Hi so im of course new here but im also very very new to just forums in general. i dont even use reddit! so naturally i really dont know if this is the right place to put this or if im using the correct tags so please correct me if im doing this wrong. also im not very good with punctuations so im sorry if i have lot of run on sentences or if i just dont really say things right or something ill try my best though to make it legible and as rule friendly as possible.

INTRODUCTION (unless that thing above was the intro, IDK)
so i live with my 2 sisters and my sisters are 19 and 23. neither have belts and both have 1 child, my 23 year old sister is named cari and she has a 4 year old boy named josh. and my 19 year old sister is libby and has a i think 2? year old girl and is pregnant with another and will be due in like 6ish months i think. they are both single though.

SITUATION
so i feel that what i said above is just kind of enough context to explain whats going on but basically my sisters werent with very good people and now they are struggling financially and my 19 year old sister, libby is just really unstable at the moment and she only lives here atm bc my parents dont wana kick her out with her baby on the streets. but shes really been hard to live with and she brings guys over and stuff when my parents arent here but all this has led my mom to tell me the other night that her and my father have decided that im going to be belted when it arrives in the mail to prevent me from making the same mistakes as my sisters. i tried to talk them out of it because i havent even had a irl bf b4 yet and they still wont change their mind. my mom apparently had one when she was younger and just keeps bringing that point up. i really dont wana have to use a belt bc it scares me and i dont think its even fair at all for me to get this when they were the ones that were with bad people. what would be the best way to convince them to not do it? i dont argue with them often but i really got into it last night and now we arent on good terms at all and i cant even get a conversation in with them. and the idea of a belt really scares me but im not even sexually activre with other people

sorry again if this is the wrong place for this or the wrong tags plz correct me if its not and ofc ty for any replies and for reading this though!

    If it were me I would be like okay lets see it... You MUST be comfortable so maybe a low cost cable style would be what I would want...

    If your mom and sisters have never had a belt they need to know that is a disadvantage and you deserve support. Dont let someone chain a cheese grater to you and run out...

    Know that women and children are a gift. Your sisters should have known this!!!!

    Vanessa Yeah. I don’t really get it. Well, I sorta do, but seems any rules need to apply to all 3 girls - and should have a LONG time ago. Where does the older sis live?

        James
        if you meant that question toward me, they all live together in my parents house but sorry for misinterpreting it if thats not what you meant.

            vyktoryah So, what I'm hearing is you have two rude and irresponsible older sisters and they are taking it out on....you?

                James
                essentially thats what is happening yeah. they are both making my sisters work right now though and they have to also take care of the kid they have so its definitely alot of work. they wouldnt be living here if they didnt already have kids thought my parents just dont want them to be on the streets with kids. they basically kicked my one sister out already once but they went back on the decision because of the child

                    vyktoryah Personally I think it's irrelevant if they have kids or not.

                    Your best line here is likely going to be - "If you're going to have these rules they should apply to ALL your sisters."

                        James
                        i agree with that for sure! it definitely should apply to them i just think my parents wont because they are 18+ but im gonna definitely say that so thank you for your answers and everyone elses idk when this is supposed 2 even be happening i just know the next 2 weeks at most because thats how delivery works i think but i only mention the kids bc thats a lot of work load on someone thats single but ik its their fault that they had kids at that age unmarried etc

                            I would ask mom and dad if they are afraid some of your sister's friends might try to rape you. if her friends are really that bad that might be your parent's fear?

                              vyktoryah So...what if they are 18 plus. They are irresponsible girls - you sound way wiser and more mature than them.

                              You could try saying you'll accept it ONLY if it applies to them, and there is strict discipline and rules across the board. See what the replies get. As your sisters have shown, because they made one mistake won't mean they will stop making them!

                                  James
                                  i think them being 18+ just has something to do with my parents "legally" not being allowed to? IDK how it works or whats going on in my parents heads rn but thank you for saying i seem smarter. without bragging or whatever i really always have felt i was abit more mature than them though if eel being able to see their mistakes helps me do that too. maybe they wouldnt be where they were if they had older sisters too that did bad things? im not sure but all ik is they definitely dont respect my parents enough so this punishment coming to me is strange

                                      cham-ed
                                      their friends arent necessarily that bad i dont think its just that they dont want me to get pregnant with someone of my own choice but maybe forceful is a concern for them too, i literally never leave my house tho omg so idk why they would worry about that

                                        vyktoryah I will also add though that the fact you’re in this mess shows that your parents don’t even know what strict dicipline means or how it is done.

                                        Many of the girls here and elsewhere are belted and punished in other ways, but your parents still will actually need to learn to parent.

                                          vyktoryah Lol, if we want to play legalities they can’t belt you either.

                                          This just seems lazy - and it won’t work because it is lazy. A belt is work and responsibilities. And above that, so what if you’re belted if you’re still not doing well in school etc. (For example). They have to decide if they want to actually be strict and firm parents for the now…7 kids under their roof, because this problem ain’t going away.

                                              James
                                              yeah my parents kind of have resorted to really dumb and exteme punishments in the past. this was a shocker though to me but as i sai dmy mom apparently used one when she was younger so maybe they had that discussion for my sisters too. i dont know enough about the situation yet to really say

                                                  James
                                                  also what do you mean by thye cant belt me either? is this a law i can bring up to them?

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