Been gone a while

Vanessa It is a lot of measures to avoid doing it anymore!

Some of the stuff makes sense though. I see girls taking massages after sports and the guy runs his hand all the way up in between your legs so he's two inches and a thin piece of cloth from touching your genitals. That doesn't help you remain chaste. Or going out to bars and getting half drunk. No wonder things happen.

Vanessa You do it to get the benefits,mainly(better grades,better at running,etc...)?

Yes and it's working with my grades and my running, I have actual proof with test results and running times. Plus it feels good to know that when I do have a guy I will be able to give him something nobody else had had, at least for a whle.

Vanessa Until married or for a set duration?

I know I won't last 'til I'm married. That could be half a dozen years. But I'd like to stay away from too much masturbation and hold out for a guy I really am serious about.

Jonas This is what I've found too... the belt is only a part of it. Successful chastity, long term, needs lots of things to be in place, not just a belt.

Definitely what I've found, it's a lifestyle. I've benefitted by reading some of the nofap stuff and no nut November. You need to set yourself up to succeed. I don't know what will happen to me next summer.

Vanessa And they can't influence it,but make the relationship difficult to keep enough(not allowed to meet,going back straight home,rarely allowed to go out unsupervised,checking regularly my phone,etc...)to make it fail.Specially as it is the start of the relationship,so still not very strong.

that's true, but it's not always the case. i fell in love with camryn when we were just video chatting and after the first date i would have already fought extremely for the relationship. i just don't think that's right.

Vanessa Yes,but,when she was trying to wear it more often,do you opened it yourself sometimes?And especially the last time it was opened?

the belt was never in my possession, either camryn had worn it or it was at her home

carg You could of course decide not to answer every post (except mine, obviously )

i don't answer every post but when there are over 200 new posts in the forum like today and i only answer half of them then ....uff already almost 2 hours (luckily i have a lot of time today)

Laura Why not? If you wear your belt all the time

I'm going to do this honestly (if I can). I'm willing to accept some help, like cold showers or leaving the door open so I can't masturbate and maybe even wearing the belt and locking the key in a block of ice but I have shown myself I can do difficult things and this is just one more. Needing a belt to do it I consider a sign of weakness in me, though not in others. Judge not least ye also ....

Avery Needing a belt to do it I consider a sign of weakness in me,

I see it in the same way. The belt can help in some situation but it is not the solution. The solution is to control yourself.

Avery I'm willing to accept some help, like cold showers or leaving the door open so I can't masturbate

But how about relationships?

Laura But how about relationships?

In which way do you mean a relationship could help?
As far as I understand @Avery she will keep her cast until she found the right partner.

Laura But how about relationships?

I said in the Age To Begin thread "I want on my own to keep myself clean so when I meet a guy I really want I can give him something that's worth giving away." I have no objection to f-ing the right guy at the right time.

Joh As far as I understand @Avery she will keep her cast until she found the right partner.

Yup.

Joh Nice. Is open to everyone which letters a missing

It's interesting finding out what words in what languages can be used and where. E.g. I heard a commentator from the United Kingdom on a US TV station talking about words like bloody, wind, shagging, words that don't exist in the US version of English (well, wind does but it means something totally different in the UK). I don't remember what he said but some words can be used on the telly and some can't. Lots of people use the word I represented as f---ing but you can't say it on TV and I would never say it in front of my father. Shagging I could use. Also, I can say boobs and he doesn't mind but beware of tits.

Avery Also, I can say boobs and he doesn't mind but beware of tits.

I am just imagining a sign with tiny little birds with black head, blue wings and a yellow-green body, and beneath that the warning "beware of tits".

But of course, we know that not just tits are birds, but also boobies. And cocks.

Seems there is a reason we talk about the birds and the bees. Maybe it should be the birds and the cats instead, though.

youdontknowme But of course, we know that not just tits are birds, but also boobies. And cocks

In 2005 there was a man named Anthony Weiner who ran for mayor of New York City. Weiner can mean hot dog or penis in US slang. Supposedly all the TV announcers were rooting for him because then for four years they could say weiner on the air.

Avery It is interesting, especially if you are not a native speaker.
Bloody, I heard the first time in Australia and I don't know in which context it is used and what it really mean. I only know it not in a nice context.
f--ing in your sentence mean finding Didn't you?

Avery Needing a belt to do it I consider a sign of weakness in me, though not in others.

I consider excessive masturbation, my own problem, to be a major weakness within me, but I consider the belt to be a solution. The belt is a part of me. Whether this now makes me some sort of cyborg I don't know!

Joh f--ing in your sentence mean finding Didn't you?

That would do nicely. I think I'm going to start saying shagging. I like that word. We have a lot of time off this week. Someone to shag would come in handy.

Jonas I consider excessive masturbation, my own problem, to be a major weakness within me, but I consider the belt to be a solution.

Well it's definitely a tool. Whether it's the best long-term solution is a fuzzy.

Avery Weiner can mean hot dog or penis in US slang.

Only because you cannot distinguish Weiner (someone who cries) from Wiener (from Vienna). Still mildly irritated by the fact that Wienerschnitzel serves hot dogs, rather than Wiener Schnitzel, by the way.

But yeah, wiener puns are great. Though wieners are a bit too thin to really be a good stand-in for a penis. Much better to use a kielbasa. A Polish sausage for those that currently don't polish their sausage.