I'm always extremely careful when it comes to telling outsiders about my belt. Only my bff knows about it. I only explained it to her after I sweard to her that I'm ok with my situation and after she promised me to not do anything about my situation without my knowledge.

She now hates my father and I have to take care that the situation doesn't escalate.

Beside this it's good to have someone in person to talk about.

I would love to know how you handle this. How many "outsiders" know about your belt and what have you told them? Have you had a situation where they want to "fight" for your rights like me?

Sara

    My relatives know, my ex-boyfriends know, some female friends know. Basically I only hide it from strangers and just to not confuse people. Even if somebody asks me I would say that's my choice and only parents know that's actually not.

      Laura Didn't your female friends never feel sorry for you and try to help you out? Me bff asked me this all the time until I told her that she will be the first person when I have changed my mind. It brought me to the weird situation where I had to fight for "my right" to wear the belt.

        Sara2001 Didn't your female friends never feel sorry for you and try to help you out?

        They don't know I can't quit

          Laura of cause that's a big difference. So it is clear why they didn't try to "rescue" you 😀 . I think my friend would have thought I had become absolutely crazy, so had to tell her the full story.

            Sara2001 I think my friend would have thought I had become absolutely crazy, so had to tell her the full story.

            I would sound absolutely crazy if I tell somebody the full story. Just imagine a 28 y.o. woman locked in a chastity belt by her parents.

              Laura Yes that makes sense to, I hope I can find Mr. Right before I get 28 🙁

              10 more years in the belt feels so scary.

              Renita I don't care so much about the opinion of others, especially when they are foreigners. I more fear actions from close people that don't agree with the belt.

                Sara2001 I more fear actions from close people that don't agree with the belt.

                Why don't you adopt my way? E.g. tell them you wear it by choice, just need to explain it properly.

                  Laura I think it is a good way for outsiders with loose contact. I think I will still hide it as much as possible to avoid any talk about it. I don't think your way would work for a bff or boyfriend (maybe I would follow your advice in the beginning, but I don't want to lie on him for a longer period). At least for me 😁

                    Sara2001 I don't think your way would work for a bff or boyfriend

                    That's quite different. If your BF tries to defend your rights, most like he would defend his rights 🙂

                      Laura Very true 😀
                      How important was having sex for you partners? I think I would satisfy their sex drive by hand or maybe mouth????. I think this can make a man very happy.

                        Sara2001 How important was having sex for you partners?

                        I didn't have any sex partners.

                        Sara2001 I think I would satisfy their sex drive by hand or maybe mouth????. I think this can make a man very happy.

                        That's nasty in my opinion.

                          Laura I don't feel that this is nasty. I can't see why my (hypothetical) boyfriend should pay for my parents decision. Why should I not make him happy as good as I can?

                            Sara2001 You should do it completely or not do it at all. In this hypothetical situation I would prefer to cut the belt off.

                              Laura Me, too. But sadly this feels not like a realistic option for me. 🙁

                                Sara2001 Such behavior would make you worse in his eyes anyways. So better to remain a "chastity girl".

                                @Sara2001
                                I've read about others who are locked in chastity pleasing their lovers, but it would make yourself more frustrated. Withholding yourself from any acts of pleasure would prevent a build up of emotions. Test your next boyfriend and see if they'd stay for you or for your services. Personally, I don't think it's a good idea, and save yourself for those acts after he becomes your fiance or husband.

                                  Raziel I think we have not complete opposite positions here. I would not do this from the very beginning but only when I feel he is really in love with me and he could be Mr. Right. Maybe after a year or so. I think it's mean to let him wait until marriage just because my parents think I should focus more on becoming his perfect wife.