curious So, what is your daughter`s goal?

her goal and why she would want the belt is no sexual activitys without an serious relationship. The goal is not an wedding or similar else, only an stable and serious relationship. I could accept them!

curious And have you made up your mind what are your conditions for being keyholder?

not easy to explayn. if her wish would be real, my husband would be the keyholder. i would handle locking or unlocking, but the keys are on his hands, i would prefere them. our daughter would accept them.

She is now at home and she will try now the belt! She is preparing her in the bathroom and if she is ready, i would helb her with the belt and try to fit them for her.

        MarleenTotok her goal and why she would want the belt is no sexual activitys without an serious relationship

        You might consider an abstinence belt for her

            Laura You might consider an abstinence belt for her

            Please, what is the difference between an abstinence belt and a chastity belt? Just the secondary shield?

                My daughter is now locked in my belt. We had taken our time but now everything fits so far.

                We only need some little adjustments. She wears them now in the thightest position of the waist-band (i have an my-steel who is adjustable a bit) The crotch-band is similar to me.

                In my mind it fits better then expected. We would see I am right or not. It could may also secure.

                Her first impression is that it is quite tight. She now has about 20 minutes to getr first impressions alone, then we have dinner together. i'm sure with a clear topic of conversation.

                  Mithras Just the secondary shield

                  Yes

                  MarleenTotok Her first impression is that it is quite tight.

                  My first impression was that it was impossible to take it off

                        Laura You might consider an abstinence belt for her

                        i am also asking for the difference?

                            Laura My first impression was that it was impossible to take it off

                            this she expected, but the tightnes she dont expected as it is. she thought he would be more comfortable.

                              MarleenTotok i am also asking for the difference?

                              A chastity belt without a secondary shield at all or with one she has a key from

                                  Laura A chastity belt without a secondary shield at all or with one she has a key from

                                  ok, i understand you now. I didn't know it was called an abstinence belt. Its not possible on my My-Steel, its always on the shield.

                                  If she wears an belt without the secondary shield, she could mastrubate! Mastrubate is sexual activity too.

                                      MarleenTotok I didn't know it was called an abstinence belt

                                      https://unwedchastity.org/d/194-abstinence-belt

                                      MarleenTotok ts not possible on my My-Steel, its always on the shield.

                                      You can order a Neosteel for her

                                      MarleenTotok If she wears an belt without the secondary shield, she could mastrubate

                                      And other non-penetrative sex. But I assume it's still her choice what she actually wants

                                              Laura But I assume it's still her choice what she actually wants

                                              Well, I think no so many keyholders will allow it...

                                                  MarleenTotok I didn't know it was called an abstinence belt.

                                                  That is because that definition is fairly specific to this forum, I have never encountered it elsewhere.

                                                  MarleenTotok If she wears an belt without the secondary shield, she could mastrubate! Mastrubate is sexual activity too.

                                                  If you and/or your husband want to have a hand in her keyholding schedule, you need to be on the same page as her when it comes to what sort of sexual activity is to be prevented and what wear schedule that translates to. Only that way can informed consent be given. If you only agree on "preventing sexual activity", but had different ideas of what this "sexual activity" refers to, any consent given was not sufficiently informed.

                                                        Laura But I assume it's still her choice what she actually wants

                                                        yes this its right!

                                                        Ines Well, I think no so much keyholders will allow it...

                                                        I think so too!

                                                        youdontknowme That is because that definition is fairly specific to this forum

                                                        right i read them in other post now too.

                                                        and your other words are right! for all us, chastity-belt means for us an real belt and not an abstinence belt. So, there is also mastrubation includet by wearing an chastity-belt, or better, mastrubation is no more possible.

                                                        My daughter is still in the belt. On lunch time it was a little bit strange. Knowing she is wearing the belt. We also talked an bit about them.
                                                        She is fine with the belt, she told us.
                                                        At the end of the lunch we asked her to unlock them, but she aksed to stay a bit more in it.

                                                        But now, she asked for an unlocking of the belt after going to the bath-room. I got the key from my husband and if she is in her room, i will unlock the belt.

