just for fun and interest, should i wear a belt after after the wedding?
Spork If you're new to this sort of dynamic, it can be helpful to let her know afterwards that you enjoyed it and that she did the right thing.
that's kind of it, i take a lot of responsibility when it comes to the things in our lives and i like it when she does too
youdontknowme Honestly, the impression I had of you was always that you liked the belt itself a lot more than the conditions under which you wore it
that's why i've never spoken out against wearing a chastity belt, only i never wanted to myself
Update:
i'm actually only writing an update to separate it from my answers. i'm now on the first metres of the target grade and locktober is coming to an end. i have my mouth and hands well under control, so no more bands. i'm really happy when i've made it and i'm a bit proud of myself and of course of my wife 
for the future i can say that i have had a positive experience with the belt, it helps me to conceal what the belt has demanded of me for several years. whether the belt will play a role in the future is still unclear
short update on "Locktober"
the last few days are running, I'm already counting the hours. Yesterday I didn't have myself under control for a moment, or rather my hands weren't under control, so I spent the evening writing lines and in the bands.
In general, I am grateful for the experience. I have now realised that you can have positive feelings about wearing a belt. I don't know what this means for the future yet. My wife and I will discuss this, as I have also discovered a new side of her that I really like. But first I will put the belt and the bra back in a box and have a normal sex life.
Angelina
Really great to have this experience, positive feelings, and that your wife has supported you so well. And all items, belt, bra, and thighbands with crotch chain are all used during this month. You must be proud you did it all during loctober (and liked it).
Angelina But first I will put the belt and the bra back in a box
Don't leave these too long in the box. NOvember is coming 
Angelina Yesterday I didn't have myself under control for a moment, or rather my hands weren't under control, so I spent the evening writing lines and in the bands.
Maybe besides the bands add an extra week in the belt and bra as well. Then you will have the opportunity to show you are a good girl now.
Padre Don't leave these too long in the box. NOvember is coming
Well, now the belt and the bra are packed away in a box again. I have to say it was a real relief this morning in many ways. Now we are enjoying our sex life again and we will have discussions about whether and how the belt might play a further role, but i don't want to go a whole month without an orgasm for now. 
Padre
I've heard it said that sometimes our kinks provide a safe way to face and process our fears, our pain, and our trauma.
If you believe this, there are no surprises here.
Padre September 26th, 2019 you wrote:
well, that was 5 years ago, i was in a completely different situation back then, that was the โhigh phaseโ of my chastity with permanently all devices and shortly before i met my current wife. i didn't know then how long i would have to endure all this, today i approach these things much more liberated
Tjc The more information we can all share, the better the forum becomes.
that's why i'm here to read and (if there's anything relevant) share experiences. of course i haven't had that many updates on the topic since my wedding, but if there's something exciting i'm happy to discuss it
Angelina my current wife
Ah, this use of English by non-native speakers always amuses me. "My current wife" strongly implies you're going to divorce her and get a new one at some point. You'd say "my now-wife" if you're talking about someone who is presently your wife but who was not at an earlier time, if you don't want to suggest that this is a temporary state of affairs.
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Spork If you explore Japanese language it kind of gets worse. (Two things literally translates to "love person" means completely different things!)
If you use ๆไบบ (pronounced "aijin"), which literally translates to "love person", it refers to "mistress" or "someone you have affairs with", implying that you are cheating on your partner. (Some non-Japanese people may use this to refer to partner, since ๆ means love so they may think it's a correct way to refer to their partner) The proper way to introduce someone you genuinely love in Japan is to use word ๆไบบ (pronounced "koibito"), which means similar but it is correct word to refer to your partner.
Angelina ell, now the belt and the bra are packed away in a box again. I have to say it was a real relief this morning in many ways. Now we are enjoying our sex life again and we will have discussions about whether and how the belt might play a further role, but i don't want to go a whole month without an orgasm for now.
Maybe give ir a rest for now but do it again next Locktober? Maybe so could your partner and you could enhance experience by both being naked at home whenever possible?
i am not particularly skilled in english rhetoric, i simply translated the german word โaktuelleโ 
Greatcornbow Maybe give ir a rest for now but do it again next Locktober?
It remains to be seen whether I will do the Locktober again, it's actually too long for me to do without orgasms for a whole month and it's too โfetish-connotedโ for me. I think if the belt plays a role, it has to fit into normal everyday life.
but we will see 
Padre After that month a nuclear explosion to release all that build up energy.
that's right, it took 6 days and it's still not over