• Poll
  • Users, are you married or not, while in/out of chastity?

Avery My experience is when I have a lover I am more likely to masturbate because I'm horny for him all the time.

From my experience the same at the beginning but after some time (month) it decrease as long as you have a satisfying sex life.

Avery I know men who feel that masturbating is a form of cheating, however.

You should talk about with him and find a agreement which is good for both.

Like most people here I’m not married but still locked up. Belt may or may not come off after marriage although it probably will it depends on what me and my bf decide.

Avery After marriage I will stay belted with just a very few releases. If anything comes as it is planned. I will have releases every few months, not more.

Avery

i have to change my comment because @strictfather ather voted for it. but it is still impressive how clearly the roles are distributed here in the forum.

Joh Let see what happen next year.

for me, the year after next, that's why i wanted to have the fifth possible answer. "Married and previously in chastity" šŸ˜‰

Joh but it is also a gift from her to her husband to remain chaste (not to masturbate).

since i plan to get all my sexual happiness through camryn after my wedding, would i still be chaste by this definition?

    Angelina since i plan to get all my sexual happiness through camryn after my wedding, would i still be chaste by this definition?

    I do not see a difference. The only difference is with a CB and a key holder it would be 99% (1% for lock picking šŸ˜‰) sure.

      Joh

      ok, then I will probably remain "chaste" as well šŸ˜‰

      Joh It is pretty much the difference between "chastity" and "enforced chastity". You are chaste whenever you do not engage in unapproved sexual activity, which in most cultures means you only have sex within a marriage or similarly committed relationship. You are celibate when you do not take steps to enter such a relationship, so only being chaste and celibate requires complete and utter sexual abstinence.

      • Joh replied to this.

        youdontknowme
        I agree.
        When we break it down the whole chastity we find that in a good working relationship it is happen.
        Than I ask myself why is a CB than necessary? Because of the key holder has a trust problem!
        If no trust is in a relation how much is the relation worth?

          Joh When we break it down the whole chastity we find that in a good working relationship it is happen.
          Than I ask myself why is a CB than necessary?

          Perhaps in a BDSM style dom-sub relationship. The couple agree to be together with the dom having complete control over the sub, including locking her in a belt even though neither plans to stray from the relationship. It is just a thing they do that attracts them both.

            Avery

            I think it should be considered as chastity,yes.

            Avery My brothers for example.

            It's surprising.

            Mine have no problem if his girlfriend masturbates.

            Angelina i have to change my comment because @strictfather ather voted for it

            It would be good if he give some news.

            Angelina it is still impressive how clearly the roles are distributed here in the forum.

            It is not surprising the most votes are "Not married (but still using chastity)" in a forum named unwed chastity,however.

            Angelina would i still be chaste by this definition

            Yes,but not in chastity.

            Avery

            I agree.

            And i think a big part of customers of chastity belts use it this way(less than fetishists who use it as a game,however).

              Vanessa I think it should be considered as chastity,yes.

              OK, I learned something.

              Vanessa It's surprising.

              Mine have no problem if his girlfriend masturbates.

              Maybe it's a difference between cultures here and across the pond. With my brothers it's a macho thing, the guy should be enough.

                Avery the guy should be enough.

                I see it the same way.

                  Joh I see it the same way.

                  On the other hand if one wants ones lover, male or female, to be happy and they enjoy masturbation then mayhap one should let them go ahead.

                    Joh I see it the same way.

                    One more idea I had is to give a guy nude pictures of oneself which he could use to masturbate to, thus decreasing his demands for actual sex and help the girl remain chaste.

                      Vanessa It would be good if he give some news.

                      yes, his last update was not very pleasant and he didn't write anything anymore.

