Jen I so want to argue about this but really you are right and mum was right
Jen, from my point of view, do not beat yourself up, the weird thing is that this only happened to you once, which is to make you proud.
If you check my old posts you will see that I woke up my mother because of a huge itch that in the end was almost more psychological than real.
Calm down, and think about whether your mother acted as she really should have, and if you think she overindulged or abused, talk to her.
A girl is not born with a chastity belt, and if it does not make you happier or does not make you feel fulfilled, then it is better to leave it.