• PollFemale
  • just for fun and interest, should i wear a belt after after the wedding?

Angelina Could it really be that I like it?

Honestly, the impression I had of you was always that you liked the belt itself a lot more than the conditions under which you wore it

    Angelina i also wore the bands again for the first time.

    Locktober would not be complete without those bands. Now you scored the whole menu. ๐Ÿ˜

    Angelina Could it really be that I like it?

    I think what you like is that your wife is holding the keys now. And I think you may also be considering ways that the belt can enhance your relationship.
    Something along the lines of you wonโ€™t get out unless sheโ€™s satisfied beforehand or something like that

    Angelina Could it really be that I like it?

    It could be that you like the close connection and inter-dependency with someone you love (not that you didn't love your father), who wants to support your interest and your mutual exploration.

    Spork If you're new to this sort of dynamic, it can be helpful to let her know afterwards that you enjoyed it and that she did the right thing.

    that's kind of it, i take a lot of responsibility when it comes to the things in our lives and i like it when she does too

    youdontknowme Honestly, the impression I had of you was always that you liked the belt itself a lot more than the conditions under which you wore it

    that's why i've never spoken out against wearing a chastity belt, only i never wanted to myself

    Update:
    i'm actually only writing an update to separate it from my answers. i'm now on the first metres of the target grade and locktober is coming to an end. i have my mouth and hands well under control, so no more bands. i'm really happy when i've made it and i'm a bit proud of myself and of course of my wife ๐Ÿ™‚
    for the future i can say that i have had a positive experience with the belt, it helps me to conceal what the belt has demanded of me for several years. whether the belt will play a role in the future is still unclear

    6 days later

    short update on "Locktober"

    the last few days are running, I'm already counting the hours. Yesterday I didn't have myself under control for a moment, or rather my hands weren't under control, so I spent the evening writing lines and in the bands.
    In general, I am grateful for the experience. I have now realised that you can have positive feelings about wearing a belt. I don't know what this means for the future yet. My wife and I will discuss this, as I have also discovered a new side of her that I really like. But first I will put the belt and the bra back in a box and have a normal sex life. ๐Ÿ™‚

      Angelina as I have also discovered a new side of her that I really like

      That's a wonderful outcome. Hopefully you find more ways of exploring this before next October ๐Ÿ˜†

      Angelina Happy youโ€™re discovering new things in your relationship and beginning to have positive feelings about your belt now that youโ€™re in control of the dynamic

      Angelina
      Really great to have this experience, positive feelings, and that your wife has supported you so well. And all items, belt, bra, and thighbands with crotch chain are all used during this month. You must be proud you did it all during loctober (and liked it).

      Angelina But first I will put the belt and the bra back in a box

      Don't leave these too long in the box. NOvember is coming ๐Ÿ˜†

        Angelina Yesterday I didn't have myself under control for a moment, or rather my hands weren't under control, so I spent the evening writing lines and in the bands.

        Maybe besides the bands add an extra week in the belt and bra as well. Then you will have the opportunity to show you are a good girl now. ๐Ÿ˜†

        Padre Don't leave these too long in the box. NOvember is coming ๐Ÿ˜†

        Well, now the belt and the bra are packed away in a box again. I have to say it was a real relief this morning in many ways. Now we are enjoying our sex life again and we will have discussions about whether and how the belt might play a further role, but i don't want to go a whole month without an orgasm for now. ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

          Angelina
          September 26th, 2019 you wrote:

          Angelina short answer : no, never when i get married my time in chastity is over

          And now you successfully did loktober and you and your wife enjoyed it. How an opinion can change over time ๐Ÿ˜†
          Well done by the way. ๐Ÿ˜„

            Padre All a matter of perspective really. One way we hate something another way we enjoy it

            Padre
            I've heard it said that sometimes our kinks provide a safe way to face and process our fears, our pain, and our trauma.

            If you believe this, there are no surprises here.

            Angelina I am glad you and your wife did Locktober and that it went well. It seems like you learned things about yourself and about the belt experience. Thank you for sharing your experience here. The more information we can all share, the better the forum becomes.

              Padre September 26th, 2019 you wrote:

              well, that was 5 years ago, i was in a completely different situation back then, that was the โ€˜high phaseโ€™ of my chastity with permanently all devices and shortly before i met my current wife. i didn't know then how long i would have to endure all this, today i approach these things much more liberated

              Tjc The more information we can all share, the better the forum becomes.

              that's why i'm here to read and (if there's anything relevant) share experiences. of course i haven't had that many updates on the topic since my wedding, but if there's something exciting i'm happy to discuss it ๐Ÿ™‚

                Angelina my current wife

                Ah, this use of English by non-native speakers always amuses me. "My current wife" strongly implies you're going to divorce her and get a new one at some point. You'd say "my now-wife" if you're talking about someone who is presently your wife but who was not at an earlier time, if you don't want to suggest that this is a temporary state of affairs.

                  Spork If you explore Japanese language it kind of gets worse. (Two things literally translates to "love person" means completely different things!)

                  If you use ๆ„›ไบบ (pronounced "aijin"), which literally translates to "love person", it refers to "mistress" or "someone you have affairs with", implying that you are cheating on your partner. (Some non-Japanese people may use this to refer to partner, since ๆ„› means love so they may think it's a correct way to refer to their partner) The proper way to introduce someone you genuinely love in Japan is to use word ๆ‹ไบบ (pronounced "koibito"), which means similar but it is correct word to refer to your partner.