7 days later

Christine To be unbelted.

the deal was that you wear the belt as long as you need her help, she should help you not to need her help anymore, then you don't have to wear the belt anymore either

      Angelina she should help you not to need her help anymore, then you don't have to wear the belt anymore either

      She wants me to keep wearing the belt even if I don't depend on her. Ofc I'm not going to.

          Christine

          but that wasn't what was meant at the beginning, was it? wasn't the whole thing meant that you wear the belt because you are dependent on her? so the logical consequence must be that you don't wear the belt anymore when you are independent again, right?

              Angelina wasn't the whole thing meant that you wear the belt because you are dependent on her?

              I don't have a choice but wear it coz I'm dependent on her. But she wants me to wear it coz I'm single again.

              Angelina so the logical consequence must be that you don't wear the belt anymore when you are independent again, right?

              Right, and I will not.

                    Christine I don't have a choice but wear it coz I'm dependent on her. But she wants me to wear it coz I'm single again.

                    i admit that at this point i can help only poorly. the question is, of course, if you were no longer dependent on her, whether she could still make you continue to wear the belt. you should urgently become an independent single woman.

                        Angelina if you were no longer dependent on her, whether she could still make you continue to wear the belt

                        Ofc, not. I will stop wearing without asking her.

                        Angelina you should urgently become an independent single woman.

                        I know and working on it hard.

                              Christine Ofc, not. I will stop wearing without asking her.

                              You don't have to ask her either, but you should talk to her then.

                              Christine I know and working on it hard.

                              I hope you have success soon, you have been wearing the belt for too long.

                                    Megan It isn't a race and with Covid some things are slow

                                    no i have to disagree, covid is not an excuse for not caring about your freedoms and independence.

                                        Angelina no i have to disagree, covid is not an excuse for not caring about your freedoms and independence.

                                        You are right nothing is wrong with covid I am saying there is no race to get rich

                                            Angelina but you should talk to her then

                                            I did. She wants me to keep wearing coz it's good for me.

                                            Megan It isn't a race and with Covid some things are slow

                                            Actually not related.

                                                  Megan I am saying there is no race to get rich

                                                  Of course not and there are many obstacles and getting rich was never mentioned, only becoming independent. I just want to say that covid should not be an excuse

                                                  Christine I did. She wants me to keep wearing coz it's good for me.

                                                  I meant that you should talk to her once you're independent. I just want to avoid you just breaking the belt and leaving because it would damage your relationship with your mother (so it was meant more as advice for the future)

                                                        5 days later

                                                        Angelina I meant that you should talk to her once you're independent

                                                        I will not talk but claim in this case.

                                                        Angelina I just want to avoid you just breaking the belt

                                                        She is not so dumb to force me to break the belt.

                                                        Angelina it would damage your relationship with your mother

                                                        It would only be her fault.

                                                                Christine

                                                                try to see it from both sides, at least she took care of you after you didn't know where to go. you should quickly become independent again to get out of the belt, but not to sever your connection with your mother.

                                                                    Christine I will not talk but claim in this case.

                                                                    What if she declines?

                                                                    Christine She is not so dumb to force me to break the belt.

                                                                    Because you will not break it.

                                                                          Angelina you should quickly become independent again to get out of the belt, but not to sever your connection with your mother.

                                                                          I think both together is impossible in her case

                                                                              Laura I think both together is impossible in her case

                                                                              I can say it is hard as my situation is very very similar