Renita Instead thighbands, that should be used in this case.

I didn't have thighbands, mitts were immediately available, hence the choice of my mother.

Renita Chastity should be stricter than BDSM.

Thank you for advices, but at times my chastity is even too strict for me, so I don't want nothing stricter... 🙂

    Sabina You could say.

    is not a real answer to my question. your mother says absolute chastity, so no masturbation but can't find a way to enforce it because of your appointments (i think professionally), so why is she forbidding it then?

      Sabina I didn't have thighbands

      Then they should be orders. Better than mitts anyway.

      Sabina but at times my chastity is even too strict for me

      Come on. You basically wear your belt whenever you want and have no problem to get rid of it.

      Sabina so I don't want nothing stricter...

      May I ask you if you are dating anyone?

        Angelina I just confirmed that your argument is correct, because I took your question as purely rhetorical. I translated it with a translator, so it may not give the full meaning of my words in Polish.

        The prohibition itself and the severity of its enforcement are sometimes two different things. I have the impression that my mother also wanted a certain consistency of rules and the lack of additional permissions for me.

          Renita Then they should be orders. Better than mitts anyway.

          I have never worn thighbands, but from what I read they are not comfortable. The mitts were quite bearable for sleeping, the problem appeared only when I had to blow my nose and I couldn't grab anything normally 😉

          Renita You basically wear your belt whenever you want and have no problem to get rid of it.

          And I want it to stay that way.

          Renita May I ask you if you are dating anyone?

          No, I do not date anybody since I start wearing belt 'seriously'.

            youdontknowme Not impossible that they had them on hand in the first place, but using them on their daughter? shudders

            Maybe I'm dumb, but I don't understand something here. Do you allow drastic interference with sexual freedom by wearing chastity belts and at the same time you are outraged by a mild form of restraint? (similar measures are used even in children with skin diseases so that they do not scratch).

              Renita Instead thighbands, that should be used in this case.

              Exactly, I think the same.

              Sabina Do you allow drastic interference with sexual freedom by wearing chastity belts

              I do not support it, but I accept this under the premise of enthusiastic informed consent, provided the consideration of its potential use as a sex toy never played a significant role.

              My objection to the mittens is that they were imposed as a punishment (keyholder's impetus plus power dynamic casts doubt on consent) and that they were probably taken straight from a sex toy collection.

              I am also not a fan of things like thigh bands, which to me seem like they have a significant mobility impact for a relatively limited performance improvement in their stated purpose.

                Sabina And I want it to stay that way

                🤣 🤣 🤣

                Sabina similar measures are used even in children with skin diseases so that they do not scratch

                But your mittens were locked, weren't they?

                youdontknowme which to me seem like they have a significant mobility impact

                That's fine for night time

                  Sabina you were not stupid in confessing to your mother. She is reinforcing your willpower and I think you know to be grateful for it. Just as you know, deep down, you will only be thigh-banded if you deserve it.

                    Sabina And I want it to stay that way.

                    I think you will find more satisfaction as a belted girl to surrendering to high security and not allowing your own short-sighted desires undermine it. Your mother is going to considerable effort to secure you and you should respect it. Better to confess the need for security than to be caught demonstrating it!

                      Laura But your mittens were locked, weren't they?

                      Of course they were. If there were no padlocks, I could easily undo the buckles.

                      Saintprudence Just as you know, deep down, you will only be thigh-banded if you deserve it.

                      No way.

                      Saintprudence I think you will find more satisfaction as a belted girl to surrendering to high security and not allowing your own short-sighted desires undermine it. Your mother is going to considerable effort to secure you and you should respect it.

                      Neither I nor my mother want that much control and security. They are excessive and impractical.

                        Saintprudence

                        Other way the entire purpose is defeated.
                        In this point I agree entirely with you.

                        Renita Chastity should be stricter than BDSM.

                        Strongly agree. Enforced chastity isn't a game or even a lifestyle. It is a straightforward block on sex and masturbation.

                        Renita Your keys must be kept in safe you don't have an access to. Without exceptions

                        Yep, otherwise you can remove the belt and break chastity.

                        If you need to have the belt off, for example, for court, you must establish procedure of taking off and putting on the belt.

                        Yep, otherwise you can "forget to put the belt back on" and break chastity.

                        Obtain a high security belt that couldn't be cut by a pair of scissors.

                        Yep, otherwise you can break chastity whenever you like. You might as well just make a pinky-promise.

                        Use only chastity accessories for punishment.

                        Yep, BDSM is a different matter, the only thing that matters here is that chastity isn't broken. If mitts are considered a chastity appliance (and there're some here who do think this), then they should be bought especially for the purpose of chastity... at which point it becomes clear that bands are a first choice.

                        Saintprudence I think you will find more satisfaction as a belted girl to surrendering to high security and not allowing your own short-sighted desires undermine it.

                        Yep, higher security = greater acceptance and fewer episodes of belt fighting/frustration in my experience.

                          Sabina Of course they were. If there were no padlocks, I could easily undo the buckles.

                          That's the big difference between you and children

                          Sabina Do you allow drastic interference with sexual freedom by wearing chastity belts and at the same time you are outraged by a mild form of restraint?

                          You were locked for chastity in a non-chastity item

                          Sabina Neither I nor my mother want that much control and security.

                          if you demand the key will you get it?

                            Laura That's the big difference between you and children

                            If a child cannot take off such gloves or sleeves, then the situation is identical in my opinion.

                            Laura You were locked in a non-chastity item for chastity

                            This division is completly artificial for me. It reminds me a bit of kosher rules in Jewish cuisine. 😉

                            Laura if you demand the key will you get it?

                            Are you asking about everyday situations or giving up wearing a belt? Usually, when I have a legitimate need (doctor, internship, swimming pool, period), my mom takes my belt off without discussion. I can give up the belt at any time, and I don't think Mom will object strongly, but then she will never again hold the key.

                              Sabina This division is completly artificial for me. It reminds me a bit of kosher rules in Jewish cuisine

                              I'm just trying o explain why people thing that mittes were wrong. I personally don't see any issue with it. However if I was you mom I would do punishments in following sequence. Secondary shield, thighbands, chastity bra

                              Sabina Usually, when I have a legitimate need (doctor, internship, swimming pool, period), my mom takes my belt off without discussion. I can give up the belt at any time, and I don't think Mom will object strongly, but then she will never again hold the key.

                              Neither legitimate need, no give up. But like "I need the key by tonight 11pm" like here Damien . What would she do?

                                Laura Jonas I think @Renita should be a keyholder, rather than a wearer 😂

                                I think she should encourage her own mother to be so strict! 🤣

                                Laura Secondary shield, thighbands, chastity bra

                                Chastity bra is 'cruel and unusual punishment' 😉

                                Laura But like "I need the key by tonight 11pm" like here Damien . What would she do?

                                She would ask why I want the key. If the reason was valid, the belt would be removed. If not, she would refuse to take off belt. If I insisted on wanting the key, she'd probably tell me she could give it to me, but that would be the end of keyholding.