Sabina I was stupid and admitted to my mother that I had struggled with the belt at night and tried to get my fingers under it (it worked, but I couldn't masturbate). As punishment, I spent every night in locked bondage mitts for a month.

Instead thighbands, that should be used in this case.

Sabina I agreed because I was a bit fascinated by living chaste, but I didn't think it would be so difficult for me.

Understood. I had no choice either.

Sabina For them, the belt is just a BDSM toy, but it may have additional uses depending on the context. For me too.

That's the problem. Chastity should be stricter than BDSM.
For what I'm reading you have high risk even of intercourse, not only masturbation.
Let me give some recommendations

  1. Your keys must be kept in safe you don't have an access to. Without exceptions
  2. If you need to have the belt off, for example, for court, you must establish procedure of taking off and putting on the belt. Your mom might drop-off before and pick up in your court day. You must not be alone without the belt outside.
  3. Obtain a high security belt that couldn't be cut by a pair of scissors.
  4. Use only chastity accessories for punishment.

          Angelina well, she forbids masturbation but has no real option to enforce it, seems kind of unserious to me. somehow i think it's all about control your mother likes to have and you like to be controlled by her right?

          You could say.

          Angelina somehow you are doing exactly what some here have accused me of, you seem to be living in a BDSM relationship with your mother

          Seeing the intensity of the BDSM relationship between my parents, I would never call my relationship with my mother that, but I understand that it can give that impression.

                Renita Instead thighbands, that should be used in this case.

                I didn't have thighbands, mitts were immediately available, hence the choice of my mother.

                Renita Chastity should be stricter than BDSM.

                Thank you for advices, but at times my chastity is even too strict for me, so I don't want nothing stricter... 🙂

                      Sabina You could say.

                      is not a real answer to my question. your mother says absolute chastity, so no masturbation but can't find a way to enforce it because of your appointments (i think professionally), so why is she forbidding it then?

                          Sabina I didn't have thighbands

                          Then they should be orders. Better than mitts anyway.

                          Sabina but at times my chastity is even too strict for me

                          Come on. You basically wear your belt whenever you want and have no problem to get rid of it.

                          Sabina so I don't want nothing stricter...

                          May I ask you if you are dating anyone?

                                  Angelina I just confirmed that your argument is correct, because I took your question as purely rhetorical. I translated it with a translator, so it may not give the full meaning of my words in Polish.

                                  The prohibition itself and the severity of its enforcement are sometimes two different things. I have the impression that my mother also wanted a certain consistency of rules and the lack of additional permissions for me.

                                      Renita Then they should be orders. Better than mitts anyway.

                                      I have never worn thighbands, but from what I read they are not comfortable. The mitts were quite bearable for sleeping, the problem appeared only when I had to blow my nose and I couldn't grab anything normally 😉

                                      Renita You basically wear your belt whenever you want and have no problem to get rid of it.

                                      And I want it to stay that way.

                                      Renita May I ask you if you are dating anyone?

                                      No, I do not date anybody since I start wearing belt 'seriously'.

                                              youdontknowme Not impossible that they had them on hand in the first place, but using them on their daughter? shudders

                                              Maybe I'm dumb, but I don't understand something here. Do you allow drastic interference with sexual freedom by wearing chastity belts and at the same time you are outraged by a mild form of restraint? (similar measures are used even in children with skin diseases so that they do not scratch).

                                                  Renita Instead thighbands, that should be used in this case.

                                                  Exactly, I think the same.

                                                    Sabina Do you allow drastic interference with sexual freedom by wearing chastity belts

                                                    I do not support it, but I accept this under the premise of enthusiastic informed consent, provided the consideration of its potential use as a sex toy never played a significant role.

                                                    My objection to the mittens is that they were imposed as a punishment (keyholder's impetus plus power dynamic casts doubt on consent) and that they were probably taken straight from a sex toy collection.

                                                    I am also not a fan of things like thigh bands, which to me seem like they have a significant mobility impact for a relatively limited performance improvement in their stated purpose.

                                                        Sabina And I want it to stay that way

                                                        🤣 🤣 🤣

                                                        Sabina similar measures are used even in children with skin diseases so that they do not scratch

                                                        But your mittens were locked, weren't they?

