Angelina i rather meant that she might be able to support you professionally in some way. maybe there is a job in her company that you can do to earn your own money

She does in that sense.

      Christine She does in that sense.

      what do you mean by "in this sense"? if you have a job, you should look for your own flat

          5 days later

          Angelina what do you mean by "in this sense"?

          She helps me to organize my life, like find a job, etc.

          Angelina if you have a job, you should look for your own flat

          Not enough.

                Christine She helps me to organize my life, like find a job, etc.

                Christine Not enough.

                so she helped you to find a job that pays badly so you don't have enough money to move out? then keep the job but continue to search for a better one on the side. you can put your current job as a reference.

                      Angelina so she helped you to find a job that pays badly so you don't have enough money to move out? then keep the job but continue to search for a better one on the side. you can put your current job as a reference

                      I honestly don’t get Christine. I am not sure she really wants help or to be unbelted.

                            James

                            it is similar to @Helen and @Renita, she usually writes very short answers, which would not be a problem if they were clear, but this makes it difficult. but i will still try to help if possible. 🙂

                              James I am not sure she really wants help or to be unbelted.

                              She wants to move out

                                7 days later

                                Christine To be unbelted.

                                the deal was that you wear the belt as long as you need her help, she should help you not to need her help anymore, then you don't have to wear the belt anymore either

                                    Angelina she should help you not to need her help anymore, then you don't have to wear the belt anymore either

                                    She wants me to keep wearing the belt even if I don't depend on her. Ofc I'm not going to.

                                        Christine

                                        but that wasn't what was meant at the beginning, was it? wasn't the whole thing meant that you wear the belt because you are dependent on her? so the logical consequence must be that you don't wear the belt anymore when you are independent again, right?

                                            Angelina wasn't the whole thing meant that you wear the belt because you are dependent on her?

                                            I don't have a choice but wear it coz I'm dependent on her. But she wants me to wear it coz I'm single again.

                                            Angelina so the logical consequence must be that you don't wear the belt anymore when you are independent again, right?

                                            Right, and I will not.

                                                  Christine I don't have a choice but wear it coz I'm dependent on her. But she wants me to wear it coz I'm single again.

                                                  i admit that at this point i can help only poorly. the question is, of course, if you were no longer dependent on her, whether she could still make you continue to wear the belt. you should urgently become an independent single woman.

                                                      Angelina if you were no longer dependent on her, whether she could still make you continue to wear the belt

                                                      Ofc, not. I will stop wearing without asking her.

                                                      Angelina you should urgently become an independent single woman.

                                                      I know and working on it hard.

                                                            Christine Ofc, not. I will stop wearing without asking her.

                                                            You don't have to ask her either, but you should talk to her then.

                                                            Christine I know and working on it hard.

                                                            I hope you have success soon, you have been wearing the belt for too long.

                                                                  Megan It isn't a race and with Covid some things are slow

                                                                  no i have to disagree, covid is not an excuse for not caring about your freedoms and independence.