be used,and maybe even useful.I read a story,even if it was used not as it is intended,but still not as a fetish or a game,about a couple who used to both wear chastity devices during a part of the reviewing of the lessons for the partiels and during the exams to concentrate in studies,and not be distracted.Not sure at all it was true,but it is a good example of an useful and consensual use of a chastity belt.

                  And I agree with you,many people tend to think men would always like some things,and women would always like other things.Many people would feel strange a man who like to spend time decorating the house,or a woman who like to repair cars...

                  Angelina

                  I think too.Often people would think he's gay,and,if a woman like masculine things,they would think she's lesbian.

                        Vanessa

                        i am very feminine of my character, yet i am bi . i think our behavior says nothing about our sexual orientation 😉

                            Angelina

                            I think too,but many people tend to link these,even if it is not related at all.And they're pretty sure they're right,so it is difficult to make them understand they're wrong,even with good arguments and examples.

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                                Vanessa
                                I am conventional girl! Maybe more interested in History an Geography than average girl, but pretty conventional! 😂

                                  i think there are too many prejudices today. a man who is gay can still be male and a woman who is lesbian can still be female 🙂

                                    Ines I think your approach even not totally wrong, in fact some girls here started to wear the belt as protection, I think the conceptualism of the girls as victims is not the main motivation under modern belting of the girls.
                                    I think, that in most cases, parents think in "preservation" before than in "protection". They, in general, are not in panic about rapes, more well they are fear of girls bad steps before marrying.

                                    Thanks to your post you have highlighted a subtle distinction but of capital importance.
                                    Indeed, according to you, the main motivation of parents to wear the belt to girls would be to preserve their virginity rather than protect them against possible rape.

                                    So if we push the argument a little further, it means that these same parents would feel less affected (or less distressed) if their daughter would lose her virginity against her acceptation (in case of rape) than if their daughter had lost his virginity by making love to a boy with all his heart.

                                    And here I must admit that I am deeply revolted that some parents can think that way.

                                    Indeed, in such a case, it is clear that it is the ego (or pride) of parents who prevails over the emotional security of their daughter.

                                    It simply shows a deep selfishness on their part and I will never be convinced that such parents can act out of sincere love for their daughter.

                                    In fact, it is not their daughter that protects but their own pride (their own vainness) and it shocked me deeply.

                                    I consider that the primary mission of a parent is to protect his daughter from any external physical and psychological danger without affecting her consent or sexual fulfillment.

                                    For my part that parents who sincerely love their daughters must put their physical and emotional safety above the honor or reputation of their daughter.

                                    I think a good family man claiming sincerely loved his daughter, should invest in this kind of equipment:

                                    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NyDBP2rp6DE

                                    I honestly think it's a great invention to protect the girl against potential abusers while leaving her full of sexual freedom.

                                    If for example the girl is a bit drunk during an alcoholic evening she can not be sexually abused against her will.

                                    It's my educational philosophy.

                                        Esteban

                                        haha I already know that 😉

                                        it is definitely something i would buy for my daughter, but nothing my father (or many other parents here) would accept 🙁

                                            Angelina
                                            You can also buy one for your girlfriend.
                                            I would call it "smart emotional protection"

                                                Esteban
                                                Esteban, thankfully, losses virginity in Western countries is very much likely that be raped.
                                                And I think that most of parents here think that maidenhood is a good for the own girl.
                                                Even wrong, parents are not so selfish!

                                                    Ines
                                                    Sorry Ines but I consider that the parents are selfish when they impose chastity on their daughter and that she does not adhere to this value.

                                                    In this case, the parents are selfish because they prefer to sacrifice the happiness of their daughter by making her unhappy rather than questioning an archaic and sexist principle of another age.

                                                    For me chastity imposed will always be regarded as an unacceptable intrusion of parents into the intimate life of their daughter.

                                                    In this case I say that it is a selfishness because a child can not be considered as a material property of his parents.

                                                    The child is being endowed with reason and he has to make his own life choices.

                                                    If parents impose lifes choices on their child, that is equals mental cloning.

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                                                        Esteban

                                                        hmm I think my father will unfortunately not be enough 🙁

                                                        but when we are married I will think about it again 😉

                                                            Esteban chastity imposed

                                                            Nothing good can be said about this. But the principles in which is based, I think it is not selfish.
                                                            They think they are doing the right.
                                                            Anyway, they are wrong.

                                                                Ines

                                                                In conclusion would you agree with this ?

                                                                To propose a course of action to one's child that one thinks is the best for him is an acceptable thing.
                                                                (we stay in education)

                                                                To impose this course of action against his intimate will is unacceptable (we are not in the field of education but in forced training)

                                                                    Esteban
                                                                    Of course.
                                                                    Force someone to wear a belt is a huge mistake. In the field of chastity belt, there is only a worse thing: use a belt as punishment.