I need your advice
i would say yes, but only in some time. you two should first meet in person and see if there can be a future together, if the trust is strong enough you should tell her. so currently no, but in the future yes
Kris Yes she know that, but didn't said if she likes it too. So its more a risk to tell her
just ask her without mentioning your own belt
I agree with not telling her before you haven't met her in person and the idea of bringing up the topic without mentioning your situation is a good idea, too.
However, I would say you shouldn't wait too long before you tell her because when there is a connection or even a relationship evolving she might feel upset (rightfully so in my opinion) to find out that you have been hiding some
important information about you.
Additionally she might not like that fact that a keyholder is involved in your relationship (even if there is nothing sexual
between you and your keyholder) and that a keyholder interferes with you she would like to live out sexuality with you.
Have you thought about how you would handle that and or did you make clear rules with your keyholder for a situation
like that? Are you still fine with these rules then?
Michael did you make clear rules with your keyholder for a situation
We wrote rules down in the contract, yes.
Update: I told my keyholder the advice I got here in the forum and she said, she will see how it develops and she wants a trial to find out, if the girl takes it serious. But did not say what will happen, when its not the case
Kris I signed it and I have to obey these rules, even if I dont't like all of them.
Just to understand this correctly, I hope you did sign it willingly and when you signed it did like all the rules or could
accept that they were neccesary?
In general I think the whole topic is interesting because whoever has a keyholder might get to the point where he or
she wants to get engaged with another person. Then the question is how this conflict can be solved.
I hope you won't have to face the unpleasent situation to make a decision for or against one person.
Kris Yes I am. I signed it and I have to obey these rules, even if I dont't like all of them. Maybe I will write more whats in the contract later
that makes it a bit more difficult if this relationship will be successful. i don't think she will accept it in the long run if someone restricts your and therefore also her sexuality.
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Michael you did sign it willingly
Yes, I did!
Angelina Yes, but I have no other option
Michael accept that they were neccesary?
I don't have the key, so I have to accept the rules.
Michael decision for or against one person
No, she already said, that nothing will change, when I got engaged with a girl.
Kris No, she already said, that nothing will change, when I got engaged with a girl.
I assume you mean regar ding the rules and not regarding that the new girl might get the keys or you might get released entirely?
Kris I don't have the key, so I have to accept the rules.
Is this still ok for you even if you wish to start a relationship with another girl?
What would happen if you wanted to get rid of your belt because you are no longer happy with your keyholder?
Joh what Iβm sort of reading between the lines with Kris is a viewpoint similar to my own: he doesnβt REALLY have to accept the ultimately self-imposed rules, but he prefers to FEEL that he has to.
Joh It was my wish to be belted and we both defined the rules. Don't worry
Saintprudence Exactly And my keyholder is doing a veeeeery good job and I love her
Kris Exactly
And my keyholder is doing a veeeeery good job and I love her
You are fortunate indeed to be a chastity devotee with a key holder who takes the job seriously!
Saintprudence Yes, she is a bit more than a keyholder, but that is nothing to write here in the forum. If anybody wants to talk more of the other stuff, its better to write via Mail
Kris Iβve been around the block a few times. I get your meaning .
Kris Yes, but I have no other option
then that is only possible if your partner would accept it. or a key holder exchange? sorry but i am just imagining the situation from the point of view of your potential partner, not simple
Kris It was my wish to be belted and we both defined the rules. Don't worry
and was there also a special rule in case you found a partner?
Joh When you love her why are you searching for a GF
To be honest, I'm really asking myself this question @Kris?