                                                        youdontknowme which to me seem like they have a significant mobility impact

                                                        That's fine for night time

                                                                Sabina you were not stupid in confessing to your mother. She is reinforcing your willpower and I think you know to be grateful for it. Just as you know, deep down, you will only be thigh-banded if you deserve it.

                                                                    Sabina And I want it to stay that way.

                                                                    I think you will find more satisfaction as a belted girl to surrendering to high security and not allowing your own short-sighted desires undermine it. Your mother is going to considerable effort to secure you and you should respect it. Better to confess the need for security than to be caught demonstrating it!

                                                                        Laura But your mittens were locked, weren't they?

                                                                        Of course they were. If there were no padlocks, I could easily undo the buckles.

                                                                        Saintprudence Just as you know, deep down, you will only be thigh-banded if you deserve it.

                                                                        No way.

                                                                        Saintprudence I think you will find more satisfaction as a belted girl to surrendering to high security and not allowing your own short-sighted desires undermine it. Your mother is going to considerable effort to secure you and you should respect it.

                                                                        Neither I nor my mother want that much control and security. They are excessive and impractical.

                                                                                Saintprudence

                                                                                Other way the entire purpose is defeated.
                                                                                In this point I agree entirely with you.

                                                                                  Renita Chastity should be stricter than BDSM.

                                                                                  Strongly agree. Enforced chastity isn't a game or even a lifestyle. It is a straightforward block on sex and masturbation.

                                                                                  Renita Your keys must be kept in safe you don't have an access to. Without exceptions

                                                                                  Yep, otherwise you can remove the belt and break chastity.

                                                                                  If you need to have the belt off, for example, for court, you must establish procedure of taking off and putting on the belt.

                                                                                  Yep, otherwise you can "forget to put the belt back on" and break chastity.

                                                                                  Obtain a high security belt that couldn't be cut by a pair of scissors.

                                                                                  Yep, otherwise you can break chastity whenever you like. You might as well just make a pinky-promise.

                                                                                  Use only chastity accessories for punishment.

                                                                                  Yep, BDSM is a different matter, the only thing that matters here is that chastity isn't broken. If mitts are considered a chastity appliance (and there're some here who do think this), then they should be bought especially for the purpose of chastity... at which point it becomes clear that bands are a first choice.

                                                                                  Saintprudence I think you will find more satisfaction as a belted girl to surrendering to high security and not allowing your own short-sighted desires undermine it.

                                                                                  Yep, higher security = greater acceptance and fewer episodes of belt fighting/frustration in my experience.

                                                                                          Sabina Of course they were. If there were no padlocks, I could easily undo the buckles.

                                                                                          That's the big difference between you and children

                                                                                          Sabina Do you allow drastic interference with sexual freedom by wearing chastity belts and at the same time you are outraged by a mild form of restraint?

                                                                                          You were locked for chastity in a non-chastity item

                                                                                          Sabina Neither I nor my mother want that much control and security.

                                                                                          if you demand the key will you get it?

                                                                                                  Laura That's the big difference between you and children

                                                                                                  If a child cannot take off such gloves or sleeves, then the situation is identical in my opinion.

                                                                                                  Laura You were locked in a non-chastity item for chastity

                                                                                                  This division is completly artificial for me. It reminds me a bit of kosher rules in Jewish cuisine. 😉

                                                                                                  Laura if you demand the key will you get it?

                                                                                                  Are you asking about everyday situations or giving up wearing a belt? Usually, when I have a legitimate need (doctor, internship, swimming pool, period), my mom takes my belt off without discussion. I can give up the belt at any time, and I don't think Mom will object strongly, but then she will never again hold the key.

                                                                                                          Sabina This division is completly artificial for me. It reminds me a bit of kosher rules in Jewish cuisine

                                                                                                          I'm just trying o explain why people thing that mittes were wrong. I personally don't see any issue with it. However if I was you mom I would do punishments in following sequence. Secondary shield, thighbands, chastity bra

                                                                                                          Sabina Usually, when I have a legitimate need (doctor, internship, swimming pool, period), my mom takes my belt off without discussion. I can give up the belt at any time, and I don't think Mom will object strongly, but then she will never again hold the key.

                                                                                                          Neither legitimate need, no give up. But like "I need the key by tonight 11pm" like here Damien . What would she do?