Damien Angelina, sometimes I feel you'll lock your belt back on to rescue this forum^
it would at least be a nice side effect π
youdontknowme Set a minimum that is well on the frustrated side (though still somewhat bearable), but give her the opportunity to grant you more if she wants to.
we are currently discussing something exactly like this, good idea π
youdontknowme Sorta wondering if at any time in the foreseeable future, a new belt might be in the cards for Camryn, though.
Spork As someone in a relationship where we both have belts, I highly recommend considering this. Lots of scope for fun.
that won't happen, for one thing camryn has no interest in wearing a belt and for another i don't think it's good for the dynamic. i think from the moment camryn wears a belt i couldn't wear one anymore, because from my point of view there has to be a clear division of roles between wearer and keyholder so that no blackmail (if you don't let me out, i won't let you out either) happens
Tjc "me time" while showering, whether it is permitted, limited, or forbidden all together.
so officially we have now agreed that my showers will be supervised, but that i can shower myself. of course we generally shower together a lot too π
@curious @Kaja
please don't argue, the whole thing should be fun to discuss π
my wife and i are currently discussing a lot about how detailed these rules should be. On the one hand, I want to give her the freedom she needs to be able to fulfil this βposition of powerβ. She should have control and of course that's not possible if she has no flexibility to react to situations. I love her and trust her enough to be sure that she is acting in my best interests. But certain rules have to be clear, because it reassures my wife that there is consensus from me and she knows that everything she decides within these rules has been approved by me
Update:
I think by the end of the week there will be a provisional plan that gives a structure, then it will be a matter of the details and possible changes. We have agreed on a trial period, within the first 6 months each of us can quit, after that it is only possible with a βcancellation periodβ. There will also only be a safeword during these first 6 months that ends everything immediately, after that I trust that my wife will recognise when I have to leave βimmediatelyβ.
we are still discussing and planning a lot, because there is one thing i want to avoid at all costs. i don't want us to have to cancel because things weren't clear beforehand and there are arguments about it, that would just be naive