• PollFemale
  • just for fun and interest, should i wear a belt after after the wedding?

Angelina Could it really be that I like it?

Your father used it for his own purposes, and it was not in line with your interests and needs. Now it was a shared experience between the two of you and has resulted in a different perspective. So it may well be that it can be an enrichment for your lives. After all, the CB is only a tool.

Angelina but the evening also showed me that my wife can enforce rules if they have been agreed beforehand

If you're new to this sort of dynamic, it can be helpful to let her know afterwards that you enjoyed it and that she did the right thing.

    Angelina Could it really be that I like it?

    Honestly, the impression I had of you was always that you liked the belt itself a lot more than the conditions under which you wore it

      Angelina i also wore the bands again for the first time.

      Locktober would not be complete without those bands. Now you scored the whole menu. 😁

      Angelina Could it really be that I like it?

      I think what you like is that your wife is holding the keys now. And I think you may also be considering ways that the belt can enhance your relationship.
      Something along the lines of you won’t get out unless she’s satisfied beforehand or something like that

      Angelina Could it really be that I like it?

      It could be that you like the close connection and inter-dependency with someone you love (not that you didn't love your father), who wants to support your interest and your mutual exploration.

      Spork If you're new to this sort of dynamic, it can be helpful to let her know afterwards that you enjoyed it and that she did the right thing.

      that's kind of it, i take a lot of responsibility when it comes to the things in our lives and i like it when she does too

      youdontknowme Honestly, the impression I had of you was always that you liked the belt itself a lot more than the conditions under which you wore it

      that's why i've never spoken out against wearing a chastity belt, only i never wanted to myself

      Update:
      i'm actually only writing an update to separate it from my answers. i'm now on the first metres of the target grade and locktober is coming to an end. i have my mouth and hands well under control, so no more bands. i'm really happy when i've made it and i'm a bit proud of myself and of course of my wife πŸ™‚
      for the future i can say that i have had a positive experience with the belt, it helps me to conceal what the belt has demanded of me for several years. whether the belt will play a role in the future is still unclear

      6 days later

      short update on "Locktober"

      the last few days are running, I'm already counting the hours. Yesterday I didn't have myself under control for a moment, or rather my hands weren't under control, so I spent the evening writing lines and in the bands.
      In general, I am grateful for the experience. I have now realised that you can have positive feelings about wearing a belt. I don't know what this means for the future yet. My wife and I will discuss this, as I have also discovered a new side of her that I really like. But first I will put the belt and the bra back in a box and have a normal sex life. πŸ™‚

        Angelina as I have also discovered a new side of her that I really like

        That's a wonderful outcome. Hopefully you find more ways of exploring this before next October πŸ˜†

        Angelina Happy you’re discovering new things in your relationship and beginning to have positive feelings about your belt now that you’re in control of the dynamic

        Angelina
        Really great to have this experience, positive feelings, and that your wife has supported you so well. And all items, belt, bra, and thighbands with crotch chain are all used during this month. You must be proud you did it all during loctober (and liked it).

        Angelina But first I will put the belt and the bra back in a box

        Don't leave these too long in the box. NOvember is coming πŸ˜†

          Angelina Yesterday I didn't have myself under control for a moment, or rather my hands weren't under control, so I spent the evening writing lines and in the bands.

          Maybe besides the bands add an extra week in the belt and bra as well. Then you will have the opportunity to show you are a good girl now. πŸ˜†

          Padre Don't leave these too long in the box. NOvember is coming πŸ˜†

          Well, now the belt and the bra are packed away in a box again. I have to say it was a real relief this morning in many ways. Now we are enjoying our sex life again and we will have discussions about whether and how the belt might play a further role, but i don't want to go a whole month without an orgasm for now. πŸ˜ƒ

            Angelina
            September 26th, 2019 you wrote:

            Angelina short answer : no, never when i get married my time in chastity is over

            And now you successfully did loktober and you and your wife enjoyed it. How an opinion can change over time πŸ˜†
            Well done by the way. πŸ˜„

              Padre All a matter of perspective really. One way we hate something another way we enjoy it

              Padre
              I've heard it said that sometimes our kinks provide a safe way to face and process our fears, our pain, and our trauma.

              If you believe this, there are no surprises here.

              Angelina I am glad you and your wife did Locktober and that it went well. It seems like you learned things about yourself and about the belt experience. Thank you for sharing your experience here. The more information we can all share, the better the forum becomes.

                Padre September 26th, 2019 you wrote:

                well, that was 5 years ago, i was in a completely different situation back then, that was the β€˜high phase’ of my chastity with permanently all devices and shortly before i met my current wife. i didn't know then how long i would have to endure all this, today i approach these things much more liberated

                Tjc The more information we can all share, the better the forum becomes.

                that's why i'm here to read and (if there's anything relevant) share experiences. of course i haven't had that many updates on the topic since my wedding, but if there's something exciting i'm happy to discuss it πŸ™‚