                      Vanessa It is not surprising the most votes are "Not married (but still using chastity)" in a forum named unwed chastity,however.

                      yes, you are kind of right šŸ˜‚

                      Vanessa Yes,but not in chastity.

                      the definitions are getting really complicated šŸ˜‚

                      Avery One more idea I had is to give a guy nude pictures of oneself which he could use to masturbate to, thus decreasing his demands for actual sex and help the girl remain chaste.

                      the idea is not bad šŸ˜‰

                        Avery Perhaps in a BDSM style dom-sub relationship. The couple agree to be together with the dom having complete control over the sub, including locking her in a belt even though neither plans to stray from the relationship. It is just a thing they do that attracts them both.

                        It is a very, very, VERY big difference between not having orgasms because you promised it to your partner without a chastity belt or to simply not be able to have an orgasm because you wear a chastity belt for him. It doesn't have much to do with trust. In both scenario a lot of trust in both directions is mandatory, but the feeling of being locked is a very powerful feeling.

                        Vanessa Mine have no problem if his girlfriend masturbates.

                        I have no problem when Daniel masturbates, too. I often help him with this šŸ™‚

                        Avery On the other hand if one wants ones lover, male or female, to be happy and they enjoy masturbation then mayhap one should let them go ahead.

                        For me it is an important part of the dynamic, that he not only can have orgasms whenever he wants, but that he really has them, while I stay locked and without orgasms for him. We can both completely focus on his pleasure and this feels very romantic and satisfying for me.

                        Avery One more idea I had is to give a guy nude pictures of oneself which he could use to masturbate to, thus decreasing his demands for actual sex and help the girl remain chaste.

                        I can give him oral and stay in chastity.

                          Sara2001 For me it is an important part of the dynamic, that he not only can have orgasms whenever he wants, but that he really has them, while I stay locked and without orgasms for him.

                          I want the orgasms just with him only.
                          Edit - I'm so not normal now like with the other posts here I was thinking about how it would go with dating and marrying and I'm thinking crazy things šŸ˜†

                          Avery thus decreasing his demands for actual sex and help the girl remain chaste.

                          Is this before marriage? I'll be happy to help him out I'm keeping myself special not him.
                          After? Nono I'll have catching up to do

                          Joh Than I ask myself why is a CB than necessary? Because of the key holder has a trust problem!

                          Or it is the wearer not trusting themself?

                          Avery With my brothers it's a macho thing, the guy should be enough.

                          It's not about him being enough it's like creating something and choosing he is always a part of it.

                            Sara2001 In both scenario a lot of trust in both directions is mandatory, but the feeling of being locked is a very powerful feeling.

                            Good point. I hadn't thought of that.

                            Jen Or it is the wearer not trusting themself?

                            I agree. Also a valid point.

                            Sara2001 It is a very, very, VERY big difference between not having orgasms because you promised it to your partner without a chastity belt or to simply not be able to have an orgasm because you wear a chastity belt for him. It doesn't have much to do with trust. In both scenario a lot of trust in both directions is mandatory, but the feeling of being locked is a very powerful feeling.

                            No doubt. I've never been locked by a lover, and it would have to be someone I loved, but it might be interesting to try at some point. Most of the guys I have been attracted to wanted you to want them and be exclusive because they were them, not because there was some arrangement. It's kind of an ego thing with them and I wanted to give myself to them on those terms. The most power I've given someone over me is tieing me up and letting them do me. For me that's powerful. Maybe someday I'll try being locked and feel what that feels like.

                            Sara2001 For me it is an important part of the dynamic, that he not only can have orgasms whenever he wants, but that he really has them, while I stay locked and without orgasms for him. We can both completely focus on his pleasure and this feels very romantic and satisfying for me.

                            An outstanding dynamic.

                            Sara2001 I can give him oral and stay in chastity.

                            Right now I'm trying to avoid that. The picture idea is easy. There are lots of bikini photos out there of me. Scrunch up against a door jamb, take off the bikini, cover your boob with your upper arm and presto a nude pic that shows little more of your bum than a standard bikini and he should be happy.