milkymilo in our family is it common that girls and women's usually wear belts. But nobody is forced, everybody feel and accept it like standart and normal.
Yes Neosteel belts are nice. Maybe more hard or heavy than yours but nice simple effective.
We can talk here or you can write me on my email chastegirl@tutanota.com

    milkymilo no not really, guess you do not know what you are missing if you have not had it before

    Does it means you did not explore your own sexuality and you don't know how an orgasm feels?
    If yes, you will not miss it so much.
    I suppose your sex drive is low and this makes is easier to handle.

    You have sheep on the farm, which I think is common. Do you also cultivate fields with the usual crops such as maize, cereals, sunflowers or rape? Or do you have bees and produce honey?
    What many farmers here do is build large solar panels and generate electricity. This was subsidised by the state. How is that with you?

        Joh I have experienced orgasms yes I am shamed to say. They were pleasurable at the time but felt guilt and shame afterwards. And I think the later outweigh the pleasure s with the belt on at least I cannot have the temptation

        Sex drive is low I suppose as at 19, I have not had intercourse but have kissed and performed oral pleasure on both a guy and a girl so rather limited experience. But maybe I am just fussy about who I like and am attracted to.

        The farm is a high station farm and has sheep predominantly. But we also have a bed and breakfast attached and do farmstays. There is also a free range poultry setup and a few angus beef cattle

        My uncle does have a few solar panels on the farm stay accommodation as ecotourism is quite big here. Most the power is line fed for the house and sheds and there is an only diesel generator that been there for years as a backup if the lines go down in a storm or something which has happened over the years. There are a few smaller generators as well we can take up to the old shepherd huts in the hills

        The house is relatively new so well insulated compared to the old house. Most the heating is a wood stove and heat pumps, but if power goes out the wood stove is enough and if not bring out the big sweaters

            milkymilo They were pleasurable at the time but felt guilt and shame afterwards

            Exploring your body is helpful and healthy, no reason to feel shame or guilt. Take that from a keyholder and chastity enthusiast^.
            I think your current regime should include regular time for self care. Maybe every four weeks with your period? Most belted ladies take a break for a few days then, because who needs additional obstacles at that time of the month?

                Damien it was something I also struggled to achieve. Sometimes just would not happen either. Not that I did every try that much.

                How do you mean self care ?

                    milkymilo I think she meant not going out the way to hide it and if people see to say it is an antirape and virtue protection chastity belt.

                    Therefore you can wear your belt openly and don't need to hide. At least at the farm.

                        Laura yes that is true, would make life a lot easier that is for sure as trying to hide it is the biggest effort

                          milkymilo Me-time, privacy, time alone, for your body and soul, with no restrictions. And of course, no goals or achievements to be won. Stretch in the bathtub and reread your favourite novel, or try out mail ordered sex toys, no rules and constraints for a limited time, just once a month.

                              Damien I do not think they will agree with that. masturbation is not something they approve of

                              If I need a break from the belt we have a cable belt as well so that allows move flexibility. Not as secure but still does the job

                                  Damien as for the me time I get plenty of that as they do not treat me or work me as a slave lol. I have plenty of down time to chill and relax, just belted

                                    milkymilo I'm sure they don't particularly approve of that freedom, but that needs not be the most important consideration. I have given you unsolicited advice, mansplained, and I'll stop it right now. Enjoy your sunday Kaitlyn!

                                        Damien all advise is welcomed as there are so many interesting pathways and thoughts on the lifestyle

                                          milkymilo yes I agree with the emergency key and I have one. It is in a plastic tube with a security seal on it so I cannot use the keu without ripping that off.

                                          I would have opened it right away 😃

                                          milkymilo Are there bettter options for an emergency key ? I am hear to learn as much as I can from other

                                          Mine is in mom's safe. I always have to ask her to unlock the belt.

                                          milkymilo I was not alone in this as my cousin was also belted for 10 years until she recently got married.

                                          Did she live on the farm all the time?

                                                  Renita lol but that would be dishonest of me and breaking the rules.

                                                  That is where the normal key is for actual use. The emergency key is just in case I am injured or unwell.

                                                  Yes she was living on the farm when in chastity

                                                      milkymilo The emergency key is just in case I am injured or unwell.

                                                      Or if you need the belt off hard 😃

                                                      milkymilo Yes she was living on the farm when in chastity

                                                      Then where did she meet her future husband?

                                                            Renita haha well not at that stage of needing it hard off yet but never know in time

                                                            they met at school and were friends then. He was in the army for a few years and returned home and new job and they met when she was in town again and started from there

                                                                milkymilo I suppose if people knew it stops question on why am I not dating etc

                                                                Why does a chastity belt answer this question? It doesn't prevent dating at all.

                                                                milkymilo Sex drive is low I suppose as at 19, I have not had intercourse

                                                                What was your reason for this?

                                                                milkymilo and performed oral pleasure on both a guy and a gir

                                                                Being belted?

                                                                        Laura no idea why the drive is low, sex is not just really on the radar I suppose or that I just really need to be into someone to want to date them and no come across that person as of yet

                                                                          Hello Kaitlyn, I'm happy to see someone new on this forum sharing their experiences. Welcome!

                                                                          milkymilo I have experienced orgasms yes I am shamed to say. They were pleasurable at the time but felt guilt and shame afterwards.

                                                                          In my experience, feeling guilt and shame doesn't stop most people. But these feelings probably make it easier for you to accept the belt.
                                                                          Do you happen to know how it was for your cousin? Did you talk about it? Her having been belted rather young, and for a considerable time (without breaks, I guess) it's likely she had issues with feeling sexual need at times. How did she cope?

                                                                          Also, I would be interested to hear how long it took you to get used to the belt, ie. from the first wearing attempts to being locked 24/7.

                                                                              Marder thank you for the welcome. Yes I think you are right as the guilt didn't stop me not that was prolific at it more curiosity but does make being in chastity easier

                                                                              funny enough my cousin has been visiting this weekend with her husband as they cam for a bbq and we were talking a lot about the chastity. She is also wearing the belt now and only removed when her husband wants her to be of wifey usage should we say. As they are still newly married that is probably quite a lot still lol

                                                                              She was belted at 17 as my aunt and uncle were worried about temptation for her as there were a few early pregnancies amongst her peer group. So the got her a belt and yeas she was belted for 10 years. She was saying that the key to avoiding frustration was to stay busy and occupied. She is really into horses so that takes a lot of energy and focus. She did confess she had a vibrator that she could use over the shield and get some pleasure and on occasion did orgasm and on the tractor with the vibration lol

                                                                              as for my chastity we started with my cousins older fancy streel cable belt. She got it years ago and thought I would be better for her but was not. That sort of got me used to wearing something different to regular undies. It did cause a bit of chaffing etc at first but with a few adjustments it was ok. Thats where we learnt the anal rings were not a great idea for me anyway. So when the other belt arrived we had already figured out shield placement for effectiveness and comfort so were able to set the new belt up. I was able to swap between the two belts until I was able to go 24/7. I did have to take the plunge to take some discomfort...not in the painful way but more annoyance

                                                                              and that was my choice. One time after some time in the new belt and my aunty offered to swap me back I actually asked if I can remain in this one and so I did. I found it was the best way to get used to it. Keep an eye on any rub points. Thankfully my uncle is quite handy and a bit of a craftsman so was able to polish a few sharp edges and bend into shape..all under my aunties supervision so nothing untoward as obviously would need to be near intimate places