as i had already written more often i would prefer ways where wearer and keyholder have to talk to each other beforehand like a safe or something secured by a number code.
i am very surprised about the consequence and somehow not quite sure if this is more of a punishment or a reward. 
Sara2001 I have talked with Daniel how we want to handle it after wedding and our plan is to do it like this and if I open the box in any other situation then a severe emergency, he will decline to be my keyholder for at least a year. So it's a double proof that everything is like it should be.
I think it's good that you're working together in marriage. If so I take back all the harsh criticisms I sent.
Megan Of cause we talk about everything together and make plans together, he has just the final saying when it comes to rules and things like that.
We have these kind of red lines. If I use the key without his permission and without a good reason and without talking to him first, it's a clear signs, that I don't want to continue our lifestyle, so I think it's a perfect consequence.
I think I have said it countless times 
Talking is the key.
Sara2001 I think a good solution is to have a spare key in a closed envelope that can't be opened without noticing in a box that is locked with a kind of seal that can be destroyed easily but not on accident.
Seems a good idea,yes.
Sara2001 he will decline to be my keyholder for at least a year
Would it means no more chastity belt,or another keyholder(who?your father?)?
Angelina i am very surprised about the consequence and somehow not quite sure if this is more of a punishment or a reward.
Me too!
Sara2001 We have these kind of red lines. If I use the key without his permission and without a good reason and without talking to him first, it's a clear signs, that I don't want to continue our lifestyle, so I think it's a perfect consequence.
would it then mean giving up the lifestyle in general or would that then only refer to the partial aspect of your equipment?
Angelina would it then mean giving up the lifestyle in general or would that then only refer to the partial aspect of your equipment?
It would mean that we have to deeply think about our lifestyle and if it is still the right thing to do for us. I think depending on how it happens, he may want to pause our lifestyle, too. That's why it is such a powerful punishment. If I ever want to change my situation, I will definitely avoid this way.
Angelina so it's more of an all or nothing decision and your equipment and the rest of your lifestyle are connected? really sounds like a punishment now
The relationship itself would stay, but we would have to definitely re-establish the trust between us and many other things. I will do anything to prevent it. If I feel that I need more orgasms, I will find ways that work with his support. Even if I have to wait longer for it to happen. I think I will never have an orgasm on purpose without his permission.
this also makes sense, if you really can't stand living this lifestyle anymore it is better to talk to Daniel openly than to break it secretly and endanger the relationship. trust is the most important thing no matter what kind of lifestyle you have.
Joh For me it sounds like they working on the relation and find out a way how it will fit for both. The same as you doing. The different is in the kind of relation.
i don't doubt that. the all or nothing was related to the lifestyle and not to the relationship in general.
Interesting possibility!
I can understand it,yes,if it do not only impact your chastity belt.
Sara2001 we would have to definitely re-establish the trust between us
If you stop your lifestyle,but stay a couple this way,you would not trust you anymore?Even for a single bad choice?
Right.
Angelina if you really can't stand living this lifestyle anymore it is better to talk to Daniel openly than to break it secretly and endanger the relationship.
I agree.
Joh OK. Than I got it wrong. Sorry.
No Problem
Sara2001 No, if I have an orgasm on purpose without his permission. If we have a long talk about our lifestyle and then we change it, of course everything is fine.
i'll be honest, if you are at that point you should talk about your lifestyle first and not afterwards. it would be better for your mutual trust.
Angelina i'll be honest, if you are at that point you should talk about your lifestyle first and not afterwards. it would be better for your mutual trust.
That's exactly what I wanted to say. If I am at this point, I should have talked a long time before to him. To prevent me from not talking about it, this is a very useful punishment.
Sara2001 That's exactly what I wanted to say. If I am at this point, I should have talked a long time before to him. To prevent me from not talking about it, this is a very useful punishment.
i agree that it makes sense, and talking is always the best way, and there should be no need for punishment.
I am glad that you also see it that way 
Vanessa To make you more tending to talk before disobeying purposely?
It's not back talking. It's talking about something that is on my mind and important for me. During my weekly maintenance session I am supposed to talk about these kind of thoughts. I can't say it often enough. Talking is the key.