                                                                @"MarleenTotok"
                                                                I would suggest you make it very clear to her, that if she decides she really wants the belt, there will be no more masturbating. If she still wants to go ahead, best to get that agreement in writing so that later no arguments arise about what was intended or not.
                                                                And if it is signed and the belt arrives, you have to stay firm, no matter how much she complains that long abstinence becomes hard on her.

                                                                MarleenTotok do you mean me?

                                                                Me. I don't know how about you.

                                                                MarleenTotok If she wears an belt without the secondary shield, she could mastrubate! Mastrubate is sexual activity too.

                                                                Well done. First "no sexual activitys without an serious relationship", but the "she could masturbate".
                                                                I'm trapped the same way.

                                                                MarleenTotok The goal is not an wedding or similar else

                                                                Are you sure? Would you let her out without a wedding ring?

                                                                        MarleenTotok She is fine with the belt, she told us.

                                                                        I'm wondering how a belt from 45 y.o. woman might fit 19 y.o. girl? 😂
                                                                        I tried mom's belt, but it was her belt from her teen age

                                                                        MarleenTotok o, there is also mastrubation includet by wearing an chastity-belt, or better, mastrubation is no more possible.

                                                                        Do it also include accessories if you find that she needs them to achieve this goal?

                                                                              MarleenTotok her goal and why she would want the belt is no sexual activitys without an serious relationship.

                                                                              would this include masturbation? i ask this because abstaining from masturbation is also much harder than "just" having random sex.

                                                                              MarleenTotok If she wears an belt without the secondary shield, she could mastrubate! Mastrubate is sexual activity too.

                                                                              and would she want/get breaks from the belt for that? or would abstaining from sexual activity (until a serious relationship) also mean she can't masturbate anymore

                                                                              one more note, the older users here know that i am a fan of contracts. if your daughter really wants to do the thing with the belt, then the three of you should draw up a contract that includes all the important points. i.e. when the belt is to be worn, when cleaning breaks are to take place, who is to take care of it, etc.

                                                                                    Kaja No! Keyholder never can edit rules.

                                                                                    Predictability and consent is a must for the wearer. What @Natalia's mother did to her with the thigh bands likely damaged their trust.

                                                                                    MarleenTotok Renita Also a chastity belt on you looks nice.

                                                                                    do you mean me?

                                                                                    Probably lost in translation. We have a number of non-english native speakers here.

                                                                                    MarleenTotok she should first try out my belt and gain some experience with it

                                                                                    Not going to lie, but its a little weird to wear your parents' "underwear"
                                                                                    -Then again hand-me-down clothes are common. I for whatever reason still have hand-me-down clothes that are so old that they predate australia's fibre optic network system, and have probably been in contact with mothball ofgassing than they've seen the light of day.

                                                                                    Renita Well done. First "no sexual activitys without an serious relationship", but the "she could masturbate".
                                                                                    I'm trapped the same way.

                                                                                    I'm not a girl, but I doubt it would be that satisfying unless the primary shield has a wide enough gap for your intimate organ to poke through.

                                                                                    Renita Are you sure? Would you let her out without a wedding ring?

                                                                                    Something interesting to note is that there are jewellery called something like chastity rings (unrelated to male cages) which are essentially reverse-wedding rings which you wear before you're married to demotivate sexual activity. They don't serve any real functional purpose though.

                                                                                    Christine Tell her not to do it.

                                                                                    Considering the daughter opened up to their parents about this, if they're truly serious they probably don't need prompting and are already mature enough.

                                                                                                  zbovka I'm not a girl, but I doubt it would be that satisfying unless the primary shield has a wide enough gap for your intimate organ to poke through.

                                                                                                  I don't have any experience on the subject, but I have the same anatomy : without the secondary shield, which is removed forum me in very specific situations, the slit of the belt is very narrow, the labia majora protrude, leaving the labia minora covered by them and the clitoral area, too.
                                                                                                  I suppose some girl could do something, although the result would be an enormous amount of pinching of the labia and probably microhematomas as a result of the labia tapping against the steel.

                                                                                                  Although no keyholder would ever allow it, I think even a belt without a secondary shield might be safer than we usually think.